Yes, harassing someone to get on with doing something while saying it is fine to take their time is being a jerk.
But telling them to get it done in a reasonable time-frame isn't. And if it is a requirement for full citizenship (like the vallaslin), then not getting marks you as immature and irresponsible by any objective standard. You will need to get them eventually, or you're not an adult.
If we we're playing eighteen year-olds, I'd agree with you. But as we're playing characters who range between the ages of twenty-forty (meaning that's anywhere between two and twenty-two years after we're supposed to get the vallaslin), it's just nonsense.
Oh, I know what the Dalish will do. They flat out tell you. They are going to 'reeducate' their City Elf cousins.
Source?
Quote and citation, please. And not the wiki.
You are correct in the definition of compromise. However that makes this not a compromise since one side is getting exactly what they want.
Do we?
I apologize for the double-post.