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What was the biggest change in your life?

Débuté par Naughty Bear , juil. 15 2014 08:43

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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 08:43

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Sou my cousin in England is getting married and a friend has become pregnant. Big changes in your life that will alter your lifestyle.

 

Just wondering, has anyone here been through a major life-changing event? Positive or negative?

 

For me, it was moving to Thailand when I was 11. Foreign language, different culture, different people and mindset etc. I still remember my first day in school over there, I can speak Thai but there is different slang here and I struggled with words that were unique to different provinces and of course my accent caused problems.

 

Homes in Thailand were radically different and honestly, some look like complete ****. The TV channels were strange, the holidays, being chased by dogs etc. The atmosphere felt good and I truly felt I was at home but something was off about it.


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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 09:06

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Positive: Coming here, probably. My social skillset had a huge increase in spending time here. Learned a good deal from Ninja Stan from when I started here, SeaGloom was a strong inspiration in terms of verbally improving myself and a bunch of other stuff. And frankly, I'm just plain happier after coming here. Making all that comedy stuff was pretty fun, too XD

Negative: Saying "Screw it all" in college. Between my mother's abrupt passing, picking the wrong Major, and a handful of other things, I flat-out gave up 10 years ago and it's going to pave my life career-wise into a negative direction.

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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 09:12

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Positive: Discovering video games at age 4.

Negative: Joining the BSN.
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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 09:17

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Positive: Coming here

 

Negative: Not doing very well in high school. It wasn't that I didn't understand the material or anything like that. I just had a very lazy attitude. As I've gotten older I've realized just how stupid of me it was.


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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 09:25

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Getting married. Best thing that ever happened to me. It's work, but it is so very much worthwhile.

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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 09:30

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Positive: Coming here

 

Negative: Not doing very well in high school. It wasn't that I didn't understand the material or anything like that. I just had a very lazy attitude. As I've gotten older I've realized just how stupid of me it was.

 

^ This.

 

Also ...

Positive: Reading mind-awakening philosophical notes from the ancient times

Negative: Using Internet in general (wasting my time every day, unless I'm reading important/useful stuff or something like that)


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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 09:33

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Positive: Admitting and accepting my bisexuality.

 

Negative: Slacking off in my junior and senior years of high school.


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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 09:47

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One of the things that has been for the better was when I first moved out to British Columbia for school. It was not long after High School and while I wasn't new to responsibility it was the first time I was living on my own, and since it was a new city I didn't know anybody. I still wish that I hadn't left that place after my school was done.

 

Also fully embracing the idea behind the quote "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up" has been great.


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Posté 15 juillet 2014 - 09:47

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Negative: Going from high school to college was a pretty big change for me. Not only was the work load more intense, but I became overwhelmed by having to constantly do presentations in front of a class, or struggle in an area that I wasn't good at (like math for instance).

 

Positive: I became much more confident in myself after having done those presentations, and I was able to handle tough work schedules (for the most part) after having done them for quite a few years now. Plus, going from a Liberal Arts major to an Illustration major has had a huge impact in the way I look, see, and produce various artwork. I am currently studying to become an art teacher, and I feel that this change from a general arts degree into a career where I can have an impact on students lives, has been the most rewarding thing I could have ever done.


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 12:52

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Divorce
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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 01:11

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In no particular order, meeting my (future) wife, getting married to her, having our child together and the deaths of my grandmother, stepdad and dad. And all of these happened within roughly three years of each other.


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 01:29

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good

 

-my first sexy time

-traveling was nice :P

 

bad

 

-lived through 6 wars : / and counting


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 01:36

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I think the biggest change in my life was probably when I get 15 dollars worth in nickels, dimes and loonies. Someone had owed me money and this person paid me in this way.


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 02:18

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Also fully embracing the idea behind the quote "When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up" has been great.

 

o_o Wow... What's that like?


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 02:26

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Positive: Like Nate Assassin, discovering video games at a very young age (I have no idea how old I was, it was so long ago) - although this has also been a negative change.

 

Going to drama classes (over 100 lessons) which admittedly, hasn't helped much, but I know how to enunciate, though I still suffer from nerves and a slight speech impairment. Going to an afternoon mini school, thing, which helped me in maths and English (though my intellect is fairly high, it was - and still is overpowered by my learning disability which was aspergus (a disgusting sounding word, TBH) and my slight Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)).

 

Negative: I'd rather keep to myself.


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 02:27

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Moved out of my parent's house, and then moved out of my great-uncle's house. Beat crippling depression. Became my little sister's legal guardian when my parents weren't capable of doing so - which ended up being pre-parenthood parenthood. Met my wife, got married. 

 

On the bad side, losing my leg function indefinitely, my great uncle dying, and secondary school in general. 


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 02:27

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I'm sure a lot of things I've done would have changed someone's life.

 

I'm just extraordinarily stubborn with my lifestyle.


