In my very un-popular opinion, I actually don't find the whole broken fairytale romance of Dread Wolf/Elf the most compelling part of the romance. We don't find out until the end, so you end up applying that knowledge to the feelings that you had for his character prior to that. I find him attractive because he confident, charming, intelligent, and kind. He's also got a host of flaws that make it fun to argue with him about and dissect. If and when the time comes for him to tell you the truth, my Lavellan is going to just be like 'ok..but that's a story and i know solas. you're still the same? yes? if you are then those are just neat stories told about you like people have about me...the inquisitor. they are meaningless to me.' It's something I'm sure she'd joke with him about, but in the end that's not who he is. Much like the Dalish aren't just their myths and their history.
I love this, but I don't know how my girl is going to handle it. On the one hand, yes, the Dalish are more than their myths and history, but on the other until the whole ordeal with the vallaslin she very much believed in the Elven Gods being as real as Cassandra believes the Maker is, after that point she starts to lose faith in it and truly wonder about who they were, taking what Solas says about his belief that they were more powerful nobles than anything else into consideration.
Then, she finds out he's Fen'Harel, someone who she's spent her whole childhood and much of the Dalish's history being portrayed as a trickster, a liar. At the very least, my girl's gut reaction is that Solas tricked her all along, and to distrust him, but I guess it also boils down to how she finds out, and what other information we have at the time. For now, all her knowledge that the Elven Gods weren't what they seemed came from Solas - if she has other proof at the time, then she may react differently.
It's so hard trying to not put my feelings into my girl. xD