Considering how MaleShep didn't have the possibility of ending up in a doomed romance while FemShep had 2 of them... yeah, I'd say that FemShep got the short end of the stick.
DA:I's options seem to balance that out, even if it was made by a different team.
Let's think about it like this:
ME series:
MaleShep (gay/straight/bi): Ashley, Liara, Tali, Miranda, Jack, Cortez, Kaidan (don't count Kelly and Allers because I don't consider them true LIs)
FemShep (les/straight/bi): Kaidan, Liara, Garrus, Thane (ends with his death in ME3), Jacob (cheats on you in ME3), Traynor. (again, I don't count Kelly and Allers)
Considering how 2 of the available romances for FemShep fall apart in ME3, I'd say that technically FemShep gets only 4 LIs while MaleShep gets 7.
DA series:
Male Warden (gay/straight/bi): Leliana, Morrigan, Zevran.
Female Warden (les/straight/bi): Leliana, Zevran, Alistair.
m!Hawke (gay/straight/bi): Anders, Fenris, Isabela, Merrill.
f!Hawke (les/straight/bi): Anders, Fenris, Isabela, Merrill, Sebastian.
m!Inquisitor (gay/straight/bi): Dorian, Iron Bull, Josephine, Cassandra.
f!Inquisitor (les/straight/bi): Cullen (human and elf only), Solas (elf only), Sera, Iron Bull, Blackwall, Josephine
Overall, male PCs in DA get 11 LIs throughout the series and female PCs get 14. Only a 3 LI lead, just like with MaleShep in ME. And since none of the romances are scripted to end regardless (as far as we know with the DA:I LIs), it still seems pretty even.
Really, I think people should just get over it. I self-identify as straight male and I'm definitely not going to complain about straight women getting more LIs than straight men. Why people continue to whine and moan about it is beyond me. 