Personally, I find the argument that because someone was born a certain way(as straight males/females are) that they should be excluded from content due to 'history' a fairly weak argument. That's reverse discrimination, an abhorrent practice in my view.
Bringing a history of discrimination or being 'catered to' into the equation is a weak argument in my opinion, as it automatically assumes something about people who can not help the way they were born, and punishes them retroactively for the sins of society, rather than their own. All this does is create more hate and anger, rather than healing and understanding. It enflames entitlement and defensiveness on both sides, rather than bring a sense of mutual understanding and honest, constructive discussion.
This is my humble opinion, subject to my own preconceptions and background. As a flawed human being, I lay no claim to its infallibility. Simply a perspective worth considering, I hope.
I totally get where you're coming from, but to me this isn't about exclusion, but inclusion. History is important because it impacts social views towards specific minorities, in this case, LGBT+ communities. We live in a society where these groups are routinely excluded from media of all types - or represented in offensive, stereotypical ways. That's not my opinion, that's a fact, a quick google search will set anyone who disagrees with that straight (no pun intended).
Like I said, I advocate for equal opportunities across the board for all types of people. But in this particular instance (In Dragon Age Inquisition. Not other games. I'm talking about Dragon Age Inquisition) where we already know for certain that not everyone can have equal options, for me (and I'm speaking as a straight female) the next best case scenario imo is for the 'extra options', I guess you could call them, to be given to the people who have been routinely and systematically left out.
I don't see not having the extra options as a punishment if it results in what I consider to be a progressional reward for all of society. And I believe only people already in privileged positions (like me) who would act retroactively to having less options, already have their own problems with internal entitlement that overall is irrelevant to the issue. Honestly? Other straight people kicking up a fuss and being upset over having one less option is unimportant to me when I see minority groups celebrating and rejoicing at finally being represented to a standard that they haven't been before.
But also, like you, I realise this is just my opinion and it may be flawed. You're welcome to disagree with it.