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[Tarek]

lol cute cat

[Dr.Fumbles]

That cat has wisdom beyond his years.

[AutumnWitch]

Why is that always about making the girl do whatever the hell she wants?

 

That the whole point of what I wrote....if you are really in love you will want to make it about her and it will make you happier for doing it. If you don't feel this way about someone than you haven't really been in love. And I just used "her" because that's who I like, but you can substitute "him" for most of the above and its still the same.

[Battlebloodmage]

Being in love is when you realise her happiness is more important than yours.

Being in love is when no matter what you're doing thoughts of her dominate your whole being.

Being in love is taking the rubbish out for even when it's cold and raining outside

Being in love is watching her telly shows.

Being in love is finding yourself looking up love poems to send her by email.

Being in love is knowing her size and birthday without having to be reminded.

Being in love is leaving work early to surprise her with a dinner out.

Being in love is letting her have the softer pillow.

Being in love is letting her have the last of anything.

Being in love is letting her sleep in when she needs do.

Being in love is saving enough hot water for her to have a shower.

Being in love is always letter her drive if she wants to.

Being in love is eating whatever she cooks and loving it.

Being in love is holding hands.

Being in love is sneaking in a few kisses in the cinema.

Being in love is bringing her chicken soup when she is ill.

Being in love is enjoying her friends.

Being in love is respecting her even when she's wrong.

Being in love us understanding that certain times of the month she feels anything but beautiful.

Being in love is always seeing her for the beautiful creature she is, even when she doesn't herself.

Being in love is reminding her how wonderful she is.

Being in love is doing her laundry,

Being in love understanding then the word "us" means more to you than the word "I" ,

Being in love is letting her be right even when she isn't,

Being in love is breathing, sleeping, living and existing for that look in her eye when you know you've made her happy.

Being in love is being there for her in all the good and all the bad and loving her more for sharing them both.

Being in love is not changing your man to suit your taste

Being in love is loving a man for who he is and not how much money he makes

Being in love is not comparing your man to other men

Being in love is standing by your man even if others think he's wrong

Being in love is not forcing your man to be friends with your friends

Being in love is about respecting each other spaces

Being in love is always cheering for them and not belittle or talking them down

Being in love is about understanding your men's hobbies like video games, sports, or fishing

Being in love is about equal partnership and not expecting to be treated better or worse

Being in love is about accepting each other's flaws and not looking for prince charming

 

Honestly, I feel like guys and girls have certain things we're looking for in a partnership, but as the word implies, it should be about equal partnership, and people shouldn't expect perfection. There shouldn't be an imbalance because relationship is all about the give and take.

[AutumnWitch]

Being in love is accepting the man who who he is

Being in love is not changing your man to suit your taste

Being in love is loving a man for who he is and not how much money he makes

Being in love is not comparing your man to other men

Being in love is standing by your man even if others think he's wrong

Being in love is not forcing your man to be friends with your friends

Being in love is about respecting each other spaces

Being in love is about understanding your men's hobbies

Being in love is about equal partnership and not expecting to be treated better or worse

Being in love is about accepting each other's flaws and not looking for prince charming

 

My post was not about gender. I love women so I wrote how I viewed it from my POV but certainly you could put a male pronoun into everything I wrote and it would still be ok. (cep the time of the month thing). everything doesnt have to be a pissing contest.

[Gravisanimi]

Positive Behavioral reinforcement.

[Battlebloodmage]

My post was not about gender. I love women so I wrote how I viewed it from my POV but certainly you could put a male pronoun into everything I wrote and it would still be ok. (cep the time of the month thing). everything doesnt have to be a pissing contest.

I see, the post seems to imply that men have to put in all the works, and I just put in a perspective from what a guy may expect from a woman. I know a lot of women expect these prince charming types just as men expect these trophy wives, but it's pretty unrealistic because love is all about compromising, there should be a balance between give and take regardless of whether you're in a gay or straight relationship. The same as you though, mine could be change to a woman and it would still work. It's a bit in our nature to have an idealized partner, but at the same time, while asking for what a man or a woman can do for you, you should ask what I can also offer into a relationship. Even if it were a lesbian relationship, your post gives off the impression that it were the things you expect from the other person while referencing to love.

[Vroom Vroom]

I see, the post seems to imply that men have to put in all the works, and I just put in a perspective from what a guy may expect from a woman. I know a lot of women expect these prince charming types just as men expect these trophy wives, but it's pretty unrealistic because love is all about compromising, there should be a balance between give and take regardless of whether you're in a gay or straight relationship. The same as you though, mine could be change to a woman and it would still work. It's a bit in our nature to have an idealized partner, but at the same time, while asking for what a man or a woman can do for you, you should ask what I can also offer into a relationship. Even if it were a lesbian relationship, your post gives off the impression that it were the things you expect from the other person while referencing to love.

I believe the point that AutumnWitch was trying to make was that one should give a relationship their all and that their partner should do the same, because love is about caring and giving (or something like that, I've never been in love so the point may have fallen a little short of reaching me completely). 

[Eternal Phoenix]

I was going to say: doing her laundry? Bringing her soup? Who am I, her slave? I thought that's what we men get married for so we can get a new mother who does this all for us!

[AutumnWitch]

I see, the post seems to imply that men have to put in all the works, and I just put in a perspective from what a guy may expect from a woman. I know a lot of women expect these prince charming types just as men expect these trophy wives, but it's pretty unrealistic because love is all about compromising, there should be a balance between give and take regardless of whether you're in a gay or straight relationship. The same as you though, mine could be change to a woman and it would still work. It's a bit in our nature to have an idealized partner, but at the same time, while asking for what a man or a woman can do for you, you should ask what I can also offer into a relationship. Even if it were a lesbian relationship, your post gives off the impression that it were the things you expect from the other person while referencing to love.

 

I find this post very ironic. Since I am a lesbian and never been in love with a man maybe I can't relate to you perspective. See this is the thing, I have found that what I put out there in love I get returned just as nice or more so. Everything I listed in my OP is ALSO how my lovers treat me. I really hate using a Christian proverb here but it pretty much says it all about love. "for whatsoever a person soweth, that shall they also reap"

[Eternal Phoenix]

Being serious and I believe in equality in both friendships and relationships. Many of the points AutumnWitch made, if they're followed, should also be made by the other person in the relationship otherwise it really is servitude. I don't think AutumnWitch meant it to sound like it's a one way streak anyway. In any case, I agree with Battlebloodmage who elaborated more on what I'm on about.
 
And to add one to Battlebloodmage's list:
 
Being in love is throwing your man a beer when he comes back from work.

 

God knows I always need one!

[Eternal Phoenix]

I think we all agree relationships should be equal and yeah, surprising your other half with treats/presents etc is nice so long as they do the same to you once in a while (otherwise that person is a jerk, unromantic or working too hard!). If we go further, we'll be delving into new territory "how to make relationships work by spending some recreational time with you significant other after work each day" etc XD

[breakdown71289]

Uhhh.....what'd I miss?