He ends their romance at the most unexpected moment and we know through banter with Cole that she can't help but to think that it's because something's wrong with her. And why shouldn't she? Solas at first tells her that she matters to him and deserves to know the truth.... only to decide that she doesn't even deserve to know why he left her. That's a pretty bad punch into girl's self-esteem right there.
He exacerbates it by telling her later that they have more important things to do and seems to treat her like a child, rather than respected adult he apparently had her for till the breakup - no matter how strong psychologically Lavellan is, I'm surprised we don't hear her heart crack loudly right then and there.
Even worse, he promises her that she'll find out what that was all about after fight with Corypheus... only to disappear right after the fight's done. He assures her that what they had was real, true, but like I said - it will just make it harder for her to get over him and smells awfully like playing with her feelings, especially if (as we know through Cole) Solas likely doesn't expect to come back or involve anyone he met along the way into whatever he's supposed to do from now on.
IMO Lavellan has the right to feel used and emotionally abused. It'll be even worse if she finds out who he is.
Wasn't the point of him leaving her because he decided he couldn't tell her the truth without wrecking his mission? He ended the relationship because he didn't want to lie to her or drag her into his mess. If he'd told her why he broke up with her, that would make the entirety of him breaking up with her pointless, would it not? And hell, Solas can't even lie and say it's because he doesn't want to be with her because that isn't true. For someone who withholds a lot of information, Solas sure doesn't like outright lying. It's pretty funny.
He's not treating her like a child, in my eyes. He's trying to be cold so she lets him go quicker. He's trying to break attachment any way he can at that moment. It's not his best moment but Solas' emotional intelligence isn't always on point.
As for the point of him promising her, I see this a lot but when did he ever promise her anything? If I recall correctly, he says "all will be clear" or something along those lines. Which possibly may have been the case had the orb not broken. There was never any "I promise, Lavellan, I will sit you down and tell you all about me, my past, and why we can't be together" or anything I perceived as close to it. Heck, I'm of a mind that he was just going to grab that orb and take off. That would have made a few things clear immediately!
The last point I can see as making Lavellan upset, but keep in mind that Solas is only "human". This is just as hard, if not harder, for him than it is for her. I highly doubt he said it to purposefully play with her feelings. What would be the point of that and what would that gain him? It's already been confirmed by Weekes himself that Solas is not intending to manipulate his romanced Lavellan and actually does love her.
Not that it isn't valid to be upset at Solas for the romance and one can have their Lavellan feel about it however they wish. These are just some counterpoints to what I disagree with personally in your arguments! I will say that I as a player just don't see the emotionally and mentally abusive elements in this romance that some people say there are (mostly not here, again) and I think "abusive" is being thrown around WAY too willy nilly in this fandom in general considering its very serious connotations and a lot of people's personal experiences. Lavellan entered into nothing she didn't want to. In fact, she was much more the instigator and the one who pushes the romance further while Solas hesitates at every turn. That was the point. Nothing happens without our say-so except Solas breaking up with us at the end, which was within his character's agency to do even if we may not like it.





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