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[Cee]

It's a totally different feel when you look at them and think Like, you'll be having a bad day with them and then they turn to you, do something cute and you're all like "Awww, that little spawn grew inside me. That's cool." It's like a reset button you get when dealing with your own children.

 

NeverlandHunter, it's sometimes what happens when you're around kids, especially if you're in a more or less unsettled part of your life. My friend who was all 'I hate kids' a year ago is now gushing about her three-week old baby and just got a new tattoo of his footprint and name. Life sometimes takes unexpected turns. But it's okay to not want to be a parent either.

 

Though me, this is what I want, and what makes it seem worth those many sacrifices. And it's really difficult given  the relationship situation I'm in where it seemed we were on a similar page on this once, just that he wanted to wait.

 

But before I real life hellspiral from lack of sleep and feels, here's some art.

 

http://qissus.tumblr...an-version-gets

 

[NeverlandHunter]

It's a totally different feel when you look at them and think Like, you'll be having a bad day with them and then they turn to you, do something cute and you're all like "Awww, that little spawn grew inside me. That's cool." It's like a reset button you get when dealing with your own children.

They definitely do cute things that reset my opinion, even my younger siblings will. I'll be so mad at my sister for being such a tween and then my mom will tell me that she made sure that everyone saved me a piece of cake. Or that completely random moment when I'm talking to my 3 year old niece and she just says she loves me   they are so fricking cute sometimes. 

Buuut, at the end of the day one of my favorite things is giving them one last kiss and hug and then handing them back to their mothers. That is a lovely moment right there.

I think my sisters are so funny about one another's kids. They both complain about their respective niece and nephews being spoiled monster spawn and I'm like -.- um, your kids are brats too. My oldest sister says being a mother has made her like other people's kids less.

[NeverlandHunter]

Heellooo!! What's up guys! I'm back!

Hi Janic! I'm leaving after this post!

 

NeverlandHunter, it's sometimes what happens when you're around kids, especially if you're in a more or less unsettled part of your life. My friend who was all 'I hate kids' a year ago is now gushing about her three-week old baby and just got a new tattoo of his footprint and name. Life sometimes takes unexpected turns. But it's okay to not want to be a parent either.

 

Though me, this is what I want, and what makes it seem worth those many sacrifices. And it's really difficult given  the relationship situation I'm in where it seemed we were on a similar page on this once, just that he wanted to wait.

 

But before I real life hellspiral from lack of sleep and feels, here's some art.

 

http://qissus.tumblr...an-version-gets

 

Mostly I'm being dramatic. I have a HUGE family. I've spent my life around kids, and I love baby to 4 year olds especially. I'm definitely not ready to have kids anytime soon, but I know I'll want them eventually. I complain about them the same way I do siblings. For all my grumbling I couldn't imagine life without them and they're the most important spawn in my life!

[Sable Rhapsody]

They definitely do cute things that reset my opinion, even my younger siblings will I'll be so mad at my sister for being such a tween and then my mom will tell me that she made sure that everyone saved me a piece of cake. Or that completely random moment when I'm talking to my 3 year old niece and she just says she loves me   they are so fricking cute sometimes. 

Buuut, at the end of the day one of my favorite things is giving them one last kiss and hug and then handing them back to their mothers. That is a lovely moment right there.

I think my sisters are so funny about one another's kids. They both complain about their respective niece and nephews being spoiled monster spawn and I'm like -.- um, your kids are brats too. My oldest sister says being a mother has made her like other people's kids less.

 

Biological imperative

 

I really like kids, even the bratty ones.  Babies...eh.  They're cute, but they basically eat and sleep and poop.  I know their brains are doing a lot of development during that first year-and-a-half, but they're just not all that interesting.  That said, all of the grad students in our lab have baby fever something fierce, and it's starting to rub off on me.  For now, I'm channeling it all into my furbaby.  I can barely handle my stupid cat some days, I'm totally not ready for human dependents.

[MayriyaNoori]

They definitely do cute things that reset my opinion, even my younger siblings will I'll be so mad at my sister for being such a tween and then my mom will tell me that she made sure that everyone saved me a piece of cake. Or that completely random moment when I'm talking to my 3 year old niece and she just says she loves me   they are so fricking cute sometimes. 

