Yeah, agreed. Which is odd given that it's Pride who's made most of the moves so far, but she's the one who keeps molding and influencing him, while her character seems largely unaffected (and unchanged) by the romance. It's why I get a bit skeeved-out whenever Lavellan talks about how nice it is that Pride is being civil with the dwarves - like, yeah it's nice that he's not denying their personhood and everything, but seriously Lavellan, you're not the arbiter of all that's good and righteous, and it doesn't bode too well for the relationship if you're viewing yourself as some... molder to Pride.
I think that's why I like it so much when Pride sticks up and asserts himself, not only as a leader but an adult who can make his own decisions and arrive at his own truths. She really needs to step down onto more equal footing with him - like, the whole fic is supposed to be "Inquisition, with Solas and the Inquisitor's roles flipped." But basically the whole point to Inquisition, and the Solasmance especially, was proving Solas wrong. In Trespasser (And arguably everything from the balcony scene onwards) it's him approaching you as a person and not some mistake of his to clean up. Lavellan has yet to get on that wavelength with Pride. Maybe that's what my issue with the romance is - she treats him like a confused child for her to herd in the right direction, instead of an equal to understand and compromise with.
Of course, I'd arguably say that about the way she treats a lot of things in the story. 