Guest_TrillClinton_*
seriously bro
theres been a decade long movement by woman to turn all us men into soft little salarians who want to talk about feelings and being sensitive and write poems about waterfalls and trees and all that other softy stuff
its like a ocean wave trying to wipe us out
not me bro
I'm the rock who stands against the ocean
I'm out there striking back
fighting the good fight
I bet you wont post pictures of yourself tho./
Guest_AugmentedAssassin_*
seriously bro
theres been a decade long movement by woman to turn all us men into soft little salarians who want to talk about feelings and being sensitive and write poems about waterfalls and trees and all that other softy stuff
its like a ocean wave trying to wipe us out
not me bro
I'm the rock who stands against the ocean
I'm out there striking back
fighting the good fight
I understand your point of view and respect it, But it's not what I'm talking about. The way you live your life only benefits your hormones, You don't forge your own path in life.
Oh, And by the way, I hate the Krogan and love the Salarians, Naturally. 
Why? every woman or girl do not want a guy the way he is. No matter how kind one is to a girl, no matter how tender and passionate and watchful , no one ever likes them. simply because they seem to be "different". Because they are a student or does not have a fixed job yet. Because they are simply straight and honest and not "intelligent and good enough to handle life". because they are not tow faced like so many others. Because unlike so many others what they think or feel is important to them and dont ignore them like others. Because they do not play tricks. They are call naive for those reasons. But whoever does those things, they say good for life and all. This same women that say those guys are not god, If they were someone famous, someone of stature, a football player, a sportsman or someone reach, they would all have different ideas. If they check on a girl to whom they were introduced on a daily basis and message her and try to talk to her, or call her a couple of times in a day when they know she is upset about something and try to make it go away, they are being pushy and abusive and stalker. But the person who like calls or messages once or twice a week or every couple of days, he is the winner. Why? because he ignores the girl and seems the girls enjoy being ignored rather than being treated well. because seems hey like to run after the guy and make him like them instead of having a healthy daily growing friendship and relationship. If they break up with someone and the guy goes after them and try to see what went wrong and have a discussion about it and fix it, he will be ignored and pushed away. But if the guy after a misunderstanding or a problem ignores the girl and let her go her way and such, the girl will come back and the guy is the winner.
really. why is it likes this? this question have been on my mind for quite sometime now.
My friend, your confusion as well as your command of the English language are greatly concerning to me. Here is my advice on the matter.
Women are by nature "psychological engineers." They will ALWAYS want to alter your behavior, attitude, decision making processes, etc, even if they deny their inner desire to do so. It is how they work. So do not fear if a woman takes issue with the ways you view things or do things, because she always will to some extent.
Furthermore, her way of seeing and doing things will never make complete sense to you. While you may be able to piece her thoughts together in retrospect, you will almost certainly never be able to do it ahead of time. On the rare occasion that you are able do it ahead of time, she will not like it. Many women idealize being authoritative and unpredictable, so you being able to guess her thoughts and actions and act accordingly is highly frowned upon. Her being predictable means you won't have to drop what you're doing and ask for her two cents. She will almost always want to give those two cents, even if she says she doesn't.
Women, at heart, only truly care about 3 things.
1.) Social Status. They want to be respected by their clique, and preferably be the envy of it. Thus, you, the suitor, must be an asset to her image. She wants you to be something she can go to her "friends" (term used loosely) and brag about. Thus, you and your maintenance of the relationship must be superficially desirable to all outsiders. An absolutely shocking number of women will maintain an unhealthy, dysfunctional or abusive relationship for a long time if it makes them look good. Or at least not look bad. Point is, be something she can brag about.
2.) Self-Image. No thanks to Hollywood, women (and people in general) are often rather delusional about what relationships are and what they are not. So, she will often compare herself and you and your relationship with mythological relationships, people, and standards. So you must know what ideals she holds dear, what ideals she despises, and do your best to adhere to them and avoid them respectively. You will not be able to stick to them 100% of the time as ideals are by definition unachievable-but 98% certainly beats the hell out of 5%. In short, make your relationship what she believes a relationship should be.
3.) Self-Preservation. Their physical, financial, and to a lesser state emotional well-being. This typically(but not always) supersedes the other priorities more and more as they age. When they are younger, it is often less important to them as the support of their parents, relatives, and friends is a given in most situations. They also typically need a lot less when they are younger ,especially when taking children into account. One may think that this is the most rational and well-founded of the 3 Concerns, but you must be careful not to align yourself with a woman that overemphasizes it-she is essentially a "love mercenary."
