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[Fardreamer]

On a side note, I've never seen so many strange ways for people to describe their sexuality.... I don't even know what most of them mean.  Western culture has become so weird.

[Hellosanta]

In my case, I like to see every bits of contents that the game I'm playing can provide. So I go with every available romance options. So, yeah, I don't care about sexuality of characters. Story and characters are those that make me do the romance. 

[Burricho]

As a guy who doesn't particularly identify with any sexuality, in DAO as a male warden I romanced Morrigan. In DA2 as female Hawke romanced fenris. In ME as femshep romanced Garrus. I pretty much romance whoever I like best: I played through ME2 originally as Male Shep and romanced Jack, but went and redid it as femshep just to romance garrus.

[veeia]

Bisexual female with a preference for women...who is married to a man, so I always play f/f first and most frequently.
But I'll do them all. Rarely do I play male characters, but if the VA is good enough, I will eventually. Enjoyed the dude!Hawke enough to do a da2 with him, but never could make it through a male Shep, even though I really wanted to see the Cortezmance. Maybe one day I'll use the save editor and just play me3 with dude!shep.

My favorite romances are Isabela, Traynor, Zevran, and Gorim.

In da3 I want to romance...basically all of them, but the highest contenders are Sera, Solas, Dorian, and IB.

I do like to role play, and if DA3 holds my interest enough and I can find a character idea I like... I am sure eventually I will play a Cassmancing dwarf. But like its been said before, if I get the chance to play as a bisexual lady or a gay man, I'll take it 1000 times before the straight man. Just stories I don't get to see as often...

[LadyCass]

2. Eh. This is arguing over the definition of sexual orientations and the like, things that are such an intimate part of an individual that I try not to define it for anyone but me(and my characters). I view bisexuality as both romantic and physical attraction to both sexes. If you don't have both, I don't think the term bisexual fits. That's just me, though. And in the end, what I think doesn't mean jack squat. What matters is what each individual thinks. It's a God-given right for each of us to be able to decide where we fall on the scale of sexual orientation. I hate it when people try to tell other people what their sexuality is. <Not saying this is what you are doing. Just a pattern I notice with a lot of people I've talked to.>

 

I think that it's worth pointing out that bisexual is a technical term and an official part of the language. Getting to decide what words mean yourself runs into issues when you try to communicate. I believe he was offering you the correct terminology to describe the preferences you have already decided upon, not telling you what the character's sexuality is.

 

On a side note, I've never seen so many strange ways for people to describe their sexuality.... I don't even know what most of them mean.  Western culture has become so weird.

 

Yeah I know, everyone has always been different, but we never had short, pithy terms for it before .

[veeia]

The beauty of language is that it is always evolving and changing to fit our needs. The downside of aging is that you start to see that evolution as something new or weird, instead of something that always happens.  

 

People are finding new ways to define sexual and romantic attraction (or lack of it) , and I see a lot of easy acceptance of it with people in their teens and 20s. These terms are going to only get bigger, and hey...If people can find words that describe them more accurately, instead of feeling uncomfortable with a shoe that doesn't quite fit, that's great!

 

 

 

[nutcrackr]

The crux of the question seems to be whether you would romance a character if you are interested in them, regardless of gender or physical appearance perhaps.

 

Certainly an interesting question, but my answer would be no. Some characters who are the most interesting seem better suited as comrades.

[Greetsme]

I will go wherever my imagination and the story take me.  Male, female, unsure.  Whatever.

[phantomrachie]

I'm a bisexual woman, who plays female characters whenever I get the change & who tends to romance women but that is because I find their characters interesting rather than solely based on gender. 

 

In DA:O, my Warden's romanced Leliana, apart from my one male Warden who romanced Morrigan, as I wasn't a big fan of Alistair or Zevran.

 

Leliana's romance really resonated with me because she was trying to decide who she really was, a sister or a bard. I was playing DA:O at a time when I was beginning to get serious crushes on women and struggling with my own identity. While her struggles were not about sexuality, they were about trying to work out her true self so I really connected with her.

 

In ME I romanced Liara, at first because I was a female Shepard who didn't like Kadian and then because I really loved the person she developed into in ME 2 & ME3.

 

 

In DA2, I fell in love with Isabela during my first playthrough and have been unable to romance anyone else.

 

Normally I've no idea who I'm going to romance when I start playing at a game the first time & then as I learn more about the LIs personalities, I get a feeling for who the character I'm playing will be attracted too. DA:I is the first game were I have some planned romances.

 

Josephine seems fantastic & I'm really looking forward to getting to know her, so I'm hoping she'll be a fit for my first Lady Inquisitor.

Sera seems like a lot of fun & someone who I personally would get along with, so unless I've misjudged her character I've got a Lady Inquisitor in mind for her for my second playthrough.

 

I don't normally do f/m romanced but Ironbull & Blackwall could deffo change my mind.

 

I fell in love with Cass during DA2 so I'll have to roll a male Inquisitor just for her and Dorian's magnificent facial hair means he'll probably get a male Inquisitor too.

 

In fact the only romances I'm not interested in are Cullen and Solas. From what I know of their personalities, they might be friend material but not LI material.

 

Of course all this could change once I start playing the game. In the beginning of DA2 I was sure I was going to romance Merril because I love her VA, but as I played the game, I saw her as my adorable friend rather than as an LI.

 

Anyway long story short it is both a character's personality & gender that matters to me, with personality being the more important of the two.

[Vanth]

I never take the romance options in the game. I am in a relationship in RL and it always seems to me like cheating to engage in a computer romance. I realise that it is not the same as real cheating because there is no other person involved, but it is still having romantic thoughts about someone other than your partner. It makes me feel bad. (I also realise that this is a personal idiosyncrasy, so I am not judging anyone who choses to engage in this way.)