Buuut, at the end of the day one of my favorite things is giving them one last kiss and hug and then handing them back to their mothers. That is a lovely moment right there.

I think my sisters are so funny about one another's kids. They both complain about their respective niece and nephews being spoiled monster spawn and I'm like -.- um, your kids are brats too. My oldest sister says being a mother has made her like other people's kids less.

I think the moment I realized that I actually liked little kids was back when I was about 22-23. I was meeting my friend's kids for the first time and one of her daughters was about 2.5 at the time. When I came over I was wearing a scarf, so when I took it off my hair was super messy underneath. Her two year old walked up and greeted me with "Your hair is ugly."

 

I cracked up laughing because it was that lovely kind of honest you get from little ones at that age.

 

Now my daughter is 2.5 and she's full of that every moment she's awake. It's grand.

[Sable Rhapsody]

I think the moment I realized that I actually liked little kids was back when I was about 22-23. I was meeting my friend's kids for the first time and one of her daughters was about 2.5 at the time. When I came over I was wearing a scarf, so when I took it off my hair was super messy underneath. Her two year old walked up and greeted me with "Your hair is ugly."

 

I cracked up laughing because it was that lovely kind of honest you get from little ones at that age.

 

Now my daughter is 2.5 and she's full of that every moment she's awake. It's grand.

 

I've liked kids since I was a teenager, but I'll be the first to admit that I'm not always the most responsible with them.  My idea of looking after a few 6-7 year olds was teaching them how to generate static electricity.  They had a grand old time sticking balloons to the walls and shocking each other, but I think their parents were less pleased 

[NeverlandHunter]

Biological imperative

 

I really like kids, even the bratty ones.  Babies...eh.  They're cute, but they basically eat and sleep and poop.  I know their brains are doing a lot of development during that first year-and-a-half, but they're just not all that interesting.  That said, all of the grad students in our lab have baby fever something fierce, and it's starting to rub off on me.  For now, I'm channeling it all into my furbaby.  I can barely handle my stupid cat some days, I'm totally not ready for human dependents.

Haha, it's so weird getting older and having friends settle down and have kids. I'm just like   "What? How is this happening? You were the reckless rebel from my youth, you aren't supposed to be a mommy!"

Ugh, baby fever. It's so odd. I know I want to wait until I have kids, but sometimes I spend hours mulling over what it would be like to have my own baby, and what I would name them and what they would look like. STOP IT BIOLOGY! I DO NOT WANT TO REPRODUCE AT THIS POINT!

 

I like babies a lot because they don't talk back and all their bad behavior is babiness. Older children... ohmygoodness sometimes they want me to throw them into tomorrow! I cannot stand being around tweens for extensive periods of time. Actually 8-14 year olds should just be quarantined into private institutions. -.- now please, someone jump to a tweens defense the way they did for their toddlers.  It'll probably be a long while til I have my own.

 

I think the moment I realized that I actually liked little kids was back when I was about 22-23. I was meeting my friend's kids for the first time and one of her daughters was about 2.5 at the time. When I came over I was wearing a scarf, so when I took it off my hair was super messy underneath. Her two year old walked up and greeted me with "Your hair is ugly."

 

I cracked up laughing because it was that lovely kind of honest you get from little ones at that age.

 

Now my daughter is 2.5 and she's full of that every moment she's awake. It's grand.

Oh man, that little gremlin would have gotten a can of a**whooping for that comment!  Seriously though, that's like something that happens in a movie!

[MayriyaNoori]

I've liked kids since I was a teenager, but I'll be the first to admit that I'm not always the most responsible with them.  My idea of looking after a few 6-7 year olds was teaching them how to generate static electricity.  They had a grand old time sticking balloons to the walls and shocking each other, but I think their parents were less pleased 

Pfft, my approach to parenting has become a series of whatever actions are necessary in order to keep the little miss occupied. If that means making static electricity with balloons, I'm down.

