I didn't read thru the thread, but..my 2 cents anyway:
Yes, I grieved. It was painful--for me. There is still some grief there.
But see the thing is, I was prepared for that. I knew, like many that were on the forums, or heck, picked up on the heavy foreshadowing within the game. I was willing to accept that.
What got me was that in the original ending, it felt like it was in vain. I never cared about the Catalyst. That never bothered me. I was like, okay sure whatever. But after that, after the Crucible fired...to take a line from Aveline in DA2 talking abt Ostagar, "It was like Hope answered with Nothing. It was the strangest feeling.."
Not seeing the war assets doing their thing may not seem like a big deal, but it would have meant alot. Seeing these races, these people, that I'd grown to care about--that somehow I had managed to bring together--to unite, against this nightmare--do their thing. It would have meant alot. It broke my heart hearing that one line from the Elcor Ambassador when Shep asked how many Elcor managed to escape. For the first time I can recall, the Elcor used no descriptive term, he just said it--after a long pause, "Not enough."
To have seen him/them with those guddam canons on their backs kicking azz would have meant some semblance of justice. Some.
Then to see those relays exploding after having played Arrival a few times. Prepping for ME3 and all that. It was horrifying. It was a moment of horror. Seeing that immediately made me think everything was destroyed--because of Arrival. So, what the hell was this all for then? I just killed everybody.
And after the Crucible firing, the scenes seemed to me to be heavily edited and nonsensical. Your fav crew somehow is walking off this crashed ship? Wth is going on here? Then boom! cue energetic music and buy some dlc. No funeral. No closure. No winding it down.
Wtf? What?
So, although I was prepared for Shep's death, and willing, I was not prepared for the insensitivity with which they would treat this end. For the carelessness. Yes, there was grief, but that's not the whole story. And that seems to be something to which they have yet to grasp, or admit.
The ending -Post-Crucible Firing- was careless and ramshackle. The story, the ME universe, and Shep deserved better. I'm willing, and do, let many, many things slide, but this---they fvcked it up. And want to pretend like they didn't.