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 04:29

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Negative: Prison. Positive: Learning from the ordeal I quickly discovered many of the people locked up were repeat offenders. It was a game for them they would joke about how they nearly beat their wife to death ect. I decided I didn't want to be like them.
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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 10:35

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Switching from PS to PC. Took me five freaking months to get used to WSAD ><

 

All tradgedies aside I think it was my parent's 'divorce' (you can't call it a divorce since they never got married even after being together for 20+ years.) Not that there was a law-suit or a court case or all that bollocks. Nah, it was a mutual understanding that basically fcuked my dad's head completely.

 

Now, think to yourself of a dude who's carefree, does what he wants, is confident, and most of all hilariously Scottish. Now break that image into 2000 pieces grind it into powder and let Jabba the Hutt stick it up his bum-hole.

 

I didn't have to live with him, but because I'm such a nice guy and really the only son he has (my brother wanted nothing to do with him) I got stuck with this barely functional father who stopped working, and did a complete 180 on everything for two years.

 

Granted, he's back to himself now.

 

But fcuk that was horrible just seeing him like that. Once I was at his flat and he couldn't get out of the house for SIX hours. Just pacing up and down like some gamer lost in Eye of the Beholder.

 

It's probably why I use humour for everything now. Not that I'm particularly funny, but I'm not the kind of person to show what he feels and reflects everything off with some stupid joke.

 

Like how I started this post with.

 

Then again, have me watching Clannad and I'll flood your house with my tears.


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 10:40

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Oh and for positives... think it would be my dog. Not that I really HAD a life then, was only like two, but it introduced me to animals and that's where my love for them grew.

 

When I talk about animals I show indifferent 99% of the time. Often I talk about 2000 different ways you can torture a cat. But in reality, I wouldn't hurt them. All because my dog (who was like my sister really.)

 

I grew up with her, from 2 to 17 where she (inevitably) died at 15.

 

A lot of people say you shouldn't keep animals as pets. But to be honest, I think it really is the best way to introduce a child to nature and teach them to understand that all animals have feelings and personalities just like they do.

 

Here is da' proof

 

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I'm that ass on the right. The one the dumb-ass blue tracksuit. The retard on the right who thinks he's a goalkeeper is my older brother. The sexy thing in the middle was my sister :'-)


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 10:55

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Positive: Joining university. The atmosphere and people were more to my liking than back at school. Middle school was unpleasant like hell and I felt quite terrible when I moved on to high school since  I was put into a class where people already knew each other since childhood so it was difficult to fit in. I Had mood swings and felt depressed. Here, people came as strangers, they did not know each other and thus it was easier for me to make friends. Most of the people I met are friendly and down to earth.

 

Negative: I still get moody from time to time and can be rather antisocial, which I sense will quite possible harm me in the future since it's difficult for me to make friends with new people. 


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 11:32

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Divorce

 

I'm guessing that's a positive thing? You deliberately didn't say to keep us guessing didn't you?  :angry:

 

For me:

 

Positive:

 

+Leaving my parents house for two years. It made me independent and more mature. Plus one word: freedom.

 

Negative:

 

-Picking the wrong college course.

-Growing up. Being grown up sucks, so many responsibilities...

 

Awesome:

 

++Forgetting about responsibilities by not taking them on in the first place.

 

i.e

 

Oh you want me to help you in your house renovations by getting up at 7AM, travelling to you and ensuring your resources arrive on time my friend? Not my problem. Maybe you should have thought about your house renovation if you couldn't hack it mate.

 

You have an assignment to hand in at university tomorrow but only decided to work on it the night before and want me to do it for you instead now because you're a lazy ****? Too bad for you that I'll be playing Dragon's Dogma which is far more important to me. (This happened last year)

 

You have bills you can't pay because you spent all your money on drinking and want me to lend you some money now? Too bad I have bills to pay for these designer clothes I just ordered...

 

Oh, you're struggling at work and need my help in August? Too bad I'll be enjoying my vacay in Cyprus around that time... 

 

Makes me sound like a **** doesn't it? :P Of course I don't actually speak like this to people...

 

I do help people from time to time but if it's some major responsibility they're giving me just so they can do something stupid, I decline. I also decline helping people who have got themselves into these positions when I've warned them (case in point, the university assignment thing where my friend thought it fun to party for the whole week despite me telling him that he needs to get his work finished. He still hasn't learnt and actually has to resit his exams for this year too).

 

Yeah, I'm the voice of reason who warns everyone and then these same people come back to me in the end expecting me to get them out of the trouble I warned them about. Too bad I no longer help. I just can't be bothered anymore as I have my own problems to deal with...

 

Worst point: I've got a friend phoning me up literally crying saying he's going to kill himself because his girlfriend (who is also a model) won't speak to him. This guy comes from a rich family, has a job, is at university and has had plenty of girlfriends in the past. Meanwhile I'm sat at home desperately searching for a job (but the job market where I am is really ******-poor) as I'm going crazy just being at home, it's come to the point where I'm volunteering just to give me something to do whilst this guy cries over his first world problems (although my problems aren't that bad either but they're certainly more important).