 

My rules are pretty much we're golden as long as no one gets actually hurt.

 

Most of the time finger paints and cardboard work though. Or brownies and MLP.

[drosophila]

I'm still mentally at the stage of life where I think children are for me to play with, not to take care of. I should grow out of it eventually, but I'm putting it off as much as I can

[Sable Rhapsody]

Haha, it's so weird getting older and having friends settle down and have kids. I'm just like   "What? How is this happening? You were the reckless rebel from my youth, you aren't supposed to be a mommy!"

Ugh, baby fever. It's so odd. I know I want to wait until I have kids, but sometimes I spend hours mulling over what it would be like to have my own baby, and what I would name them and what they would look like. STOP IT BIOLOGY! I DO NOT WANT TO REPRODUCE AT THIS POINT!

 

That's exactly how I feel.  It doesn't help that any biological children with my boyfriend would be half-Asian, and half-Asian babies are seriously the cutest thing in the universe.  But at least human beings can thwart our own biology.  Thank you birth control!

[MayriyaNoori]

I'm still mentally at the stage of life where I think children are for me to play with, not to take care of. I should grow out of it eventually, but I'm putting it off as much as I can

Yeah.......the whole "OMG I'm responsible for this tiny human!" part puts a heavy spin on the "OMG this gremlin is cute!" lol

[Kadan]

Hey, I've been meaning to try the multiplayer forever, and not daring as I hate playing with random strangers. I'd love a friendly lady to kick ass together too I'm Fullmoondreamer on Origin (according to my profile lol).

I tried to search and add but it came up with nothing. Mine is Simbody, so add me if you'd like.

 

You learn to cope, really. Starting with "Sleep is overrated." (Followed by a hysterical whimper.)

My arabic is rather atrocious, and mainly passive, but I definitely do speak czech (my native tongue) and english (hah! didn't expect that, right? )

My husband's czech is in similar state as my arabic.

My kids have a three way mishmash and noone but us ever understands them.

Fun though.

 

I need fluff today.

Edit: Damn,too big.

Spoiler

That is a beautiful picture, except for the ears, eh Too big!

 

Haha, it's so weird getting older and having friends settle down and have kids. I'm just like   "What? How is this happening? You were the reckless rebel from my youth, you aren't supposed to be a mommy!"

Ugh, baby fever. It's so odd. I know I want to wait until I have kids, but sometimes I spend hours mulling over what it would be like to have my own baby, and what I would name them and what they would look like. STOP IT BIOLOGY! I DO NOT WANT TO REPRODUCE AT THIS POINT!

 

I like babies a lot because they don't talk back and all their bad behavior is babiness. Older children... ohmygoodness sometimes they want me to throw them into tomorrow! I cannot stand being around tweens for extensive periods of time. Actually 8-14 year olds should just be quarantined into private institutions. -.- now please, someone jump to a tweens defense the way they did for their toddlers.  It'll probably be a long while til I have my own.

 

Oh man, that little gremlin would have gotten a can of a**whooping for that comment!  Seriously though, that's like something that happens in a movie!

As a mother of a tween I can relate. Some days I'm like argh you're killing me smalls!

 

Funny story. Years ago when the kidlings were smaller, and when I actually talked to my sister (which I don't, can't stand her, she's like my personal Vivienne damn hypocritical B****) Anyway we were visiting my brother, and his wife made a comment.

 

"The whole time you have been here do you realize that neither of you has disciplined your own kids, but instead mothered each others children?" Yeah, we have completely different approaches to how to raise our kids.

 

My mother told me two days ago that I shouldn't let my daughter talk to me the way she does and I had to bite my tongue to keep from saying. "Oh, like you never stopped my sister from talking to you disrespectfully? Cause ya know she treats you even worse than mine treats me." But I didn't. It's a sore spot with the fam. My Aunts and grandmother love me and hate her (sister) because she is a mouthy disrespectful piece, and she is our mother's favorite, even though my mother and I are like personality twins.

 

Pfft, my approach to parenting has become a series of whatever actions are necessary in order to keep the little miss occupied. If that means making static electricity with balloons, I'm down.