[Flog the Undying]

 

The beauty of language is that it is always evolving and changing to fit our needs. The downside of aging is that you start to see that evolution as something new or weird, instead of something that always happens.  

 

People are finding new ways to define sexual and romantic attraction (or lack of it) , and I see a lot of easy acceptance of it with people in their teens and 20s. These terms are going to only get bigger, and hey...If people can find words that describe them more accurately, instead of feeling uncomfortable with a shoe that doesn't quite fit, that's great!

 

 

 

 

 

This, to all of you complaining about the labels.

[Fardreamer]

I never take the romance options in the game. I am in a relationship in RL and it always seems to me like cheating to engage in a computer romance. I realise that it is not the same as real cheating because there is no other person involved, but it is still having romantic thoughts about someone other than your partner. It makes me feel bad. (I also realise that this is a personal idiosyncrasy, so I am not judging anyone who choses to engage in this way.)

 

Sounds like you have a guilty conscience.  Or maybe you just identify with your character on a deeper level than most people.  Just remember, that person on the screen isn't you.  It's like writing a story or reading a book.  Would you feel guilty if you wrote a story about a girl who fell in love with someone who wasn't your boyfriend?  Would you feel guilty if you read a book about that?

[fdgvdddvdfdfbdfb]

First and foremost I want to start out and say that I want mature answers in this post. I am simply curious of the answers and do not want this to escalate into some form of war of sexuality matters.

 

I have the tendency to try all forms of romances in DA. For this question to be more understanding I can start out and say that I am a man in a heterosexual relationship. There.

 

For example. When I played DA:2 with my male Hawke I romanced Anders on several occasions and went all the way (if you know what I mean) why? Because he was the most interesting character in the game for me. All the female characters except Merill was plain boring to be honest and that's why I chose to go with Anders.

 

When I look at the characters in DA:I I can already feel that Dorian seems more interesting than Josephine and Cassandra and will probably romance him.

 

So my question is, does anyone else just don't care about who you romance and only focus on the "character"?

It depends on whether I'm making a self-insert character/if I've decided the character's sexuality. But yes outside of that I'll be most interested in who has the best love story/dialogue, but not so much on whether the character is the most interesting or not. Since you said "I have the tendency to try all forms of romances" though, doesn't that mean that you do them all eventually?

[fdgvdddvdfdfbdfb]

On a side note, I've never seen so many strange ways for people to describe their sexuality.... I don't even know what most of them mean.  Western culture has become so weird.

lol if you found that a handful wait till you deal with "non binary genders"

[Law the Hybrid]

I like to do all romance arcs because through them you learn things about a character you might not have like Anders and his romantic history and because my favorite Bioware companions( Silk Fox from Jade Empire, Liara from Mass Effect,Leliana in Origins etc) seem to me to 'fit in a romance with someone of the same gender). It doesn't matter to me if the romance is straight, gay, or bisexual because they exist in the real world.  I am a straight male with several gay and bisexual friends and I constantly ask their opinions on who I should romance in a game. 

[Mathias]

I project myself into the character I'm playing, therefore I romance the person I'm most attracted to and have chemistry with.

[go.apostate]

Before playing the games, I like to have an idea of whom I would rather be getting along with,
whether it be friendship or romance. 
That idea can change depending on the personality of the character entirely within the context
of the video game. Their gender and race plays no part in my decision. It happens as it happens. 

For Inquisition, I plan on exploring all the characters romances/friendships, because I find them all
to be interesting in their own way. 

[Vanth]

Sounds like you have a guilty conscience.  Or maybe you just identify with your character on a deeper level than most people.  Just remember, that person on the screen isn't you.  It's like writing a story or reading a book.  Would you feel guilty if you wrote a story about a girl who fell in love with someone who wasn't your boyfriend?  Would you feel guilty if you read a book about that?

 

I don't think these are a fair comparison. If you are reading a book, you are only reading someone else's exposition of a romance, whereas in the game you change the  events by making your own choices. Also, when writing a story you are keeping things purely internal - there is no interaction with an external source. Again this is different from a game where you are interacting with the writers of the story (i.e. Bioware). A better comparison would be having sexual fantasies about someone who is not your partner, which I would also regard as morally wrong. 

 

And I would disagree with your statement "that the person on the screen isn't you". It is you because it is you who are making the decisions for that character. How else would one define "you". (Though admittedly, sometimes these decisions are warped by the writers somewhat by only giving you limited binary choices.) 

[Semyaza82]

I tend to play through all the romance story options sooner or later, though i do always feel a closer affinity for the play through where I play a M/M romance.

[karushna5]

On a side note, I've never seen so many strange ways for people to describe their sexuality.... I don't even know what most of them mean.  Western culture has become so weird.

 

It isn't so much just a Western thing, but asexuality is a bit of a new being recognized so many asexuals around the globe sorta tried to figure it out together. (It means we are not sexually attracted to any one) Until very recently it was not really acknowledged and it was more Asexuals trying to figure themselves out. So we have romantic orientations (like I am homoromantic, I fall in love with women, but not look at them and become attracted, or want to be with them in the physical sense) It doesn't so much define what you do in private so much so the response.

 

Because asexuals have sort of fumbled on their own for a long time, we came up with lots and lots of names to figure it out. Demisexual, Grey Ace, Demi romantic, aromantic. Can be hard for people, especially since people even realizing we exist on any scale scale is something very very new. But the basics is, if someone heterosexual is sexually attracted to people of the opposite gender, and someone homosexual is attracted to people of the same gender, and Bisexuals are attracted to people of both genders, than asexuals are not attracted to anybody.