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[UnknownIntrigue]

Why?  every woman or girl  do not want a guy the way he is. No matter how kind one is to a girl, no matter how tender and passionate and watchful , no one ever likes them. simply because they seem to be "different". Because they are a student or does not have a fixed job yet. Because they are simply straight and honest and not "intelligent and good enough to handle life". because they are not tow faced like so many others. Because unlike so many others what they think or feel is important to them and dont ignore them like others. Because they do not play tricks. They are call naive for those reasons. But whoever does those things, they say good for life and all. This same women that say those guys are not god, If they were someone famous, someone of stature, a football player, a sportsman or someone reach, they would all have different ideas.  If they check on a girl to whom they were introduced on a daily basis and message her and try to talk to her, or call her a couple of times in a day when they know she is upset about something and try to make it go away, they are being pushy and abusive and stalker. But the person who like calls or messages once or twice a week or every couple of days, he is the winner. Why? because he ignores the girl and seems the girls enjoy being ignored rather than being treated well. because seems hey like to run after the guy and make him like them instead of having a healthy daily growing friendship and relationship. If they break up with someone and the guy goes after them and try to see what went wrong and have a discussion about it and fix it, he will be ignored and pushed away. But if the guy after a misunderstanding or a problem ignores the girl and let her go her way and such, the girl will come back and the guy is the winner. 

 

really. why is it likes this? this question have been on my mind for quite sometime now.

[mybudgee]

Simple question: Why is English so hard?

[UnknownIntrigue]

Simple question: Why is English so hard?

Cause it is not my first language and I type fast? and because my native tongue is so far from close to English? 

[mybudgee]

Simple answer: Do not "settle"..  Be yourself & do not play childish mind games. If anyone comes around and is honest & decent, give them a chance. Tell the truth, especially to yourself.

[Cyonan]

This thread is going places.

 

Although if somebody can't accept you the way that you are, they probably aren't worth your time.

[UnknownIntrigue]

Simple answer: Do not "settle"..  Be yourself & do not play childish mind games. If anyone comes around and is honest & decent, give them a chance. Tell the truth, especially to yourself.

I asked the question in general. But yeah that is what I always am, or try to be. But as you can tell from my original post, it has gotten me nowhere in life.

[AutumnWitch]

First, not all women want the same thing in a man. Two, a lot of it is biology (as unromantic as that is). ALWAYS remember that it has been scientifically proven than men know they are "in love" as early as two meetings with a women. Most women on the other hand take at least 7 and the average is closer to 10. 

 

1. Be patient it takes a while for most women to like a man and feel safe with them

2. Most women think men are after only one thing, it takes time and trust to get past this

3. Be confident and funny. These two things have been shown to mean more to women then looks in most studies.

4. Don't be selfish but don't be too generous either (esp in the beginning)

5. Don't come across as needy

6. Have a job or have the capacity to support yourself

7. Show interest in her interests even if you don't like them

8. Don't insult her IQ (even if she is dumb as a stump)

9. Be able to make fun of yourself (Humility can be a great quality)

10. When you meet ANY woman treat them with the respect of any other real male friend.

11. Farting no matter in any circumstances is NOT funny esp in the beginning

 

Start off with these..,they will do you good.

[UnknownIntrigue]

First, not all women want the same thing in a man. Two, a lot of it is biology (as unromantic as that is). ALWAYS remember that it has been scientifically proven than men know they are "in love" as early as two meetings with a women. Most women on the other hand take at least 7 and the average is closer to 10. 

 

1. Be patient it takes a while for most women to like a man and feel safe with them

2. Most women think men are after only one thing, it takes time and trust to get past this

3. Be confident and funny. These two things have been shown to mean more to women then looks in most studies.

4. Don't be selfish but don't be too generous either (esp in the beginning)

5. Don't come across as needy

6. Have a job or have the capacity to support yourself

7. Show interest in her interests even if you don't like them

8. Don't insult her IQ (even if she is dumb as a stump)

9. Be able to make fun of yourself (Humility can be a great quality)

10. When you meet ANY woman treat them with the respect of any other real male friend.

11. Farting no matter in any circumstances is NOT funny esp in the beginning

 

Start off with these..,they will do you good.

