You seem to have this odd notion that if you have no problem with something, noone else should either. The world doesn't work that way. Different opinions and preferences, and all that.
Just out of curiosity, what problems do you have with the Mass Effect? It has mouse look at point and click, for the most part.
I thought you felt the SWTOR controls were very similar to DAI. What problems do you have with them? I brought this up before and don't remember getting a response. While SWTOR controls are similar in that you use WASD and click to attack, it was a much smoother experience for me. You attack the correct target, don't pull any other non hostile mobs in by accident, auto target focuses on the next nearest mob in the group you are attacking. The follower AI appears to do its job for the most part without charging the giant death robot when it's supposed to be at range. Oh and you get dozens of abilities and dozens of hotbars to store them.
I'm not going to bother asking about Skyrim controls. It's a completely different system, and clunky in its own special way.
Also, it's worth noting, none of the games you list are party based RPGs.. Any followers you get are purely AI controlled, for the most part. You don't need to tell the AI character to 'follow itself' or some other non-intuitive tactics command to get it to follow what should be standard behaviour for its class. That appears to be what Bioware was going for with "action mode", but appears to have failed spectacularly on that front.
EDIT: Oh and by the way, that DAGARS Diamond award you are so proud of Bioware for winning? I looked it up. It was awarded based on the controller controls, not PC.
Never said that some do not have legitimate grievances, but I do question those that seem to be unable to plat the game at all, esp as I am able to do so; disability and all.
ME series: WASD. Skyrim: WASD. SWTOR: WASD and depressed Mouse button like DAI, but lacks Pause and Tac-Cam. And DAI also has a Next Target system (use Cap Locks now; formerly Tab as in ME series). ME series has a party of three, and solo SWTOR allows for one Companion with some unique exceptions. Skyrim I prefer to solo unless the Quests force a choice like Serana.
As for specific problems, it generally has to do with my restricted ability to move in the open, so in ME, I choose to remain in cover, and rarely move out of it. SWTOR; skip melee choices for long term play, and had a Gunner, Bounty Hunter 'Gunner', and an Inquisitor. These were able to largely remain in position, with moist focus on playing 'GUI Simon' to win. Larger number of choices aside, it lost my focus on the game, and became about pressing Keys and getting the interrupts on time.
And if one believes that by setting Follow themselves is non-intuitive, then the previous If-Then Tactical charts may have been a burden to gain a proper order.
And while the DAGAR Award did use a controller in the detailed description, all platforms were listed on the award including the PC.
Note: Hope that TW3 does not displease the crowd here in the same way; only controller footage has been seen thus far, though Gopher has mentioned that it did seem fine when tested privately. Still, the KB&M controls are seemingly unknown, I believe.