Oh so much this, I wish everyone could just read and understand this, when you create something, it's yours to do with as you please. You paint a picture, it would be unthinkable if someone walked into your studio and changed it because they don't like it. I'm a bit tired, but this is something that I've been thinking about and trying to express for a while now, I still don't have it down, but you explained so perfectly here.
Agreed. Yes, I do think these discussions re: sexual orientation/gender roles/inclusiveness are really important to have, but when I see people pointing at the writers and saying they did something wrong because you don't like it comes across as rude and entitled. I mean, I was disappointed when Dorian was gay, because I would have loved to have him as a romance. Same goes for Cass, to a lesser degree... but I don't question the writers for taking them in that direction and I know I will love them regardless. Same goes for Solas - my favorite character based on the info we have so far. I would love for him to be a romance option, but if for whatever reason Patrick Weekes decided it didn't fit his story arc than so be it. I'll be disappointed, sure, but I'm sure I'll still love Solas and look forward to meeting him in the game.
Again, not that we shouldn't have these conversations, as I think it's important to question media representations of real life groups, and how they often cater to the privileged majority. Doesn't mean we should accuse writers of making a mistake when their character doesn't fit with your desire. Especially when Bioware seems to be trying so much harder than most in this respect.