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[Naughty Bear]

http://www.blackplanet.com/

 

you have been warned

I wonder if there are any Blasian or mixed black on that site?

 

And why the warning?

[the_last_krogan]

I am getting it, I am just saying that I dont understand those one night stands where the guy OR the woman just goes for sex for a single night and then goes their separate ways. Yeah I had my share of them some years ago so it's not that but I would never do it because of those experiences I had. It's cheap and I would much rather have a guy who loves me and whom I can trust isn't having sex with several other girls or whom I know isn't just using me for my good looks or for my body but he is there because he wants me for me.

Todays technology is amazing

 

even the little house on the prairie can get the internet

[Naughty Bear]

Uh, Chick Attraction Powers guy.

I don't have standards. In fact, Standards bug me and i consider them to be stereotyping. That's why I'm single and proud.

Why not try men? I'm totally serious.

 

I'm not gay, but would try one day if I found someone special enough to try with.

[Nukekitten]

but here is the REAL problem, no one wants a relationship, all the guys i find online are just looking for fun which is not bad but ... online is all i have for now.....
 
I just want to meet a nice guy IN THE military ... that's my only standard but so far I have found none ....

Active service personnel tend to comprise a tiny percentage of any advanced country's population. Somewhere like Israel, for example, has, as far as I'm aware, only 176,500 people in the military. The population of Israel is 7.9 million. That's something like 2.2% of the population.

For most countries, it seems likely that you're going to be ruling out well in excess of 90% of people from consideration with that alone. :|
 

so whats YOUR standard
 
what do you guys/girls look for in a guy/girl ?!!

I don't really. I just feel a certain away around certain people. I suppose if I was trying to cache it out: I want someone who can enrich my life and whose life is going to be enriched by me, and who's attractive to me and finds me attractive.

That'd unpack into a lot of things though.

As a minimum to try to get to know them a little:
They need to be attractive to me.
I need to be attractive to them.
Feels safe to be around.
Doesn't just talk about himself.
Has a compatible sense of humour.

To continue to get to know them:
Kind, polite, socially aware.
Has interests he can share not all of which are my own,
Is interested in sharing others interests with them.
Loyal, (not just using me,) but not to a fault; I don't want someone who thinks that we're going to be together forever no matter what happens - to me that feels like giving someone a license to hurt you, and I don't want anyone to give me that sort of power or assume that I'm going to give it to them.
Honest.

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Even then there are a lot of things implied by those criteria that could further unpack into all sorts of other things. Like being kind and polite takes a certain degree of courage. If you're insecure all the time, there are limits to the kindness you're going to be able to show people, you may even end up lashing out at people to try to assert some sort of control.

And being kind implies supporting people. And it implies being predictable, to a certain degree. (One of the hallmarks of a kind of person I don't want to be around is that you can't predict very well when they're going to make you feel bad and when they're going to make you feel good. If I felt that, I'd make up whatever excuse I had to to get out of their presence safely and then, hopefully, never see them again. Rent a hotel room for the night, change my phone number, move house - whatever it took to get away from them.)

And having a range of interests that you can share and being willing to share with others requires a degree of care about the world around you and a goes along with certain degree of intelligence. If you're just passing interest in things then you won't have a lot to share, you'll just have vague anecdotes.

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So, it'd relatively simple at the top level and unpacks into more complex stuff further down that'd specify more precisely what sort of behaviour I think being kind and so on lead to. But... this isn't really how I get to feeling a certain way about someone. I know there are some things that are just 'Erk, no!' If someone said them to you. But it's not like I sit there with a check-list, and even attempting to cache it out like this there's almost certainly heaps of stuff missing.

Feelings aren't that simple. People aren't that simple. I can't sum them up as a little list of traits that I'm consciously aware of. I don't tick all the boxes and then go 'Oh, I've levelled up and got the Love feat for +5 base happiness!'

And even for the list given above. Who I consider kind is likely to be different to what someone else might consider kind. I've met a lot of self-proclaimed 'nice-guys' who I considered to be anything but nice.

I'm not single at the moment.

[Dova]

http://www.blackplanet.com/

 

you have been warned

Those status updates though...

[Sir DeLoria]

The truth shouldn't depress anyone... it should free you

That's how pessimists see it, I for one enjoy my life

[Dermain]

That's how pessimists see it, I for one enjoy my life

 

Being a pessimist is fun though. You never have to suffer from your expectations being wrong...they're either right or you're pleasantly surprised. 

 

As for my standards:

 

Someone that could put up with my levels of craziness. If I ever find said person then I'll specify further requirements.

[the_last_krogan]

I don't get what you mean...

 

Care to explain?

your old world views on dating 

and that high horse your on

[Inquisitor Recon]

http://www.blackplanet.com/

 

you have been warned

Hmm I think I would fit in well there.

[mousestalker]

Ahem

[Sir DeLoria]

Being a pessimist is fun though. You never have to suffer from your expectations being wrong...they're either right or you're pleasantly surprised. 

Nah, that's just too depressing for me, I'm rather the optimist with thick enough skin to rarely get upset about anything

[breakdown71289]

 

[the_last_krogan]

Hahahahahahaha thank you for giving me some good laughs here

 

Just because I wouldn't give a guy like you a second look but instead the boot and because I have dignity I am suddenly on a high horse? hahaha. You're a funny guy and that's why you could never ever get a quality girl like me but only cheap night club girls.

but cheap night club girls want me to slay them …and I'm okay with that

[The Hierophant]

Just remember to strap up krogan.

[the_last_krogan]

Just remember to strap up krogan.

but bro

 

 

 

but seriously ..people at home always use a contraception