 

My rules are pretty much we're golden as long as no one gets actually hurt.

 

Most of the time finger paints and cardboard work though. Or brownies and MLP.

One of mine love to shred paper as a child. She made confetti out of everything. We had to hide all the books. She brought me a piece of paper one day maybe she was 2? "I could rip it if you tell me to."

Playdough, that's fun as long as you don't get it into the rugs

[MayriyaNoori]

I tried to search and add but it came up with nothing. Mine is Simbody, so add me if you'd like.

 

That is a beautiful picture, except for the ears, eh Too big!

 

As a mother of a tween I can relate. Some days I'm like argh you're killing me smalls!

 

Funny story. Years ago when the kidlings were smaller, and when I actually talked to my sister (which I don't, can't stand her, she's like my personal Vivienne damn hypocritical B****) Anyway we were visiting my brother, and his wife made a comment.

 

"The whole time you have been here do you realize that neither of you has disciplined your own kids, but instead mothered each others children?" Yeah, we have completely different approaches to how to raise our kids.

 

My mother told me two days ago that I shouldn't let my daughter talk to me the way she does and I had to bite my tongue to keep from saying. "Oh, like you never stopped my sister from talking to you disrespectfully? Cause ya know she treats you even worse than mine treats me." But I didn't. It's a sore spot with the fam. My Aunts and grandmother love me and hate her (sister) because she is a mouthy disrespectful piece, and she is our mother's favorite, even though my mother and I are like personality twins.

 

One of mine love to shred paper as a child. She made confetti out of everything. We had to hide all the books. She brought me a piece of paper one day maybe she was 2? "I could rip it if you tell me to."

Playdough, that's fun as long as you don't get it into the rugs

Playdough is great.....but for some reason it always ends up causing some sort of creative frustration or something for the little miss every time she plays with it.

 

Like, she could paint for an hour, no fits and just be having a blast.

 

Playdough can lead into a full scale tantrum in less than five minutes if not handled with care.

[Cee]

I think the moment I realized that I actually liked little kids was back when I was about 22-23. I was meeting my friend's kids for the first time and one of her daughters was about 2.5 at the time. When I came over I was wearing a scarf, so when I took it off my hair was super messy underneath. Her two year old walked up and greeted me with "Your hair is ugly."

 

I cracked up laughing because it was that lovely kind of honest you get from little ones at that age.

 

Now my daughter is 2.5 and she's full of that every moment she's awake. It's grand.

 

I think I always have. I used to babysit for my cousins beginning around 13, and that continued on and off for some time. That same sort of honesty and sort of purity of response to the world, it's amazing. I like to think I still take things in with both wonder and the processing experience brings, but it also means I'm totally down for being like my mom was and on the floor playing or taking kids to have new experiences.

 

I also volunteered with a few places while in college, and some involved painting schools with children of various ages, and others were things like chaperoning field trips and helping the kids learn certain objectives. 'Here are three 7-year olds and now we're all going into a zoo. Two will run in different directions and the other will cling to you - go!'. I loved it though. Did it through my university service office until the organization changed its focus and didn't do the field trips anymore.

 

I've also volunteered to read and help in little workshops in more recent years.

 

I am completely fine with not having biological kids as I'm a little afraid of attempting to carry with my random health issues and I know I'm already looking at extra care based on past history, but if possible, I'd try. But yeah, I'm at the point where I'd like to be a mother sometime in the next few years and things aren't favorable to that in the current situation.

 

It's funny because i threw in the character stuff about motherhood but I don't share my Lavellan's whole internalized cultural stuff, so that's something I grasp the feeling behind but don't relate to. Thinking about that was interesting.

[Kadan]

Playdough is great.....but for some reason it always ends up causing some sort of creative frustration or something for the little miss every time she plays with it.

 

Like, she could paint for an hour, no fits and just be having a blast.

 

Playdough can lead into a full scale tantrum in less than five minutes if not handled with care.

I can relate. My son loves video games but had lousy hand eye coordination as a child. After about 3 tries on anything and he was throwing a full on tantrum.

