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[Vlk3]

Oh, sorry if it sounded like I meant that I think she has to be seeing other people to be 'moved on'; that's not what I meant to convey at all. I've just come across a lot of content that was seriously acting as though the breakup didn't/couldn't occur solely because he still loves her, or because he didn't explain why, and so on (and creators who agreed with this position). And that I find legit creepy.

 

He revokes consent to be in an active relationship with her. That's all that's necessary. Doesn't matter how happy anyone was with the outcome. Lavellan needs to move on with her life, somehow, and especially over a period of two years, I'm unsettled by one who doesn't at all. Doesn't mean someone can't/shouldn't write it. But I object to that being portrayed as the ideal.

I don't understand why people think that two years is more than enough to move on. It could be for some, but it doesn't have to. My Lavellan didn't move on. Too early, to many things didn't add up. She wouldn't even think of starting another relationship. People deal differently with heartbreak and breaking up. As much as you're unsettled by Lavellan who didn't move on with her life, I find it quite unsettling to move on entirely that quickly.

 

And this comes to my mind right now:

'No one should tell you how to mourn. And when someone says 'move on,' you take their hand and say, 'my choice.''

 

btw. I need to play DA2 again.

[AutumnOracle]

I have to say....I don't know if the writers did this on purpose or it was just me thinking "Cullen is really cute" but I always got the vibe that Cullen was into my Lavellan. Even with him being all "WTF are you doing freeing mages?!?!?!?!" So, I always felt really bad because it was like Cullen was in the ultimate friendzone with my Lavellan. After she got over being scared of him.....cause of the whole ex-templar thing.

 

....I would feel awful to have my Lavellan have a fling with Cullen though. =(

 

Cullen deserves happiness just like Lavellan does........

 

 

......oh no.

 

no no no

 

 

no

 

*buries head under pillow hoping headcanon goes away*

 

And this is why I have two cannons.  He just feels like a kicked puppy without a LI.  I just have to make that LI a human...cause otherwise that Solas!

[Jayla]

On Cullen: Nope nope NOPE.  I already inflicted the really twisted one-sided crush with Amell on Cullen in my canon playthrough, which he's mercifully outgrown as of Inquisition.  He is firmly in elder brother territory to my Lavellan.  And yes, you can easily headcanon that he has a thing for Lavellan too, but I simply choose not to.  I actually like him now.  I don't want him to turn back into the poor damaged fool from DA:O.
 
My Adaar flirted with him though  Because Adaar flirts with everyone!


Best Mage

 

I always flirt with Cullen on the first option, but only because it always manages to sneak up on me when I'm talking to him and I always forget it's there. xD

[Jaderail]

Spoiler

When the Inquisitor's mark flares up when talking with the advisers, does anyone not choose the "Can one thing in this ****** world stay fixed?!" option? I'm curious about what they say, but I can't resist that juicy outburst.

 

I may also love Alix Wilton Regan (British Inquisitor's VA).

I haven't tried any of the others and I don't think I can, there's so much emotion in her voice when she says it. I wish there was a bit more dialogue of our quizzy being emotional like that. It kind of feels like we were limited to a sentence or two every conversation. Would be cool to have more emotional dialogue choices like that one!

[AutumnOracle]

I haven't tried any of the others and I don't think I can, there's so much emotion in her voice when she says it. I wish there was a bit more dialogue of our quizzy being emotional like that. It kind of feels like we were limited to a sentence or two every conversation. Would be cool to have more emotional dialogue choices like that one!

My Lavellan picks that one cause....awesome.

 

My Trevalyn is happily ensconced with Cullen so she picks.

Spoiler

The I don't want to die option.  It was super pathetic.  I'd change it if I play through again.  Partially because Cullen didn't jump to my side when I screamed in pain but waited until I said I didn't want to die to hug me....

[_Lucinia]

So...am I the only one who google screenshots and is trying to compare the faces of trespasserSolas and daiSolas?
The changes are...subtle yet in a whole improved him a lot. Well, maybe not 'improve', I still love the old one, but I don't think anyone could call him ugly now?

I wonder what magic that is.