But my final piece of advice to you, friend, is to know how to recognize and abandon a lost cause. Failed advances can be disheartening, and occasionally get you some flak. Regardless, it's a risk you must take unless the prospect of dying alone is really interesting to you. If you really are trying for a girl and getting nowhere, odds are she is a lost cause. With a lost cause, your pursuit of her is effectively a waste of your time and resources. Continuing your pursuit is denying yourself to other prospects that are-potentially-far more mutually rewarding. So simply drop out of contact entirely. Don't go out of your way to avoid her-evasion is an admission of weakness-just simply treat her as you would any other stranger. You don't give a damn anymore, you take into account lessons learned for the future, and you move on. Your previous failures are not absolute, but they often are, so it is generally good to avoid relapsing into your previous affections.
seriously bro
theres been a decade long movement by woman to turn all us men into soft little salarians who want to talk about feelings and being sensitive and write poems about waterfalls and trees and all that other softy stuff
I fail to see how being in touch with your emotions and feelings is considered a "bad" thing.....
I fail to see how being in touch with your emotions and feelings is considered a "bad" thing.....
Your emotions are irrational, unpredictable, and destructive.
They have their uses when you are the master of them. This "in touchy feely" crowd demands that your emotions be the master of you.
Guest_TrillClinton_*
I fail to see how being in touch with your emotions and feelings is considered a "bad" thing.....
Nothing wrong with being emotional, just don't let it influence decisions. There is a population that keeps so much emotion bottled up because of this idea of emotions being a bad thing. Emotions are okay, just don't let them cloud your judgement.
Why? every woman or girl do not want a guy the way he is. No matter how kind one is to a girl, no matter how tender and passionate and watchful , no one ever likes them. simply because they seem to be "different". Because they are a student or does not have a fixed job yet. Because they are simply straight and honest and not "intelligent and good enough to handle life". because they are not tow faced like so many others. Because unlike so many others what they think or feel is important to them and dont ignore them like others. Because they do not play tricks. They are call naive for those reasons. But whoever does those things, they say good for life and all. This same women that say those guys are not god, If they were someone famous, someone of stature, a football player, a sportsman or someone reach, they would all have different ideas. If they check on a girl to whom they were introduced on a daily basis and message her and try to talk to her, or call her a couple of times in a day when they know she is upset about something and try to make it go away, they are being pushy and abusive and stalker. But the person who like calls or messages once or twice a week or every couple of days, he is the winner. Why? because he ignores the girl and seems the girls enjoy being ignored rather than being treated well. because seems hey like to run after the guy and make him like them instead of having a healthy daily growing friendship and relationship. If they break up with someone and the guy goes after them and try to see what went wrong and have a discussion about it and fix it, he will be ignored and pushed away. But if the guy after a misunderstanding or a problem ignores the girl and let her go her way and such, the girl will come back and the guy is the winner.
really. why is it likes this? this question have been on my mind for quite sometime now.
Grow up.
Women do not owe you a relationship if you are "kind". Being "kind" is a prerequisite to your humanity.
Also learn to take care of yourself. Its stupid to rush into a relationship if you cant even pay your damn rent.
Lastly, you obviously have poor taste in women. If the person you want to be with cant love you, then why be with that person?
My advice, try making friends first. Look for people who will bring you up, who are kind, who will accept you. If you cant do that, then you are no where near mature enough to be in a relationship.
Your emotions are irrational, unpredictable, and destructive.
They have their uses when you are the master of them. This "in touchy feely" crowd demands that your emotions be the master of you.
Yes they can be irrational, unpredictable, and destructive, but only if you do not have good control over them. Like you said, when you are the master of them. I just think that some people (not all of course) prefer to be some kind of "robot" that is devoid of all feeling and emotion, in favor of logic and reasoning. The truth is though, we need both to be all that we can be as human beings.
very true but why is it that when you show many (not most) men that you are not interested in them they see that as a green light to chase you even harder? I hate this silly games people play. I understand that playing "hard to get" can have it's benefits as it weeds out a lot of undesirables BUT how are people supposed to know when you are playing hard to get and when you REALLY aren't interested. Its why I have never played that game.
I think firstly it is because of that said emotional maturity and that challenege as one of my friends here suggested. Also I think it is because of the mindset that some think when the girl chases after them if they play mind games and ignore them they will come running after them, the guys think the same and think maybe the girl wants them to chase her for a cange or something like that. But as you said it can lead to misunderstandings and unpleasantness as there is no clear cut method or sign or thing to show weather this type of action is weather a green light or not.
^ I hate those games as well, I like it much more when a guy is straight up with me, when he can be brave enough to tell me he likes me instead of playing hard to get, cause that would just show what a real man he truly is instead of all those childish ignoring and pretending games, it's so silly, it's the same when the woman does it to the man as well of course, no games should be played at all ^
True. I also think that ignoring someone just to get their attention may also be some sort of a sign of selfishness or wanting to have others under their...domination or something like that. I also think it may mean that the said person, guy/girl, is not that serious and does not take life or relationships seriously.
If someone is "playing" hard to get, then they are easy to get.
