Exalted Marches are the only way to spread the Chant by force or to crush heathens. So no I don't think the Chantry's main shtick is that "heathens must be crushed!"
That's not what you said in the post before this one:
That's not what Chantry doctrine says. They don't see the need to spread the Chant by force and have never made a practice of calling an Exalted March exclusively for the purpose of crushing unbelievers to spread the Chant.
Now you're saying they do?
I've never made a point of getting in the face of the Chantry priestess at Ostagar, whether my Warden was Andrastian or not. She was offering a blessing, not asking you to accept the Maker. It just strikes me as kind of petulant for a Warden to get into an unprovoked argument with her about something unrelated to what she was doing.
Once again, you're contradicting yourself. I relayed the conversation verbatim. She offers a blessing, you can ask if she administers blessings to elves. She says she's merely passing on the Maker's blessing as the Maker "looks kindly on all those who will accept him." I think that's rather provoking to someone who lives under the heel or on the outskirts of human society because his or her people have no homeland of their own because humans took it.
And the elf can state the obvious: what happens to those who say "no"? Considering the Chantry tends to, by your very admission, spread the Chant by force and militaristically crush those that don't want to accept it, and the elves are living consequences of that (since centuries ago they refused conversion and the Chantry proselytized them), I think the Elven Warden's "petulance" at her pretending the People's subjugation under the Chantry never happened is rather justified.
That's why I really love the Revered Mother of Redcliffe. After an Elven Warden offers to stay and help Redcliffe, she'll remark that it's rather surprising/admirable (I forget since I haven't gotten to that part of the game yet) that an elf is willing to risk themselves to help a strange human village. She mentions that many elves would claim that humans wouldn't do the same for them were the situations reversed, and says while she would hope that's not the case, she also can't blame them for feeling the way they do and is glad the Elven Warden is willing to help them anyway. I like this woman because she acknowledges that elves get a bad deal from humans and would be justified feeling bitter, but she's so glad you're willing to put your bitterness aside to help them in their hour of need anyway.
A little acknowledgement. That's all I want.
I know all that, but my point is that The Chantry didn't order an Exalted March on the Dales just because the elves weren't Andrastian. There was already a war.
And how did the war get started? At the very least by elves refusing to convert to Andrasteism.
Both sides give different stories, but there is some overlap. The Dalish say that humans sent missionaries, then Templars when the missionaries were thrown out. The city elves say the humans were getting increasingly angry with elves for refusing their religion, then used the attack at Red Crossing (by a handful of elven bandits) as an excuse to jump at the chance to attack the elves, conquor and forcefully convert them. The humans claim the elves became "increasingly isolationist" (which seems to overlap with the Dalish version of kicking out Chantry missionaries), inspired "dark rumors" around the borders (that the Chantry themselves don't even bother to verify if there's any truth to), and the attack on Red Crossing.
Either way, tensions between elves and humans seemed to start when humans took issue with the elven religion, and the elves refused attempts at conversion. Then the border tensions from humans wanting to go into elven land to convert and trade while elves wanted humans to keep out. Then humans jumped at the first chance to attack, sent in an Exalted March, took the kingdom and forced the converted elves to live as servants and laborers in their own.
I get that, but the Exalted March was called on the Dales because the Chantry was under direct threat from the Dales. Once the elves were pushed back to the original Dales/Orlais border, the Chantry was no longer under threat, yet the Exalted March kept right on going.
Thank you, my thoughts exactly.