Respectful and constructive debate attempt, here we go.....
I totally get where you're coming from, but to me this isn't about exclusion, but inclusion. History is important because it impacts social views towards specific minorities, in this case, LGBT+ communities. We live in a society where these groups are routinely excluded from media of all types - or represented in offensive, stereotypical ways. That's not my opinion, that's a fact, a quick google search will set anyone who disagrees with that straight (no pun intended).
I agree whole-heartedly that history is important. But we must realize that we create history every day. Every time we exclude heterosexuals because homosexuals have been excluded in the past, we run the risk of making them feel the same pain and anger that homosexuals have been dealing with for a long time. In the case of making sure that the homosexuals have options in the first place, this kind of exclusion in unavoidable. No argument on earth could convince me that Sera and Dorian's romances are excluding heterosexuals, given that Cassandra and Cullen exclude homosexuals. The exclusion is equal to both sides. Don't like it, don't play.
But when we decide that for the explicit purpose of previous discrimination, we're going to make Character A gay, or make sure that spare romances lean towards homosexuals, in my opinion, is just as bad as doing it the other way around. I have no problem whatsoever with deciding that Character A fits better as a gay character based on his concept and characterization. That's a balanced and fair way of deciding that, and something I support entirely. But using previous history to decide current history is allowing a past filled with pain and anger to control your actions, rather than inform them. In my opinion.
Like I said, I advocate for equal opportunities across the board for all types of people. But in this particular instance (In Dragon Age Inquisition. Not other games. I'm talking about Dragon Age Inquisition) where we already know for certain that not everyone can have equal options, for me (and I'm speaking as a straight female) the next best case scenario imo is for the 'extra options', I guess you could call them, to be given to the people who have been routinely and systematically left out.
And for me, I don't really care what way those romances fall. Could be gay, could be straight, it makes no difference. As long as the romances fit the characters better, I'm all for them. I was leery at Bioware making romances with actual orientations at first, but now I rather like it. Because they believe, and I do to, that it enhances the characters. It doesn't take anything away from Dorian that he's only attracted to men. It doesn't make Cassandra less of a character because she feels the same way, or that Iron bull will romance anything on two feet. It fleshes them out. It shows that they are not just some electronic waifu that the player has control over.
And trying to confine these characters because discrimination has happened in the past, in my opinion, weakens the characters far more than making them playersexual ever could. As long as Bioware puts the characters before a real-world agenda of making up for the exclusions of the past, then I am all for them,
I don't see not having the extra options as a punishment if it results in what I consider to be a progressional reward for all of society. And I believe only people already in privileged positions (like me) who would act retroactively to having less options, already have their own problems with internal entitlement that overall is irrelevant to the issue. Honestly? Other straight people kicking up a fuss and being upset over having one less option is unimportant to me when I see minority groups celebrating and rejoicing at finally being represented to a standard that they haven't been before.
It's not about whether or not gay players or straight players are excluded from something. It's the reasons behind that exclusion. If Bioware thought that Solas would fits best for male elves only, and would provide "SUPER story reasons" to match, I would have no problem with their decision. If, however, they said, "Well, gay males have never the most romance options before, so we made Solas gay", I would get pretty ticked off. It would show that they made a decision not based on the character they created, or even what makes sense for the story. Rather on a attempt to make up for previous discrimination and exclusion, things that CANNOT be made up for entirely.
I know from experience that when a wrong has been committed, the only force capable of overcoming it is forgiveness and reconciliation. Bioware has made 23 games with more straight options than gay ones. 23 games the other way wouldn't solve the issue. All it would do is upset a different group. At some point, the sins of the past have to be left there. We can and must learn from them, we can and should apologize for them. We can attempt not to commit them in the future. But to actively make things go the other way only leads to more anger and hate, rather than mutual understanding and equality.
But also, like you, I realise this is just my opinion and it may be flawed. You're welcome to disagree with it.
And I do. But I think the two of us can and have managed a disagreement based on mutually respectful articulation of our views.
Respectful and constructive debate attempt achieved?