Anyway, there is someone out there for everyone. It's kind of like that guy in UCSB (A school in the states where there was a shooting), he was like a gamer and he went to Santa Barbara. It's like, um, no. I've been to UCSB a number of times and it's not the most anti-gamer thing in the world, far from it, but it's not where someone like him should of been in the first place. If you like Japan you take the class on Japanese Edo period history, and find the Japanese foreign exchange student. If you like angry german women (or angry german women like you) you go to the class on real politque and the study of Hegel, etc.
If he had gone to Chicago school of architectural design or whatever I'm sure he would of found that girl with hipster glasses and a tattoo of Yoshitaka Amano on her stomach. They could of gamed Assassin's Creed long into the night and made sweet hot passionate sex.
M....are you analyzing the environmental issues?
My friend, your confusion as well as your command of the English language are greatly concerning to me. Here is my advice on the matter.
Women are by nature "psychological engineers." They will ALWAYS want to alter your behavior, attitude, decision making processes, etc, even if they deny their inner desire to do so. It is how they work. So do not fear if a woman takes issue with the ways you view things or do things, because she always will to some extent.
Furthermore, her way of seeing and doing things will never make complete sense to you. While you may be able to piece her thoughts together in retrospect, you will almost certainly never be able to do it ahead of time. On the rare occasion that you are able do it ahead of time, she will not like it. Many women idealize being authoritative and unpredictable, so you being able to guess her thoughts and actions and act accordingly is highly frowned upon. Her being predictable means you won't have to drop what you're doing and ask for her two cents. She will almost always want to give those two cents, even if she says she doesn't.
Women, at heart, only truly care about 3 things.
1.) Social Status. They want to be respected by their clique, and preferably be the envy of it. Thus, you, the suitor, must be an asset to her image. She wants you to be something she can go to her "friends" (term used loosely) and brag about. Thus, you and your maintenance of the relationship must be superficially desirable to all outsiders. An absolutely shocking number of women will maintain an unhealthy, dysfunctional or abusive relationship for a long time if it makes them look good. Or at least not look bad. Point is, be something she can brag about.
2.) Self-Image. No thanks to Hollywood, women (and people in general) are often rather delusional about what relationships are and what they are not. So, she will often compare herself and you and your relationship with mythological relationships, people, and standards. So you must know what ideals she holds dear, what ideals she despises, and do your best to adhere to them and avoid them respectively. You will not be able to stick to them 100% of the time as ideals are by definition unachievable-but 98% certainly beats the hell out of 5%. In short, make your relationship what she believes a relationship should be.
3.) Self-Preservation. Their physical, financial, and to a lesser state emotional well-being. This typically(but not always) supersedes the other priorities more and more as they age. When they are younger, it is often less important to them as the support of their parents, relatives, and friends is a given in most situations. They also typically need a lot less when they are younger ,especially when taking children into account. One may think that this is the most rational and well-founded of the 3 Concerns, but you must be careful not to align yourself with a woman that overemphasizes it-she is essentially a "love mercenary."
But my final piece of advice to you, friend, is to know how to recognize and abandon a lost cause. Failed advances can be disheartening, and occasionally get you some flak. Regardless, it's a risk you must take unless the prospect of dying alone is really interesting to you. If you really are trying for a girl and getting nowhere, odds are she is a lost cause. With a lost cause, your pursuit of her is effectively a waste of your time and resources. Continuing your pursuit is denying yourself to other prospects that are-potentially-far more mutually rewarding. So simply drop out of contact entirely. Don't go out of your way to avoid her-evasion is an admission of weakness-just simply treat her as you would any other stranger. You don't give a damn anymore, you take into account lessons learned for the future, and you move on. Your previous failures are not absolute, but they often are, so it is generally good to avoid relapsing into your previous affections.
Thanks for the advice man. Good stuff. Will remember these things.
Grow up.
Women do not owe you a relationship if you are "kind". Being "kind" is a prerequisite to your humanity.
Also learn to take care of yourself. Its stupid to rush into a relationship if you cant even pay your damn rent.
Lastly, you obviously have poor taste in women. If the person you want to be with cant love you, then why be with that person?
My advice, try making friends first. Look for people who will bring you up, who are kind, who will accept you. If you cant do that, then you are no where near mature enough to be in a relationship.
Who said they owe me(or any guy) anything. I just said why they take ...ignorance and games better than kindness. that is all.
Hey, it is not like we are going to live in the same place in the first day.
...can not argue with that. Though I am not the type to chase someone if she shows no interest after a couple of days or two tries of courting her.
And about that....well...I can do that...but....due to the things I have experienced, my confidence is low and hence it has lowered my social skills. Espcially now that people have made me believe I am like..abnormal. lol
I don't even have the courage to read all the comments so; Maybe the girl just isn't attracted to you -___- I lvoe how they are always portraited as unreasonable while it's their life, they choose. There's no forcing it. Keep on searching.
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