I agree with you. I think I realized why I took this conversation today so hard. I've been saying, "It's getting better" and "In 10 years it will be different" for 14 years. And it HAS been getting better and it IS different now and much of that is because of Bioware. But there's still so much progress to make. I mean it's still at a place where us getting less content 100% of the time is still viewed as not only acceptable but fair. And to hear that the company that is MOST likely to be the first to offer us the 'bonus' romance just ONE TIME doesn't think that it's realistic right now, well that just emphasized to me how far we still have to go and how unlikely it is that I'll see the change in gaming in the upcoming years. I think that's really why I got upset today.
As has been noted, David himself remarked not too long ago (during development of Origins) that it would probably be hard to justify a same-sex exclusive romance (especially from a companion).
And it wasn't too long before that when he was waffling on the idea of including gay characters at all (though I never truly understood his arguments back then, so maybe he was indicating some other position—discussions on this topic weren't as common in those days).
So this is an extraordinary amount of progress in just the last five or six years: we've gone from the expectation of having nothing, to at least being able to say we're not completely ignored, to finally being confident that we will have options—maybe not the most, but at least enough to give us the same choice that everyone else has previously received (I'd hesitate to think that choice is guaranteed now, but I really hope it is).
I too would prefer that "relative equity" could also mean we wouldn't always be the last in terms of who is eligible for any extra content, but I still think the improvement from where we were when this whole thing started has already been staggering. (And I think David's mention that representation need not solely rest on the romance plots is especially worth paying attention to, as it's something we've seen little of in the past and could provide a much more inclusive atmosphere at far less cost—it's already started to happen in the alternate media, with people like Mae'Varis and Celene.)