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[Seraphim24]

hahahahaha Dio what the hell is this?

 

I'm sorry but like I said, I am a pretty chaste person... not necessarily non-sexual really well it's complicated I guess. Anyway, lots of people have lots of sex with many partners and that's great and fine for them, so we're all good there, but to have someone come to me and tell me that I'm the one doing it wrong is just... ick... no one else thinks thats a bit strange? Is no one willing to defend me from those people? I don't want to hurt them or anyone I just don't understand how people who do have lots of sex find those people that don't so much and often criticize them...

[Seraphim24]

Oh I bet.

Just like I'm sorry for laughing at you but I can't help it when that post is ****** mental.

Whether or not someone said you're "doing it wrong" for being chaste- which I highly doubt, btw, likely a misunderstanding on your part- does not excuse the horse crap I quoted.

Your correction is better but still bad.

And again it's a pain in the butt responding to your posts when they keep changing significantly for the next 15 minutes afterward. Make up your mind and post it all at once.

You're right about it being best if you stop, just like pages ago when you said you'd stop. Let's see if that works any better this time.

 

Demisexuality is based around some degree of chasteness? I think this is cool....? I don't like it when people (who identify as promiscuous or open marriage situations), I don't know if you call those "sexualities," like I said, probably the wrong term to use, and I don't mean to be mean to these people, it's more I just wish they would respect the way I like to live in turn...

 

I'm not even sure why I've responded to such obvious trolling...

 

I don't like it when people (who identify as promiscuous or open marriage situations), I don't know if you call those "sexualities," like I said, probably the wrong term to use.

 

Most people are neither extremely chaste or the other way so it's not like I notice it a lot of the time. Plus, some people are more honest or try to make boundaries more clear, etc. I said this somewhere else but I don't know anyone that is like 100% pure at any rate or something, pretty much everyone falls on a spectrum somewhere.

 

But then we have people coming in talking down for whatever reason like it's this misbegotten misunderstood  virginal thing with broken spirits seeking respite it's pretty frustrating. I'm sure that's happened, but I doubt they would want to hear more about it...

[Simfam]

Yeah sure, why not?

 

It won't take much of their resources to add two to three lines of dialogue in.

[Clover Rider]

I am for a demisexual character only if he looks just like Harold from Fire Emblem If.

[daveliam]

For example for this, I personally kind of have an issue with for instance "demibisexual" or something because it seems to imply an attachment to more than one individual. For instance someone who is bisexual eventually settles down with a male or female whichever but is still capable of feeling attraction towards the other gender (and thus, it would seem, at least one other person).

 

That suggests that bisexuality eventually becomes either homosexuality or heterosexuality but I'm pretty sure that's not how it works.

 

I don't see it this way at all.  Just like, as you stated, a bisexual person in a relationship with an opposite sex partner wouldn't be considered straight, a demibisexual person who has a strong sexual attraction to an opposite sex partner wouldn't be seen the same way.  I don't see why 'demibisexuality' would imply that people have attachment to more than one individual.  Wouldn't that be 'demipolyamory' (lol, is that even a concept....)?

[Seraphim24]

I wouldn't even have begun if I didn't get demonized at every bloody turn. Or told that I'm not allowed to say anything because I'm of a "lesser sexuality" apparently.

 

I didn't have an issue with your other posts really, I don't know the exact reasons why that one bothered me but obviously it did, not to mention compared to the previous posts or whatever I liked them more on average.

 

I don't see it this way at all.  Just like, as you stated, a bisexual person in a relationship with an opposite sex partner wouldn't be considered straight, a demibisexual person who has a strong sexual attraction to an opposite sex partner wouldn't be seen the same way.  I don't see why 'demibisexuality' would imply that people have attachment to more than one individual.  Wouldn't that be 'demipolyamory' (lol, is that even a concept....)?

 

You know I'm just going to stay away from those issues because I'm just boring and straight and have precious little insight into how the others work. I never really had trouble envisioning for example a homosexual demisexual couple because they would just be like really devoted and so on but you know 2 guys and 2 females.

 

In fact I didn't really have much to say on the other things anyway.

[Clover Rider]

The other characters should also look like Harold from Fire Emblem If, while we're at it.

The main character too.

[Seraphim24]

The main character too.

 

Well see that made me kind of laugh at any rate, although the train gif wasn't so bad to be honest.

[daveliam]

You know I'm just going to stay away from those issues because I'm just boring and straight and have precious little insight into how the others work. I never really had trouble envisioning for example a homosexual demisexual couple because they would just be like really devoted and so on but you know 2 guys and 2 females.

 

In fact I didn't really have much to say on the other things anyway.

 

I think it's an interesting point, though.  If there could be a demiheterosexual person, then there should be able to be a demibisexual person, no?  It's kind of the same old "bisexuals can't be monogamous" argument that we all know is not true.  If it's not true sexually, it shouldn't be true romantically either. 

 

And straight people aren't boring.  Well, some of them are, but not because their straight. 

[Seraphim24]

I think it's an interesting point, though.  If there could be a demiheterosexual person, then there should be able to be a demibisexual person, no?  It's kind of the same old "bisexuals can't be monogamous" argument that we all know is not true.  If it's not true sexually, it shouldn't be true romantically either. 

 

And straight people aren't boring.  Well, some of them are, but not because their straight. 

 

I just don't really feel strongly one way or another about it, basic sexual desire and how it's concentrated is what I am most familiar with, and the gender is just this given thing, if bisexuals have a strong emotional bond and can only form it in a specific way and all those things suggested in the OP than I suppose it's just like demi-bisexuality.

[Hanako Ikezawa]

Well see that made me kind of laugh at any rate, although the train gif wasn't so bad to be honest.

You mean this one? 

[Seraphim24]

 

You mean this one? 

