But yeah, love life for Lavellans can definitely hold a lot of difficulty.
My Lavellan got pregnant when she was, like, 18 or so at one of the all-clans-meet gatherings by a guy from some other clan. I was never clear on how Dalish treat something like that, but hey, it's a child -- they were good with it. Then she marries a longtime friend in her clan and has a child by him. Her first child is sent to live with the father and his clan when she is old enough to understand so that way she can get to know him too.
Then Lavellan's husband gets sick and dies during a bad fever that sweeps the clan. She gets sick too, loses the baby she was carrying, and the other child ends up being taken in and raised by the husband's sister since Lavellan took a long time to recover. Since the child was young and it would have been disruptive to just take him back, he stays a part of that family instead of being returned to Lavellan. She ends up being the head clan hunter (to go along with the DAI background) and focuses on that. She has no care or concern for relationships until she's sent off to the Conclave, and, well...
My Lavellan is defined by a cycle of joy, loss, and acceptance. Solas did nothing to help break that cycle.