 

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

[BoscoBread]

Ok, not to police tone, but I think when responding we need to remember word choice and tone.  If you are taking critical theory/headcanon personally and it's not straight up offensive(i.e. that Hitler Youth guy that wandered in here) then step back and ask yourself why.  Re-read what you said and ask - "can this be interpreted as rude". I hate pulling a mom but I feel like on this particular topic it's becoming difficult to talk about without a few people sort of getting nasty. 

 

Headcanon is headcanon is headcanon.  There is a valid reason why some people may be uncomfortable with a pining partner. A. They didn't want to play that way B. Personal experience is coloring that i.e. my ex still pining and contacting me after I told him I was interested in someone else(specifically someone of the same gender).  I understand it but it makes me very uncomfortable and it becomes difficult to move forward.  Also even if that were not the case - emotionally I do not function that way. I make a decision and move forward.  I don't expect him to but I would like not to have the discussion everytime we are out with mutual friends.That's my right to feel that way. 

 

Yes, people mourn loss in different ways, and noone is taking that way from anyone.  But I think this argument gets heated WAY TOO quickly and turns the corner into un-chill very fast. 

[nikkylee]

*SNIP*

But! I can't stand Buffy. That's right. So the answer to this argument is naturally Angel (the series) > Buffy (the series) because there's so much less of her in it and that's always important. :3

But just in case you need further proof. Here it is.

 

*fist bump* Buffy the series I like... but I swear I'm always the only one who doesn't like Buffy the character at all. All her friends? I love them. Spike I love. Angel and Cordy I could get behind. Buffy... Bleh.

 

Anyway, while we're sharing...

 

My Lavellan isn't falling all over the place in grief, but she takes a moment to herself every now and then just to be... wistful, if not sad. She wonders. She wouldn't turn someone down if she was interested, but she's not all that concerned with seeking someone out either.

[Solas]

I wish I was British. They have the best tv.

Our TV is just as varied as American tv, sorry to disappoint. Some of it is great and some of it is crap. The selection of British tv shown often on American tv is not reflective of the whole.

[Mims]

On my Lavellan and moving on-

 

Spoiler

I play a somewhat more chaotic Lavellan, who if pushed in the right direction, could have easily become a villain in her own right. She's very spoiled and vain, and for her being a hero has less to do with 'doing the right thing', as it does: 'doing good has better rewards and accolades.' Which is not to say she's cold... she's just not a saint, either. She craves the attention and ability to do what she wants. 

 

I don't see her as moving on from Solas because I'm not entirely sure she can move on from something she wants. She's used to getting her way, and since day one Solas has always been the one to not fall into line. That's what drew her to him. She thought he was better than her- more honorable, more level headed. The realization that he's actually possibly worse than her hasn't really set in yet. She isn't used to being wrong. 

 

And in a way- he's once again given her what she's always wanted. First it was the mark. That gave her power, let her become the head of the Inquisition, let her actually mature a bit as a person so that she's not as bad as she could have once been. Now he's the enemy...and he's kind of the perfect enemy for her. She's not really broken up about the rivalry. In a way I think she's sort of hyped. She has purpose again, more problems to solve.

 

She's worried- but I think the desire to save him is equal parts wanting to prove herself his equal. It isn't just about love to her. 

 

When everything is over? Provided she hasn't burned down Thedas to catch Solas in the flames, she'll re-evaluate where she stands on the love business. But until then all of this is just too exciting to entertain thoughts of anyone else. She's going hardcore into this counter-elf revolution business. 

[TheEggCrusher]

Our TV is just as varied as American tv, sorry to disappoint. Some of it is great and some of it is crap. The selection of British tv shown often on American tv is not reflective of the whole.

but what about that one show about idiot royals doing stupid things?? 

 

"Is that the white house? There's another white house! There's lots of white houses!" (talking about all the congress buildings and the white house in D.C.) 

 

i mean that's freaking amazing. no shows like that in america ;-; (hope you know which one i'm referencing) 

[MayriyaNoori]

This thread makes me sad now. 

 

I don't imagine my girl "got over" him or "moved on," and she definitely didn't have flings since she's young, asexual, and Solas is her only love.