Thanks for the...outline/breaking of the things Autom. Actually. I observe all of the things you mentioned. I am just a little bit low on patience considering my past and wanting resolution sooner rather than later and I am half able to support myself, as the job of a translator is whenever he is needed. The rest, I always observe and do.

[guitarmouse]

 But the person who like calls or messages once or twice a week or every couple of days, he is the winner. Why? because he ignores the girl and seems the girls enjoy being ignored rather than being treated well. because seems hey like to run after the guy and make him like them instead of having a healthy daily growing friendship and relationship.

I don't have a perspective on male relationships but one thing holds true

 

Show a girl you don't care and she'll chase you, show a woman you don't care and she'll replace you.

[UnknownIntrigue]

I don't have a perspective on male relationships but one thing holds true

 

Show a girl you don't care and she'll chase you, show a woman you don't care and she'll replace you.

True words spoken. hands down on this one. And that was exactly what I said and you quoted Gmouse. My question is why though? wouldn`t the logical conclusion of a guy showing interesting and caring and such be having true feelings and not caring being a sign of not being serious or not feeling something serious?

[guitarmouse]

True words spoken. hands down on this one. And that was exactly what I said and you quoted Gmouse. My question is why though? wouldn`t the logical conclusion of a guy showing interesting and caring and such be having true feelings and not caring being a sign of not being serious or not feeling something serious?

I think maybe it comes down to the emotional maturity of the object of your affection.

[UnknownIntrigue]

@Guitar I would like if I could but sadly I'm out of likes but you are absolutely right! When I was younger all that game playing from the guys used to work on me but now that I am older I am done with all that, if anyone tries that **** with me, acts like a kid, acts hard to get or anything like that then they get the boot, cause I am just not gonna bother with them then.

Big like for that. I somehow act the same if a girl does that. I may once or twice try to reach her or maybe a final time. But if she keeps pulling that trick and stuff like more than once or twice, then I just quite. relationship s not about chasing one another. It is about reaching a mutual understanding and respect and feeling of safety and peace. Which is achieved through meetings and discussion. Not through playing cat and mouse, which seem to work more often than not this cat and mouse trick.

[UnknownIntrigue]

I think maybe it comes down to the emotional maturity of the object of your affection.

well, guess that pretty much is the answer as you and Autumn said it. Emotional maturity. The younger age in girls and their emotional maturity causes that sorta of reaction and the fondness for the cat and mouse game and maybe a little drama and some small token of quakes. Rather than a peaceful respectfull steady growing relationship and feelings.

[Fishy]

11. Farting no matter in any circumstances is NOT funny esp in the beginning

 

 

 

 

Whatttt ? **** .. I love farting on my first date.

 

in =/= on

[Fishy]

First, not all women want the same thing in a man. Two, a lot of it is biology (as unromantic as that is). ALWAYS remember that it has been scientifically proven than men know they are "in love" as early as two meetings with a women. Most women on the other hand take at least 7 and the average is closer to 10. 

 

1. Be patient it takes a while for most women to like a man and feel safe with them

2. Most women think men are after only one thing, it takes time and trust to get past this

3. Be confident and funny. These two things have been shown to mean more to women then looks in most studies.

4. Don't be selfish but don't be too generous either (esp in the beginning)

5. Don't come across as needy

6. Have a job or have the capacity to support yourself

7. Show interest in her interests even if you don't like them

8. Don't insult her IQ (even if she is dumb as a stump)

9. Be able to make fun of yourself (Humility can be a great quality)

10. When you meet ANY woman treat them with the respect of any other real male friend.

11. Farting no matter in any circumstances is NOT funny esp in the beginning

 

Start off with these..,they will do you good.

