Its not really about 'they got this many and we got that many' or anything like that (for me anyway). Like I say, Mass Effect 2 had no gay options and it didn't particularly bother me. I'm not of the mindset that says 'You've included this many gay characters, so now you must always include at *least^ that many!) I don't want any aspect of their writing to be about filling quotas and the like.
My point is that it would nice to have a gay/lesbian romance that wasn't 'you and the outsider' for once. It always seems like the gay options are those on the fringes, those who are not really a part of society in the way that others are, not part of the main framework of the story/city/whatever. It frequently comes up in such romances that the partner will say something like 'You're taking a risk being with me' usually for some other reason than their sexuality, but as a clear metaphor for that (Merrill worries about Hawke being seen with an elf, Anders about his apostate sratus, Isabela feels she isn't good enough or respectable enough, Leliana worries she's just a closet sadistic murderer etc etc).
And again, its not like there's no examples that buck that trend - its one of the few things that ME3 managed to get right. Cortez, Traynor, Kaiden are all part of the established structure, are respected and none of them are seen as Shepard taking any kind of socially bold chance or anything etc etc. So I have faith that things are progressing along the right general track, but it was still a bit of a setback to see DA:I's lineup, and think 'Nope, still not quite over that hurdle yet'.
Maybe next time...