 

While she didn't melt into a puddle of her own tears or lie catatonic in his study, gazing hollowly at his frescos, she was sad, grieved, missed him while he was gone, and kept searching for him and hoping for the day they'd be together again. While I imagine she kept busy with the Inquisiton, staying positive that she could make a difference for elves everywhere and eventually find him again (her smile at the sunset in the end seems to say, "I know you're out there, and I will find you")... she still missed him. There's nothing wrong with missing someone you love after they leave. 

 

On a side note, last night my Origin said there was a conflict between saves, and asked whether I wanted to go with my Cloud save or desktop save files. I clicked cloud, then found that all my saves from the last six months were missing. My entire Qunari Inquisitor, 30+ hours of my "perfectionist Solavellan playthrough," and all my Trespasser saves from my "imperfect Solavellan playthrough." Does anyone know how I can access my other saves again? 

Awww, don't get sad!!! I love all headcanons!!!!

 

I think for me personally....

 

Spoiler

 

I really have been questioning on whether or not my Lavellan would consider herself 'with' Solas anymore so to speak. I mean.....we didn't exactly get a break up option after he dropped the whole "I"m planing on causing an apocalypse" because.......that is pretty serious. I mean....my Lavellan wants to save him and change his mind.......but she would still be very aware that as much as she may try to change his mind there is the possibility he has to be killed to stop him. I think she would be at a point where the world is outweighing her feeling for Solas.

 

I think this is why every time I even start to think about situations where Lavellan would be around any decent "not about to end the world" guy I can see her falling in love.

 

Maybe my Lavellan should just go live alone in the wilderness until the next game.

 

What can I say...my Optimism Flag is at half mast.

 

 

Can I also just say that I love the artwork by Chiara....some of it makes me tear up in the eyes and I don't even know why. That's good stuff there.

[Avejajed]

Ok, not to police tone, but I think when responding we need to remember word choice and tone. If you are taking critical theory/headcanon personally and it's not straight up offensive(i.e. that Hitler Youth guy that wandered in here) then step back and ask yourself why. Re-read what you said and ask - "can this be interpreted as rude". I hate pulling a mom but I feel like on this particular topic it's becoming difficult to talk about without a few people sort of getting nasty.

Headcanon is headcanon is headcanon. There is a valid reason why some people may be uncomfortable with a pining partner. A. They didn't want to play that way B. Personal experience is coloring that i.e. my ex still pining and contacting me after I told him I was interested in someone else(specifically someone of the same gender). I understand it but it makes me very uncomfortable and it becomes difficult to move forward. Also even if that were not the case - emotionally I do not function that way. I make a decision and move forward. I don't expect him to but I would like not to have the discussion everytime we are out with mutual friends.That's my right to feel that way.

Yes, people mourn loss in different ways, and noone is taking that way from anyone. But I think this argument gets heated WAY TOO quickly and turns the corner into un-chill very fast.

I'm not sure if you're directing this at me or not, but since I think I'm the only one who used harsher words, I'll respond anyway.

People who use words that may degrade someone or make someone feel "stupid" for believing what they do, really ****** me off.

I'm within my right to tell them as much. Anyone who has spent any amount of time here can tell you I don't find it helpful to anyone to mince my words up so I don't offend anyone.

People really do need to lay off forcing their playstyle down other people's throats, and I'm not really sorry for saying as much.

[Sable Rhapsody]

OK.  Briefly interrupting headcanon discussions with sexy Avvar funtimes (though it's just flirting right now since I'm still editing the rest):

 

The Midnight Hunt  Linked on vhenantrash too, if you prefer the tumbles

[midnight tea]

Ok, not to police tone, but I think when responding we need to remember word choice and tone.  If you are taking critical theory/headcanon personally and it's not straight up offensive(i.e. that Hitler Youth guy that wandered in here) then step back and ask yourself why.  Re-read what you said and ask - "can this be interpreted as rude". I hate pulling a mom but I feel like on this particular topic it's becoming difficult to talk about without a few people sort of getting nasty. 

