I realised that my Seramance might not work when the first words out her mouth was 'aaaaaaaaand, you're an elf. Hope you're not too elfy.'
My Lavellan got Sera to agree to think about dating her when Solas' Fade date happened. Didn't look back, even after the heartbreak. (I'd alway planned to romance Solas. I just wasn't expecting him to be my canon romance. I thought that would Sera.)
I had a similar reaction.
When I first played DAI, I went Dalish and planned to romance Sera or Solas. I'd heard that both of them weren't that into elves (Sera being "not your typical elf" and Solas wanting to prove "he's not just another elf"), but I was willing to give them the benefit of the doubt, and resolved to go with the first one I fell for and/or the one who seemed to dislike elves less. My Lavellan fell fast and hard for Solas, but I resolved not to deepen the romance until I met Sera. The moment she looked at my Lavellan, dropped her friendly disposition and frowned, "Aaaand you're an elf. Great. Well, you're not too elfy, are you?" My eyes bugged out and I thought, "WOW... Okay, Solas wins. By a landslide."
I absolutely adored the way this game tore down everything we thought we knew about Dalish beliefs. That they were unreliable narrators for their own mythologies just really fascinated me and, I think, really gives us a lot of space for character development along that predominant theme of faith and belief.
The fact that the Dalish themselves fully admit that they know very little about their past, are trying to recover it piece by piece (usually by examining old ruins), and fully admit that what little they know is based on stories and legends ("It is said that Fen'Harel locked the Creators away") didn't give you a hint that their beliefs aren't the Gospel Truth BEFORE the revelations in DAI?
Merrill: Your "Maker" is a story you humans use to explain the world. We have our own stories. I don't need to borrow yours.
I'm not like 'uber-Dalish' but at the same time, they did the best with what they had. After this game and the DLC I'm just glad ALL sides - humans and elves - came off looking ridiculous. Both are intractable in their belief systems and it has done nothing...NOTHING...but cause problems for both sides.
I agree. I really don't understand why devs and fellow players alike act like the revelations on elven history in DAI are supposed to be shocking, or prove how "wrong" or "foolish" the Dalish are. "OMG, the Dalish believed X but it turned out Y happened! They were so wrong/Their lives are a lie!" And I'm just sitting here thinking, "What? This is not news. The Dalish never claimed their beliefs were 100% stone hard correct. They just claimed this is what they believe based on the information they have at the time, and they would rather stick to their own beliefs and lifestyle rather than the ones that humans try to shove down their throats. (Conversion to Andrasteism and moving to the Alienages and whatnot.) They also claim they want to rediscover their lost history and lore, and this is part of it."
And like you said, they did the best with what they had. EVERY Thedas religion and culture is shown to be an unreliable narrator of their own history and beliefs, yet when Andrastians or Dwarves are shown to be incorrect no one bats an eye, whereas when Dalish are shown to be incorrect everyone jumps at the chance to tear them down for being "wrong" or "foolish."