Yeah, this is a pretty complicated subject... I've heard the exact opposite, in this very thread actually!
Some folks seem to want a s/s couple, and if it's not a lesbian pairing, then this is the only other option. I do understand your concerns though... I guess it could be seen negatively due to Iron Bull's promiscuity, but it could also be positive, since gay relationships are almost never seen in video games... It really would depend on whether it was an actual relationship like Tali and Garrus or something strictly casual like Isabela and Fenris... I would assume that it would be handled more like the former, but you never know.
Personally, I think lesbians are kind of overdone in media, so I'd prefer a gay couple if for no other reason than to break from what's typically acceptable. Nothing against lesbians, of course... it's just too much of a "safe" choice for my liking. I wouldn't be opposed to both a gay and lesbian relationship happening in the background, however...
Actually, it is much more common to see gay men in media, of all types. Gay men made 46% of LGBT characters on broadcast, lesbians 30%, Bisexual women 17%, and Bi men 4%, there was one Trans woman. This was the first time in awhile women LGBT characters were equal to the number of male characters. On cable, last year, gay men were 53%, lesbians 24%, bisexual women 15%, and Bisexual men 6%, with one trans man.
Its fine to want more gay men in media, goodness knows they don't get enough. The fact we are seen as "overdone", when most of the time that is made for Straight men and we actually have less coverage than gay men is really messed up. I looked this up for awhile so source:http://www.glaad.org...s/2013WWATV.pdf