 

Headcanon is headcanon is headcanon.  There is a valid reason why some people may be uncomfortable with a pining partner. A. They didn't want to play that way B. Personal experience is coloring that i.e. my ex still pining and contacting me after I told him I was interested in someone else(specifically someone of the same gender).  I understand it but it makes me very uncomfortable and it becomes difficult to move forward.  Also even if that were not the case - emotionally I do not function that way. I make a decision and move forward.  I don't expect him to but I would like not to have the discussion everytime we are out with mutual friends.That's my right to feel that way. 

 

Yes, people mourn loss in different ways, and noone is taking that way from anyone.  But I think this argument gets heated WAY TOO quickly and turns the corner into un-chill very fast. 

 

I don't think the issue lies in what people are comfortable with in terms of personal headcanon - I think issue lies mostly in a somewhat noticeable trend to reduce Lavellan coping with Solas leaving either to "moving on" or "pining", while we know that there's a whole world of nuance and different ways to understand both.

 

A Lavellan that has a plethora of intimate relationships post Cory defeat OR works tirelessly to maintain Inquisition and never menhtion Solas to anyone ever may be doing so predominantly to fill a big gaping hole in her heart that will eventually consume her.... while at the same time Lavellan that sometimes openly pines for Solas or expresses sadness that he left may indeed be slowly putting the fire in her heart out and approach this whole thing more coolly and rationally when the time's right. And that's just two of many possibilities how to approach the topic.

 

Like I said - there are different ways to understand both, as well as the whole lot of ways both of these concepts can be mixed together.

[Miss This or That]

OK.  Briefly interrupting headcanon discussions with sexy Avvar funtimes (though it's just flirting right now since I'm still editing the rest):

 

The Midnight Hunt  Linked on vhenantrash too, if you prefer the tumbles

 

Ohh, will read it! By the way, what's with 1/2 of the Lavellan stories having Inquisitors named Ellana? Is that just super popular, or is it the canon name or something? I need to make more Lavellan's if its the normal name and I just haven't noticed. I haven't made a new Quizzy in a long while.

[Oswin]

Si.  Matthew Gravelle - Mark Baeley(jaderail) is a mistake made by the wiki.  Listen to this interview. You can hear Abelas/Ameridan. 

 

 

I had no idea it was voiced by him.

 

Sorry Abelas/Ameridan. I dun lyk you anymore.

 

Hmph!

[BoscoBread]

snip

It wasn't. You've known me long enough that I would have replied to you directly  if I wanted to get into it.  

 

It's just the overall atmosphere.  It truly was general. It's the same thing with the sex/no sex discussion.  I didn't think the initial statement was made to make anyone feel bad.  It was why they personally felt uncomfortable with a certain thing. It was clarified when people seemed upset.

 

That's all. 

[MayriyaNoori]

"Moving on" or "Pining".....

 

Is this that "intrigued" discussion we were promised??!?!

[Sable Rhapsody]

Ohh, will read it! By the way, what's with 1/2 of the Lavellan stories having Inquisitors named Ellana? Is that just super popular, or is it the canon name or something? I need to make more Lavellan's if its the normal name and I just haven't noticed. I haven't made a new Quizzy in a long while.

 

Ellana is the default name for female Lavellan.  Mahanon for male.

 

I wound up making them the names for my Lavellan's older cousins.

[AutumnOracle]

Ellana is the default name.  I used it cause I liked it.  But then it got really screwy in the keep.  Cause there is no way to differentiate which is which and I had like 4.  Cause I kept scrapping them to get the face right.  But it didn't let me know how many hours had been played on each.....

[Tess]

I prefer hanging in the middle. Here, I said it!

[Miss This or That]

Ellana is the default name for female Lavellan.  Mahanon for male.

 

Ohh, that makes sense, then. I like the name. Mahanon is kind of strange, though.

[dawnstone]

Ohh, will read it! By the way, what's with 1/2 of the Lavellan stories having Inquisitors named Ellana? Is that just super popular, or is it the canon name or something? I need to make more Lavellan's if its the normal name and I just haven't noticed. I haven't made a new Quizzy in a long while.

Yes, it's the canon/default name. I usually default to it in fanfiction as a generic character name and leave their personality kind of vague, though I know some people prefer to read about other people's unique OC's.