I'd like to add a few comments before I head off to do other things...
First, regarding the love interests: the writers are telling a story, not conducting a social experiment or pursuing a specific socio-political agenda. They create that story against the backdrop of a real world social, cultural, and political sea-change. They encourage that sea-change by creating characters that are not the standard straight male protaganist. But...primarily these folks are story-tellers and their job is to tell a damn fine story...and they do. I personally don't always enjoy where they take certain parts of the story, or the characters (still pissed they killed off Khalid at the beginning of Baldur's Gate 2), but they always, always take me on an emotional ride. Which is damn good writing. Thank you, Bioware writers, for your stories.
I love the romance elements because they further flesh out character development. They strengthen the humanity of everyone involved. They add punch to those heart-rending moments in the game. And they're freaking fun... I would truly miss them if they were removed from the game. Yes, the game would still be good. Yes, it would still have playability. But, I don't know, I think it would have a little less soul.
For those who feel disappointed about fewer options than they'd wanted, expected, hoped for...well, sorry. It's not about fair, it's about story. (And, pragmatically, it's also about selling that story so they can continue to write new ones!) For those of the LGBT community who calmly and rationally explained why they felt disappointed and/or who shared their feelings of despair about ever feeling validated in this world that we share...thank you for sharing. Please continue to do so because that is what helps bring about social change. As a straight woman, I don't share your experience but, again as a straight woman, I can relate to aspects of it because I can remember wondering, for more decades than I'm sometimes comfortable thinking about, when the HELL it would finally get to be my turn. I guess I'd just like to say, keep hanging in there, keep raising awareness, and hang on to your hope because you know what? The world really is changing. The world that I am living in now is NOT the world into which I was born, thank God. I'm a high school teacher. I'm currently teaching in a pretty conservative, traditional community. Ten years ago, you couldn't get through a class discussion without some student making a homophobic, racist, or sexist comment while the rest of the class agreed with them and/or laughed. Now, in that same community, that same demographic, that same grade level, the kids are championing the rights of people to love where they will. When the occasional homophobic comment gets tossed out, the kids shut it down, not me. That's freaking progress.
Second, about the types of stories that Bioware chooses to tell being "formulaic"... Shakespeare was a formula writer. Dickens was a formula writer. Conan Doyle was a formula writer. I don't think their stories are therefore less valid and/or interesting. Most genres in fiction follow some type of formula whether it's high, heroic fantasy, space opera, murder mystery, police procedural, or romance. The trick isn't to avoid the formula, it's to use it to grip and engage the audience. Some writers do it better than others. I happen to believe that the Dragon Age team does it very well. Is saving the world a common plot device in high, heroic fantasy? Yup. But you know what? I think there are worse ways in which we can step out of our own personal skins and spend some time. And maybe, if we succeed enough times in "virtually" saving the world, we'll begin to recognize that we can take small steps to saving our own.
Personally, I'd like to say thank you to Mr. Shumacher and Mr. Gaider for sharing their thoughts, comments, and clarifications with us. Double thank you to Mr. Gaider; I had no idea you wrote Zevran. He is, hands down, my favorite Bioware character to date (though Varric runs a close second). His cheerfully amoral personality makes me smile every damn time I play Origins. Thanks also to posters Daveliam, JPrince, Lady Nuggins, and many others who shared ideas and experiences that made me think. And finally, thank you SofaJockey for a picture I am SOOO keeping. Cracks me up every time I look at it! Off to make dinner...