Anyway... all this talk about Lavellan and what she does with herself between end of the main game and Trespasser - gotta admit that I've been thinking about something somewhat related to that topic for a while and that is: while Solas may have felt like fish out of water in Thedas... how likely it is that Lavellan/approved Quizzy felt so as well?
And that's even before the whole Herald of Andraste business or "the burden of wearing the title that all but replaces their name".
They may not feel as different as Solas, accept the world as it is, have friends and family that they love dearly - but he implies during balcony scene that while Inquisitor may not be different from anyone else in terms of their body, the difference in either mind or spirit is there, and it is palpable enough to give pause to Solas and eventually they become "real" for him in relatively short time.
I can't say that I can't somewhat relate to this - being a person with very different interests compared to people I live around and most members of my family (artist, gamer, someone with pretty liberal views living in bastion of conservatism and traditional values). I love them all to death, but most people I interact on any sort of regular basis can't really give me what I sometimes need in terms of emotional or intellectual sustenance (hence I spend so much time on the Internet, DUH).
Makes me think that Quizzy might as well be in similar position. They may feel too much. They may see the world as more nuanced than it is for most people. That must have felt goddamn lonely, even among friends or family they'd give their life for - and then they meet someone who 'gets' them; who feels familiar. Maybe not entirely, but enough to create a deep connection - be it in terms of friendship or more than that.
... Kinda makes me think that IF it happened to Quizzies and them Solas left, it might have left a hollow spot no other relationship could fill.
I suppose causal flings or finding people with whom Quizzies connect on different level is not impossible, especially for those who'd REALLY need it - but taking into account all this, plus what The Lone Shadow has said about people outside of the inner circle having a hard time seeing more than the title (something that the game itself addressed more than a few times), I must come to a conclusion that at least my Lavellan (this is purely my headcanon territory here) would have a really hard time to even try and justify being with someone else. It wouldn't feel right (dare I say it wouldn't feel 'real'?), nor perhaps even fair for the person they might attempt to form new relationship with.
...Also - don't you think that it would also make the mission to redeem Solas even more personal as well? That way Quizzy may not just try and prove Solas that the world is worth saving, but that there is place for them both in it as well? It would make for a very interesting internal conflict, IMO.
It didn't take me and my first Lavellan to realize just how much of an outsider they were in terms of not being fully connected to the others. After all, everyone is pretty much an Adrastian who don't really think that much of how the Chantry has harmed not just mages, but elves as well. Only person who understood that was Leliana, while Cassandra believed that the reason for Lavellan's hatred was because she was an outsider, not that she had a huge list of grievances. Lavellan can't really relate to anyone outside of Solas. Perhaps in a few instances depending on how you headcannon you're Lavellan's background, such as mine relating to Josie's desire and determination to help her family. But beyond that, Lavellan doesn't really have anyone.
Sera is to absorbed in her "I hate all things elfy and Dalish, including people who exhibit those traits," to be any sort of friend, but instead a loud, toxic reminder of her outsider status. Cassandra is to warped up in her own failing faith to be any comfort. In fact because of this she does more harm, wanting the Quizz to be the Herald and dissing elven beliefs, such as her comments at the Temple of Mythal, and she is a bit racist at that. (When they're making you Inquisitor, ask her in disbelief that they are making an elf the quizz.) The Iron Lady, I wouldn't even try. Josie is a bit better, but when my Quizz told her how humans have threaten her family's lives she was astonished. Josie means well but she can't understand her. As for the rest, not much comfort either, but not as isolating as everyone else. So really, the only person she doesn't feel like an outsider to is Solas. Solas is the only elfy elf there and only one who doesn't see her as the Herald or the Quizz.
So I don't see mine getting over Solas either, especially since my Lavellan saw him as a refuge she could go to when she was tried of the stupid shems and the responsibilities. Responsibilities that were never expect from her before, until a giant hole rips open in the sky.
As for Cullen, my Quizz started to warm up to him after he told off Chancellor Roderick and that he and the other Chantry folk would just hang her without a trial. She respects him, but she can't see herself with a human. For a few reasons, 1) she is afraid of being exiled from her clan, and 2) her dad always told her that it was impossible for a human to really love an elf. They just see elves as pets and nothing more.