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[Farangbaa]

I like it how *selfsencorship* are all like:

"But honey I like doing that, you should let me do that. Don't you love me?"

But when I am like:

"But sweetheart, I love doing that, why can't I do that?"
"Because you love me"
"But you... but I... what is this mental gymnastics?!?"

[Scerene]

What do you think about couples who don't see eye-to-eye on gaming?

 

Meaning, one partner loves to sit in front of the PC or console and play for many hours, while the other (perhaps a non-gamer) often feels neglected. Perhaps children are involved as well. Maybe one parent is shouldering the workload of two, due in part to the other spending a lot of time gaming - and other such scenarios where gaming interrupts the balance of life, relationships, and family. 

 

(This isn't an issue for me and my partner. Aside from traveling and kayaking, we both love to sit and play video games together, plus we have zero plans for children.)

 

But I was curious about some of you. Any personal stories to share on the subject? Or outside opinions? 

ugh the older i get the more i realize that i wouldnt be able to put up with someones BS for an extended amount of time. All that being said, both people share an equal responsibility to make things go around. You dont like the burden of being a spouse and a parent? its simple dont be one. The better you do at raising your little bundles of "joy" the smaller the likelihood that they will turn out a nightmare for the rest of us to deal with.

[Olive Oomph]

My wife and I both love gaming. But we don't spend that much time doing it anymore. Sometimes we play together, that's fun. Gaming together is part of how we fell in love in the first place, so it will always be part of our relationship. But yeah, I think it's important that you share an interest in something to have a healthy relationship or you should at least tolerate your partners interests.

[Cknarf]

There was a point early in my relationship where I had basically given up video games.  She was always like 'Babe, let's go to the mall.' or 'Let's go to the movies' or 'let's do what I want to do."  I was so goddamn miserable, and I never had any money.

Then one day, I woke up, turned on the Xbox, and never looked back.  I was happy again. 'Okay, dear.' became 'Go f*** yourself, I'm killing dragons.'
 

We're married now,   but I still play just as much as ever.  As soon as I get home, the console comes on, and I grab the laptop.

"Ugh, we never spend time together anymore."

I know.  Because it sucked, and I was broke all the time.  

Tell me, what would you rather do? Argue for an hour over some piddly sh*t, or say 'F*** off!' and shoot some aliens in the face?


ETA:  I also have a young son.  As he grows older, I understand that I will have to reduce the amount of time I spend online, and I will gladly put the games aside when necessary.  I love that little sh*t machine.  

It's gonna be so cool when he's big enough to hold a controller.

[Dominus]

What do you think about couples who don't see eye-to-eye on gaming?

I think it's inevitable. Emotional/Mental Compatibility doesn't necessarily mean you'll have the same tastes and interests.

The last meaningful relationship I was in had both sides prefer games from Troika/BIS and any of the wordier games. She has a preference for older D&D games, and those make me annoyed more than anything else.

As far as family, couldn't really be further from them. Their mentality for Video Games tend to be all Nintendo-ish games that are pick-up and play. They're not going to have an interest in much that has cinematics, storyline, or that sort of thing. Not that the previous kind is my only kind, but it makes relating to them very difficult.