[Moondreamer01]

I tried to search and add but it came up with nothing. Mine is Simbody, so add me if you'd like.

 

*snips*

Might be because I haven't actually installed the multiplayer yet. I'll add you once I do

[Cee]

I'm also up for PC multiplayer sometime. I haven't played in a while, but it seems nobody is going to be the judgmental player here. I'm usually in as Isabela, and she's currently almost level 9.  The account where all my BioWare games are on is Karmagical. Yes, I also have a silly Origin username.

[Kadan]

Might be because I haven't actually installed the multiplayer yet. I'll add you once I do

Okay out of likes. Just add when you are ready

[Moondreamer01]

I'm also up for PC multiplayer sometime. I haven't played in a while, but it seems nobody is going to be the judgmental player here. I'm usually in as Isabela, and she's currently almost level 9.  The account where all my BioWare games are on is Karmagical. Yes, I also have a silly Origin username.

I can't add you to the group pm of pc players I got going for multiplayer as it's full (hate the fact it's limited in number, but oh well), but I'll definitely add you once I can do so

[Cee]

I can't add you to the group pm of pc players I got going for multiplayer as it's full (hate the fact it's limited in number, but oh well), but I'll definitely add you once I can do so

 

It is pretty limited, but no worries, I didn't even expect a MP PM situation since people were just posting in here.

 

I'm sure everyone is surprised that I favor rogue classes in MP as well.

[Moondreamer01]

It is pretty limited, but no worries, I didn't even expect a MP PM situation since people were just posting in here.

 

I'm sure everyone is surprised that I favor rogue classes in MP as well.

it was mostly to keep track of people while I'm at work, since there's a pretty good chance I'll have to ask for ID again, if I can't manage to find them again in the thread. It moves so fast!

[Kadan]

It is pretty limited, but no worries, I didn't even expect a MP PM situation since people were just posting in here.

 

I'm sure everyone is surprised that I favor rogue classes in MP as well.

it was mostly to keep track of people while I'm at work, since there's a pretty good chance I'll have to ask for ID again, if I can't manage to find them again in the thread. It moves so fast!

I can't add you to the group pm of pc players I got going for multiplayer as it's full (hate the fact it's limited in number, but oh well), but I'll definitely add you once I can do so

Sometimes things move pretty quick through here, and posts get lost. Like the DnD comments. I added you Cee.

[Eivuwan]

Um, i just realized something. We joke about the ME3 red, blue, and green endings once in a while, but it seems that these three colors represent the primary sources of power in DAI. For example, red lyrium, blue lyrium, and the veil/fade. I don't know if Bioware just really likes these colors or what. It's funny that red lyrium is basically destructive, blue is used to help with/control magic, and the veil is like the opposite of synthesis. If you bring down the veil, then the fade and earth will merge. I don't know if all of this is just a coincidence or perhaps they use red, blue and green because they are primary colors and are easy to distinguish from each other.

 

Edit: In DA4, we will smush the powers of red lyrium, blue lyrium, and the fade together to make a white crystal that will be used to fight against Solas.

[Shari'El]

Um, i just realized something. We joke about the ME3 red, blue, and green endings once in a while, but it seems that these three colors represent the primary sources of power in DAI. For example, red lyrium, blue lyrium, and the veil/fade. I don't know if Bioware just really likes these colors or what. It's funny that red lyrium is basically destructive, blue is used to help with/control magic, and the veil is like the opposite of synthesis. If you bring down the veil, then the fade and earth will merge. I don't know if all of this is just a coincidence or perhaps they use red, blue and green because they are primary colors and are easy to distinguish from each other.

 

Edit: In DA4, we will smush the powers of red lyrium, blue lyrium, and the fade together to make a white crystal that will be used to fight against Solas.

 

I think it's more like blood, lyrium and Fade, but yeah

(Also the taint, but it's a corrupting source of magic so it's no good).

[Eivuwan]

I think it's more like blood, lyrium and Fade, but yeah

(Also the taint, but it's a corrupting source of magic so it's no good).

 

Well, blood is still red. Like, I just want to break away from this color pattern. Why can't we have purple power?