I like Sera. Does she rub me the wrong way on occasion? Yes. Do I sometimes feel as if I'm mothering a child in a woman's body? Yes. Does she make me want to rip my hair out by the roots with some of her actions and antics? Oh yes. But those aspects of her personality are actually what help reinforce my liking her. I'm a glass half full kind of girl, so I tend to hone in on a characteristic I'm drawn to in a character, embrace that, and gradually work through coming to terms with what I don't like. I don't become attached to characters who shower me in adoration solely. Conflict is necessary to make me care, as odd as that may sound. With Vivienne, it's are hot and cold beliefs on mages and templars. She's on one end the spectrum, I'm on the other. But I like her, too, because of that. I'm able to find a middle ground with her, and that's enough of a foundation to help us be on friendly terms. I can't claim to wholly trust her, but I feel like that's a given with Vivienne. You can like her well enough, be on warm and friendly terms, but she still plays her cards close to her chest. I like that. It's a fascinating experience, liking someone but being unable to trust them.
Sera reminds me of one of my younger sisters, so that plays into it. I don't mind mothering people. As a matter of fact, I love it. Mothering is a personality trait of mine; an instinct. Sera is like an obnoxious little sister who I snap it regularly, clash with, but ultimately love.
The same can also be said for Solas. I can't play a complete kiss-ass playthrough with him. It's unrealistic, and frankly, it burrows under my skin to the point that I, forget hair, want to rip my skin off. That's why we clash a bit at the start. I may not agree in an entirety with the Dalish; my girl has her problems with them, and will admit to their shortcomings, but they're her people. They're her family, her friends, and her loved ones. She's not going to allow attraction to make her submissive; she's not going to allow Solas to remain on his high horse and ridicule them freely, no matter how much he may have a right to it. This, I think, makes their relationship more realistic and believable. Now matter how much you agree with someone, see eye-to-eye, and understand, you're going to disagree on something. You're going to clash at some point, but I think that holds the potential to bring you closer. Goody-goody submissiveness doesn't. For me, at least.
That's my perspective, though, and in no way the right one for everyone. Everyone feels differently, owns contrasting opinions and perspectives. and that's awesome. Something else is right for them, while this is right for me.
Late to the party, I know. Sorry about that.