 

So yeah, biggest change? Not giving a damn anymore. Funnily enough, my headmaster at secondary school actually gave this advice to me before I left "you need to stop thinking about other people. Think about yourself now if you want to be successful" and he's actually right as, when avoiding other people's problems, I progress greatly. I guess it does pay to be selfish sometimes.

 

Fancy getting that advice from a headmaster, lol. He was actually a good guy too though.

 

Edit:

 

Wow, tl;dr.

 

What the hell is BSN DOING TO ME???


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 04:09

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Well, there were three periods in my life that I consider to be life changing...

 

The first occurred back in 2003 when my father passed away. He was really my best friend. Where everyone would lose patience with me, he would be there. Granted, I was eleven at the time, so that's how I saw it. Earlier in that year, I was switched to home schooling, so the friendships that I did have were diminished in a sense. A few months afterwards, I asked my Aunt who lived in a big city if I could live with her. She happily took me in, and I moved to where I live now. The first year was really difficult since I was homeschooled, and I didn't have any friends. I ended up failing the homeschooling program, and I developed a poor attitude. It was also when my introvertedness and my shyness fully sunk in. However, my aunt always made me feel loved, her roommate provided me with guidance, and I eventually made a few friends, and I had a lot of teachers like me when I got back into regular schooling. It was a struggle for the better half of two years, but I am glad that I moved up here. It's the only way I could see anything positive coming out of the situation, as the town I used to live in is infested with meth heads now.

 

The second occurred in 2007 when my aunt decided to separate me from my friends and send me to a different high school than them. She had heard promising things about this school, and she considered my friends to be bad influences because my grades were slipping, and I was usually getting into some sort of trouble. I hated it there my first year. I had no friends, and every attempt I made at getting friends usually resulted in mockery or getting treated like an outsider. I would usually eat my lunch in front of my locker and read. One day, some guy from my Spanish class in Junior High asked if I wanted to eat lunch with him. That guy ended up being my best friend. Over the course of the first two years of high school, I never tried in classes. Most of my classes were remedial classes. My best friend was the valedictorian, and he also worked a part time job. He slowly changed how much I valued education. Also, at the end of my sophomore year, I had a teacher tell me that she believed in me and that I wasn't using my full potential. That prompted me to take a few Honors classes and some more advanced math and science classes that I was used to. Also, I had my favorite teacher and my best friend coax me into managing the girls basketball team. That was the first time I ever was a part of any organization. Having people come and reach out to me showed me that everything isn't so bad in the world. It's thanks to that type of kindness that I didn't give up, and that I'm in college trying to make something of myself.

 

The third occurred over the years 2012 and 2013. Since high school, I feel back into my shut-in ways. Many of my friends moved on to different states, or they were starting families. I felt like I was stuck in place, and I began falling into depression. I drank nearly every day in 2012. Somehow, I managed to keep up my grades in college, though. I started to put my value as a person into those grades, and I stopped going around the few friends I have in this city. During this time, my grandfather passed away after years of medical issues. I wasn't really there for him when he was in the hospital. I hardly ever visited him. I couldn't stand seeing him that way. My drinking got worse. It reached a head at a friend's birthday party a few months later. I didn't care about his birthday when I got the invite; I just wanted the free booze. I drank a ridiculous amount of alcohol, and I blacked out. I almost got into fights with nearly every friend I had in Junior High and High School. The episode finally stopped when I snapped out of it as five of my friends had me pinned on my bedroom floor, and the subsequent phone call to my grandmother convinced me to stop what I was doing. It took me a long time to forgive myself for that. As I was slowly mending those fences, my grandmother fell ill. She passed away during my finals week. I sat back and thought about how easy and quick it is to lose the people you love. I realized that I was stuck in a shell; there was a wall between me and the people I loved. I decided that I was going to change that. Though luck, I managed to get back in contact with my mother, who I hadn't seen since I was five. I've been slowly building a relationship with her. That is my starting point for this new era in my life. I am slowly trying to come out of my shell and connect with the people who are in my life. I am slowly opening myself up to let new people in. I am slowly figuring out who I am and what I can bring to the world.

 

No pressure or anything. hah


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Posté 16 juillet 2014 - 06:39

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For me personally, many negative situations that I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy gave birth to the most important relationships in my life. In all honesty I probably wouldn't be typing this had I not met them. It's hard to change things about about yourself, and even more difficult to see the good that resides in your heart. The first step in becoming positive is the ability to forgive not others but yourself, and that road is by far the hardest to navigate. 

 

I'm still no saint, and while there's room to improve I now accept who I am. Like my avi says " Honor never dies " these three words sum up those with me now,and those no longer here. I will continue to improve each day for them and myself, word is bond. Negative, positive it all melds and forms the path we walk, I'm just glad I'm still here to walk it no matter how difficult it becomes.


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Posté 26 juillet 2014 - 12:01

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Negative: A terrible breakup (not as vapid as it sounds)

 

Positive: A great relationship (3.5 years and counting!)

 

Other changes involve my sexuality, philosophy, family relations, moving to another region of the country, failing my first year of university and the years of fallout from that, and as crazy as it is, my experiences with Mass Effect.


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