It is stereotype, but both are stereotypes for male audience. James Vega and Jacob are more that male power fantasy as well (although some guys might not like it), at least I don't find their appearance attractive. In other hand Thane was designed for female audience and well I guess they really got me with that one 
Haha @ the Thane comment. Yeah, they got me too! I don't agree with the comment about Jacob and James, perhaps I could soften my argument for James, but no way did they intend Jacob to be anything other than a prize.
Tbh, I would love to see a more diverse set of options in CC's. Not just for each gender separately, but a wide set of options for all. Gamers are a mixed bag of flavors nowadays, which is fantastic and I am glad more companies are taking note of that. I really think Bioware stepped up to the plate for the most part, in spite if the fact they fumbled a little.
Men can wear makeup and women's hairstyles and women can wear male hairstyles, etc. That is something we didn't have before, it's a step in the right direction. Progress doesn't happen overnight and very rarely is it complete.
I try to look at the bigger picture. I wanted to romance Varric, disappointed I couldn't, but I am thrilled transgender people can now at least visual connect and I am happy to see Dorian and Sera are reserved for gay relationships only. It's still a long road ahead, but one small step after another.
And elves finally have shoes again. Baby steps.