 

 

But the most important thing.. Don't think about all of this when you meet a woman lol. Be yourself. If it's does not work . Big deal. Move on. It's not a job trying to court a woman. Man it's so draining when I see people trying too hard and come has obnoxious.

[AutumnWitch]

I don't have a perspective on male relationships but one thing holds true

 

Show a girl you don't care and she'll chase you, show a woman you don't care and she'll replace you.

 

very true but why is it that when you show many (not most) men that you are not interested in them they see that as a green light to chase you even harder? I hate this silly games people play. I understand that playing "hard to get" can have it's benefits as it weeds out a lot of undesirables BUT how are people supposed to know when you are playing hard to get and when you REALLY aren't interested. Its why I have never played that game.

[Seraphim24]

If someone is "playing" hard to get, then they are easy to get.

 

Anyway, there is someone out there for everyone. It's kind of like that guy in UCSB (A school in the states where there was a shooting), he was like a gamer and he went to Santa Barbara. It's like, um, no. I've been to UCSB a number of times and it's not the most anti-gamer thing in the world, far from it, but it's not where someone like him should of been in the first place. If you like Japan you take the class on Japanese Edo period history, and find the Japanese foreign exchange student. If you like angry german women (or angry german women like you) you go to the class on real politque and the study of Hegel, etc.

 

If he had gone to Chicago school of architectural design or whatever I'm sure he would of found that girl with hipster glasses and a tattoo of Yoshitaka Amano on her stomach. They could of gamed Assassin's Creed long into the night and made sweet hot passionate sex.

[breakdown71289]

^ I hate those games as well, I like it much more when a guy is straight up with me, when he can be brave enough to tell me he likes me instead of playing hard to get, cause that would just show what a real man he truly is instead of all those childish ignoring and pretending games, it's so silly, it's the same when the woman does it to the man as well of course, no games should be played at all ^

YES! YES! YES! Well, except for video games........but that's a different matter! LOL

[the_last_krogan]

Why?  every woman or girl  do not want a guy the way he is. No matter how kind one is to a girl, no matter how tender and passionate and watchful , no one ever likes them. simply because they seem to be "different". Because they are a student or does not have a fixed job yet. Because they are simply straight and honest and not "intelligent and good enough to handle life". because they are not tow faced like so many others. Because unlike so many others what they think or feel is important to them and dont ignore them like others. Because they do not play tricks. They are call naive for those reasons. But whoever does those things, they say good for life and all. This same women that say those guys are not god, If they were someone famous, someone of stature, a football player, a sportsman or someone reach, they would all have different ideas.  If they check on a girl to whom they were introduced on a daily basis and message her and try to talk to her, or call her a couple of times in a day when they know she is upset about something and try to make it go away, they are being pushy and abusive and stalker. But the person who like calls or messages once or twice a week or every couple of days, he is the winner. Why? because he ignores the girl and seems the girls enjoy being ignored rather than being treated well. because seems hey like to run after the guy and make him like them instead of having a healthy daily growing friendship and relationship. If they break up with someone and the guy goes after them and try to see what went wrong and have a discussion about it and fix it, he will be ignored and pushed away. But if the guy after a misunderstanding or a problem ignores the girl and let her go her way and such, the girl will come back and the guy is the winner. 

 

really. why is it likes this? this question have been on my mind for quite sometime now.

Just be like me bro

Be the unbreakable stallion 

 and all the woman will come and see if they can break you

[the_last_krogan]

Annnnnnnnnnnd, Here we go again.

I couldn't resist.

seriously bro

theres been a decade long movement by woman to turn all us men into soft little salarians who want to talk about feelings and being sensitive and write poems about waterfalls and trees and all that other softy stuff

 

its like a ocean wave trying to wipe us out

 

 not me bro 

I'm the rock who stands against the ocean

I'm out there striking back

fighting the good fight