I dont believe it transferring misery.
Improve one, and maintain the quality of the other. Don't gimp one to improve the other.
It has nothing to do with transferring and everything to do with making space. More space for others romance means you might have to make sacrifices of what you want. If you want an all straight adventure, write a fanfic.
If i wanted to transfer I'd say "YOU GET NOTHING!!!! NOW GET ON THE GROUND AND LET THESE 5 GAY MEN BEAT YOU AND THEN TIE YOU UP AND LEAVE YOU TO DIE. AND THEN HAVE PEOPLE TELL YOU FOR HUNDREDS OF YEARS HOW YOU'RE GOING TO HELL BECAUSE YOU LIKE GIRLS YOU SWINE."
And then maybe we might be transferring "misery." I feel absolutely no sympathy that in one game you have to give up resources so others can feel represented.