I meant to comment earlier but got side tracked. Best Elf! So sad, but still...I wonder if there is information in the Book of Seekers on reversing something like this.I realize he was severed in the Fade but we know so little about it and spirits seem to be able to restore nearly everything. It could happen the same way. Like Carl meeting with Anders and Justice.
I don't have an AO3 account but would like to join. My FF.net story will drift toward smut I can't seem to help it, but the 'clean' version has to be left clean because my kids want to read it. My son is hounding me for the next chapter. He's 23 and has called like 3 times today.
"Mom! Your killing me! I need to read moar!"
"Ir abelas da'len"
"Argh! You evil woman."
It usually takes less than a few days for you to get an invite to AO3, so you could post you fic in both places if you'd like.
Also, I love that your family all plays dragon age. That's so cool. My Dad can't even work a smartphone, and he's an IT technician.
I think it's a bit more than that - not that many good spirits remained; he told us that via banter. I think that's actually one of main reasons he's horrified of Veiled world and concerned about the future - negative emotions and sentiments outweigh the good ones, giving rise to more 'negative' spirits, which then influence the waking world or are born to it, basically turning the whole thing into one big vicious circle where eventually only negative things remain.
So, Solas seems to be genuinely terrified of losing yet 'good'/gentle spirit - be it to blood binding that may erase Cole's consciousness, or him possibly being lost after becoming human/mortal (since he's not really convinced the strength or nature of spirit won't be twisted or diminished that way... though apparently approved Inky proved him wrong), hence he disapproved of it.
Varric thinks like a friend. His main concern is Cole's desires, what he came in this world to be, his chance to grow be a more complex human being, rather than the simpler (but not inferior!) spirit.
Solas thinks like a leader. He looks at the big picture and how Cole fits in it, as a rate spirit of very gentle nature, as the only spirit in the Inquisition, as a spirit who will be protected by binding if he can shred more of his human side to get the amulet to work, as a spirit that could help many people. For him once again it's pragmatism and the needs of the many outweighing the needs of the few.
I think these are all really good points of contrast. I'd like to add. Solas is much more directive: he's telling Cole what to do. Varric is much more supportive: he's suggesting what to do, instead.
On the one hand, I like Varric's approach much more - it's more empathetic and encourages Cole to think about what's best for him, and likely would be healthier for him in real life, but ultimately I think Solas is probably right.
Spirits are also people, they have autonomy, will, etc. spirits just express themselves radically differently to humans. And that's ok. It doesn't make Cole 'less' in any way. If anything, pushing for Cole to become more human may be taking a huge risk - i.e. spirits and demons are not very distinct, and it's possible with contact in the world Cole could become more demonic than human. In fact, I'm surprised that Varric takes this approach, after watching the walking magical trainwreck that was Anders destroy the Kirkwall Chantry. This risk is wholly unnecessary, too: Cole is completely fine as his spirity self. Varric's repeated assumption that Cole wants to be human because he came here is very sketchy.