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[Vroom Vroom]

Yeah, tell that to the psychopaths.

Oh, they love too. They just express it differently. XD

[Dr.Fumbles]

Oh, they love too. They just express it differently. XD

 

Stabby Stabby?

[Dermain]

Yeah, tell that to the psychopaths.

 

And narcissists (I can NEVER spell that right). 

[Dermain]

Best thing is not to get involved with anyone, that way you get no hassle with psychopaths being the main ones and all other ****. I've seriously started turning down guys now all the time, cause I dont see any point in starting any relationship knowing that it will end up failing anyway and that's kinda sad and weird I know but that's the mindset I have now, I can't seem to change it, I want to but I cant.

 

Sounds a bit like depression. Presumably you just got out of a negative relationship, and it should pass with time. 

 

So you can either wait it out, attempt to prove the cognition wrong by taking a chance, or attempt to seek help (with varying results).

[AutumnWitch]

Best thing is not to get involved with anyone, that way you get no hassle with psychopaths being the main ones and all other ****. I've seriously started turning down guys now all the time, cause I dont see any point in starting any relationship knowing that it will end up failing anyway and that's kinda sad and weird I know but that's the mindset I have now, I can't seem to change it, I want to but I cant.

 

May I quote Flemeth here? "A statement that possesses more wisdom than it implies."  Trust you gut sister. When you meet the right one you will know it.

[breakdown71289]

Best thing is not to get involved with anyone, that way you get no hassle with psychopaths being the main ones and all other ****. I've seriously started turning down guys now all the time, cause I dont see any point in starting any relationship knowing that it will end up failing anyway and that's kinda sad and weird I know but that's the mindset I have now, I can't seem to change it, I want to but I cant.

 

You can change that mindset. By getting to know a person really well before making any decisions, you can pretty much gauge whether or not a relationship will work with them or not. Sometimes people will end up surprising you either way, but that's just a risk you have to take.

[breakdown71289]

It's not depression and it's not just one relationship, it's all of them so far. I even left my husband after several years. I just don't believe in good guys anymore and I know it's usually giving me trouble when I start a relationship, these trust issues I have but I can't change how I feel.

 

I feel for you, but there are good guys and good girls out there. I've met quite a few so far, so I know that much is true.

[Lunch Box1912]

You'll know.

[breakdown71289]

When you take a risk several times over and over you kinda start to wonder if it's worth it Breakdown. Cause you cant always tell if a person is trustworthy or not, sometimes they can fake it for years and years, I've tried that a few times. Some of them turned into jeaolus freaks, controlled my every move but they didnt start out that way, they started out so damn nice, didnt care if I had male friends and all but then suddenly they changed after a year, so you can never know. That's just one example of how a relationship can become a hell.

 

That is a good point that you can never know, but not every guy is going to be like that. You just need to keep trying OWA, you'll find that special someone

[Sir DeLoria]

This thread is a funny mixture of optimism and pessimism.

Where's the realism when you need it?

[Dr.Fumbles]

This thread is a funny mixture of optimism and pessimism.

Where's the realism when you need it?

 

It comes up when you are least expecting it.

[AutumnWitch]

[Dermain]

When you take a risk several times over and over you kinda start to wonder if it's worth it Breakdown. Cause you cant always tell if a person is trustworthy or not, sometimes they can fake it for years and years, I've tried that a few times. Some of them turned into jeaolus freaks, controlled my every move but they didnt start out that way, they started out so damn nice, didnt care if I had male friends and all but then suddenly they changed after a year, so you can never know. That's just one example of how a relationship can become a hell.

 

Now you're starting to sound like me, and I haven't even been in a relationship.

 

Stop that, it's not healthy!

[Vroom Vroom]

Here is love as defined by HK-47: "Definition: 'Love' is making a shot to the knees of a target 120 kilometers away using an Aratech sniper rifle with a tri-light scope... Love is knowing your target, putting them in your targeting reticule, and together, achieving a singular purpose against statistically long odds."

[smoke and mirrors]

Damn i am out of likes so many great posts here

[Jorji Costava]

It's not depression and it's not just one relationship, it's all of them so far. I even left my husband after several years. I just don't believe in good guys anymore and I know it's usually giving me trouble when I start a relationship, these trust issues I have but I can't change how I feel.

 

Sorry to hear that. I do believe that there are good guys out there, but the trouble is that it's hard to tell which is which until it's too late; like Gabriel Byrne's character from Miller's Crossing said, "Nobody knows anybody. Not that well." So your lack of trust is totally understandable. I'm a dude myself, so unfortunately it'd be hard for me to try and give advice on how to tell who's trustworthy without being self-serving ("If they're a lot like me, then that's a sign you can trust them! Obviously!").

 

Hope this doesn't sound condescending at all, but I'd say that the main thing is this: You shouldn't feel any extra pressure to be in a relationship, and there's nothing wrong with turning guys down. Love and romance are wonderful things, but I think it goes without saying that their presence or absence in your life doesn't have to define you as a person. Hopefully you do find Mr. Right, but even if you don't, you can still live a totally awesome and complete life.

[smoke and mirrors]

For those of you with out someone .... don`t give up on love but i don`t know don`t try to hard it will find you

[The Love Runner]

@smokeandmirrors

As long as you have the magic, you can always pull love out of a hat.

[SlottsMachine]

I feel kind of sorry.

 

Why do your jokes always get interpreted as some sort of aggression?

 

Happened to my thread a while ago.

 

And I was like "dayum dudes, chill."

 

I have had about enough of you and your Yang Wenli tea drinking avi!