 

 

Yeah I really like that train.

[NWN_baba yaga]

.....what did i just read!!!

 

Guybrush Threepwood is straight and very funny btw.

[esper]

I identify as ace - bi romantic. Though depending on the situaiton I just identify as ace/bisexuel, since more often than not I just don't have the strenght to deal with both bi-erasure and ace-erasure. (And try to tell someone in my country that you are biromantic.)

 

 

A demi who could form romantic attraction to both gender would theorecticaly be demibisexuel.

Though more often than not, it is simpy not necessary to discuss orientation (who you are attracted to) at the same time as it is necessary to discuss how you get attracted to them. 

 

 

And labels both help and alienates, but the biggest help is that you can find other people who have had the same experience as yours and maybe have gone through the same thing you will go through and give good advice somebody who has not gone through the same thing could not give.  

[Lady Artifice]

I just wanted to note the terrific irony in the phrase. I don't believe that there's ever been a time in all of human history when it's been used that the person it's being told to actually complied XD

 

Seriously. It's one of the big things not to do in the service business for a reason. It will always make someone feel talked down to.

[Malthier]

I don't care! I DONT! Look, people want to have sex! GOOD FOR THEM. I have plenty of friends that have lots of sex, don't care at all! I like them tons, some of them are really cool people.

 

But the idea that I, who do not like to have lots of sex or partners, would be talked down to by someone who does is what drives me insane. I just can't do that, I just can't! I'm sorry but that just seems totally backwards to me, so I can't help myself but comment on that.

 

So I think the best thing for me is just not to be here at all, even passively reading.

 

I've just been looking for someone who says things I can understand, when people have their discussions fine, about characters or possibilities, and so on, but I can never, ever concede something like that.

 

In the worst case scenario I'll just go elsewhere so my eyes don't come across it.

 

Better not let all those friends of yours know that you'd rather not even have your eyes come across talk of naughty sexual behavior

 

You are literally the only person here talking down to people over behavior you don't approve of. The best part: the more you shame other people, the more suspect your own claims of being persecuted become

[Seraphim24]

Better not let all those friends of yours know that you'd rather not even have your eyes come across talk of naughty sexual behavior

 

You are literally the only person here talking down to people over behavior you don't approve of. The best part: the more you shame other people, the more suspect your own claims of being persecuted become

 

You know smoking is bad for your health! (just seems like somethin your avatar is always up to)

[Malthier]

You know smoking is bad for your health! (just seems like somethin your avatar is always up to)

 

I keep trying to convince my avatar to quit but it won't listen to reason. Some people, right? 

[Seraphim24]

I keep trying to convince my avatar to quit but it won't listen to reason. Some people, right? 

 

No!   You can do it Malthier!

[Malthier]

No!   You can do it Malthier!

 

Its just a picture you strange, judgmental little thing, you. I don't smoke

[Pasquale1234]

Demisexuality is based around some degree of chasteness? I think this is a good and cool thing? I don't like it when people (who identify as promiscuous or open marriage situations), I don't know if you call those "sexualities," like I said, probably the wrong term to use.

Uh... no.

Sexual orientation =/= sexual behavior.

Orientation attempts to describe actual feelings and attractions. Behavior is not always consistent with them.

I know a *lot* of GLBT people who came out in mid-life, after having been married and having a family with someone of the opposite sex. Of course, there are also a lot of people coupled with someone of the opposite sex who are actually bi or pansexual.

Which means: Apparent sexual orientation =/= actual sexual orientation.

One can be behaviorally chaste, celibate, monogamous, polyamorous, etc. regardless of sexual orientation.
 

So but when people treat sex more casually or have their open relationships or this or that or the more they do that at any rate, it's increasingly difficult to want to be around those kinds of people, that's all there is to it. I know people that do those things, I usually just go my own way most of the time. I also know people who do it to a degree that I don't really find surprising or shocking. I also know people who sleep around a lot who have other qualities that I find really interesting or exciting.

However, this place is kind of nice because it's like minded people. Like I said, I'm not immediately turned off by people who aren't or something, I'm not going to treat them badly, and I'm certainly not going to go out of the way to make them feel bad, but I would rather at least expect the same right?

If you're looking for a Chastity Support Group, you might want to look elsewhere.

[Seraphim24]

Uh... no.

Sexual orientation =/= sexual behavior.

Orientation attempts to describe actual feelings and attractions. Behavior is not always consistent with them.

I know a *lot* of GLBT people who came out in mid-life, after having been married and having a family with someone of the opposite sex. Of course, there are also a lot of people coupled with someone of the opposite sex who are actually bi or pansexual.

Which means: Apparent sexual orientation =/= actual sexual orientation.

One can be behaviorally chaste, celibate, monogamous, polyamorous, etc. regardless of sexual orientation.
 

If you're looking for a Chastity Support Group, you might want to look elsewhere.

 

I'm sorry I didn't quite understand you, I think you are just saying you know LGBT people (or just anyone of a different orientation) who are monogamous and devoted and only want/desire a single solitary sexual relationship with someone else and so on yes? In other words, someone could be demisexual homosexual or something?

 

Ok sure! I don't know many LGBT people to begin with but I am not surprised that they have monogamous/devoted kinds of relationships just like straight people, don't think here ever said otherwise. In fact some of the ones I met probably are but it's not like "what's your sexual history" is the first thing that comes up in conversation or something.

 

In fact I generally assume most LGBT relationships are of the monogamous and relatively chaste type, or at least are behaviorally not really any different than the typical straight relationship on average.

 

Its just a picture you strange, judgmental little thing, you. I don't smoke

 

Oh ok

[daveliam]

Wait? I'm genuinely confused. Why is monogamy comin up now? Can't a demisexual person be non-monogamous? Those aren't synonymous concepts.