I picked it once, when I didn't know Alistair would ditch you for it. I reset right away. It was a while ago, so I don't remember much.
I can see how he feels betrayed, but it's not like he's trying to help stop the Blight on his own after he leaves, which, again, is going against his sworn duty.
Yeah he pretty much tells you several times no. If you pick it anyway well...it's clear what you chose.
And what is he going to do when he's leaving Denerim (cause he's been exiled you realize) to head out of the country? Should he just ignore the new Queen's law? He does have survival instincts. Anora demands his head unless you intervene. He clearly regrets it later on (since he becomes a drunk). It's a childish (he is like 20) but understandable reaction.
I'm not arguing it was a personal betrayal. I'm saying it was immature and childish especially when you consider the fate of the world hangs in the balance and the type of organization the Grey Wardens are. He's an immature oathbreaker.
Oh agreed on the immature and childish. He throws down an ultimatium and gets huffy and ditches the wardens (and fails to see them outside of rose tinted glasses). I'm just saying it amuses me that people complain about it. You chose Loghain over him so clearly you didn't care that much.
Also Riordan is a goddamned idiot in this scene. He fails to explain why and doesn't think Alistair would be more reasonable if he knew. Then of course he hinges his bets on a possibility instead of an actual grey warden there. *shakes head*