Haha, you guys are awesome. Squabbling about what my feelings are.
So once more to clearify it: I totally loved it, including the (most bittersweet) ending. The whole journey was something very special. As others said before, to judge the whole thing because of the last few minutes, that doesn't make sense for me. I also thought about the many people saying that the decisions you made didn't count in the end. I see that different, because they changed you and your way of thinking along the journey. Would I have prevented the Krogan cure if I had knew myself and maybe the whole galaxy would die in the end? Most certainly not. Would I prevent the Geth/Quarian peace that I negotiated and totally loved to see? Hello darks1d3 by the way!
Absolutely not! I would've done it exactly the way I did. Because this is me as person. Because I want peace and harmony for everyone. Because I gladly step in for forgiveness, even when it's the hardest thing to do, but for the greater good. And if only one Krogan mother could see her child live, wouldn't it be worth it? You decide to do something in that moment because you think it's the right thing to do. Not to glorify your future or think about that it might result in some outcome years from now. The next thing that came to my mind about this was the Lord of the Rings. Yes, Frodo lived in the end. But he was totally damaged by the journey. I think Tolkien did a wonderful job in trying to bring us near this kind of feeling. The hero can't go back to normal after doing all those things. Parts of you get lost along the way, wounds are battered (mentally) that won't heal. There was only one way: to leave Middle Earth along the others who feel the same. Which for me is the same as dying, because he isn't part of the story anymore. And the last thought about the "all my decisions didn't matter in the end" is: Do you think every decision you made in life has an lasting impact on the rest of your life? Oh boy, I wouldn't want to live a life where it will have earthshaking consequences if I eat Kellogs or Toast for breakfast. I hope you know what I'm trying to say with that. And last but not least: It will kind of matter, because in the post-Reaper world of ME4, one ending will/must/shoul be declared canon, and I think the resignation ending can be ruled out. So we have 3 different universes that can await us. One of them could have Krogan children. Another doesn't. One can have Geth and Quarians. Another not. If Bioware is smart (and I'm assuming that), then maybe you can choose the world which will fit to your final decisions. I would love that. Sorry, my shameless workplace PC doesn't do paragraphs once more. I will change it as soon as possible.
For me, it makes sense because, as I said, the endings had very, very ugly connotations for me. Betrayal. Loss of free will. Capitulation. EC really didn't help with that. In fact, made it worse by basically having people cheer Shepard on for making such a horrible choice. For me, it ruined the entire journey in the same way that a long road trip is ruined by a fiery crash mere blocks from home.
Bittersweet is a moving target. People find different things more or less "bitter" or "sweet" I think Bioware's failing here is assuming everyone would be okay with Shepard dying. Everyone would be okay with fundamentally rewriting how the galaxy worked. For example, I dislike Synthesis mainly because as far as I'm concerned, synthetics were already alive. And neither they nor organics should be forced to change who and what they are to fit some other being's concept of "perfection".
That's why I ended ME3 thinking my chocies didn't matter: no matter what I did, how well or poorly I played, I am violating the galaxy on some level in my attempts to "save" it.
And to take Lord of the Rings as an example, an ME3 version would seem to require Frodo to do diving into the fire after the One Ring to ensure it's destruction. Sure having to go West with the other Ringbearers was sad, but
1) Frodo did not die (Frodo Lives!
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2) Frodo went West in hopes of finding a cure (I'd like to think the Valar succeeded and he lived out his remaining days in peace)
3) Frodo also did not go alone. Gandalf, Galadriel, Elrond, and Bilbo went with him. And in the Appendix, Sam followed years later, as did Legolas and Gimli.
Characters do not have to die to stoop being part of the story. Heck look at how the Dragon Age series works: one story, one hero. DAO stars the Warden, DA2 is Hawke, DAI is the Inquisitor. Death of the protagonist is not required (well, as far as we know for DAI)