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[Jaison1986]

Yes

This is their body and their decision what to do with it

That's borderline abusive approach many stalkers possess - I send her flowers, so she has to have sex with me. I am nice to her, so she has to kiss me. I do good things to her, so she belongs to me

Boy, unless your partner (woman or man) agrees to such terms, you have no right to demand anything in return. This is not a game in which you "win" by spending resources. This is a relationship between two persons who should respect each other

 

So... wishing sex in an relationship that's being going for an while makes you the same as an stalker? Great logic. Call me when you say something that actually makes any sense.

[Bayonet Hipshot]

It appears that a man who has a desire to and expects to have sex in a romantic relationship with a woman that based on equal exchange is now a stalker and an abuser as opposed to someone who is honest, upfront and have standards....

 

Gotta love these white knights and their archaic mentality...

[Snook]

"Hey Cassandra, have you ever been mistaken for a man?"

"No. Have you?"

[cwm33]

So the only options for a straight male gamer is a frigid disney princess, or a religious nut that looks like she likes to use her face to deflect sword attacks?  Boooo-urns.

 

My kingdom for a 'remove Cassandra's uggo scars, and give her proper hair' mod.

[Chari]

So... wishing sex in an relationship that's being going for an while makes you the same as an stalker? Great logic. Call me when you say something that actually makes any sense.

This whole "I'm nice to this gal/guy so she/he just have to sleep with me or I call them a jerk!" does

[Giga Drill BREAKER]

That's a stereotypical and bluntly offensive approach
And really flawed, too. You don't date a doll, you date a human being with feelings and thoughts. That's what is important. If you ignore these in favout of intercourse then the relationship will likely fall without you even notice that. Because trust, love and loyalty are much, much more important. They're the basics

Who said you should ignore feelings and just have intercourse, all I said was sex is part of a healthy relationship, as are feelings, thoughts and mutual trust. If you are missing any of those things including sex you are not in a healthy relationship.

[Chari]

It appears that a man who has a desire to and expects to have sex in a romantic relationship with a woman that based on equal exchange is now a stalker and an abuser as opposed to someone who is honest, upfront and have standards....

 

Gotta love these white knights and their archaic mentality...

It is only equal if your partner agrees to the terms

If not, well, it's their decision and you should respect that 

[Chari]

Who said you should ignore feelings and just have intercourse, all I said was sex is part of a healthy relationship, as are feelings, thoughts and mutual trust. If you are missing any of those things including sex you are not in a healthy relationship.

Asexuals all over the world judge you right now

They judge you hard

[Maiafay]

This anger over romances is why I'm glad I pounced on Dorian. I heard some dirty talk, saw some a$$, got some snark, and cuddled after.

I'm good.

[Giga Drill BREAKER]

They can judge all they want doesn't stop it from being the truth.

[Chari]

They can judge all they want doesn't stop it from being the truth.

Heh

It is not "Truth"

And you pretty much called every asexual relationship in the world "unhealthy". Don't you see how... well, insulting that is? And offensive?

[Maiafay]

I think this thread has long since derailed.

[Giga Drill BREAKER]

If there is no sex they are not in a relationship they are in a friendship.

[naddaya]

Yo guys, chill.

 

Some people actually hardly ever (or never) have sex while in a relationship, and that's perfectly fine and healthy. Other people couldn't tolerate a realtionship without sex (myself included, probably), and that's fine too. The only thing that matters is their happiness. Both partners must accept the situation. If one of them doesn't, nothing wrong with breaking up or not wanting to get into a relationship with that person.

 

Back on track?

[Jaison1986]

This whole "I'm nice to this gal/guy so she/he just have to sleep with me or I call them a jerk!" does

 

Ridiculous. I wouldn't call someone jerk for refusing sex. But people expect things in relationships. If I wish for sex and an partner does not wish to, that's fine, but I also won't force myself to continue an relationship were I feel unfulfilled.

[Hadeedak]

They can judge all they want doesn't stop it from being the truth.

 

Man, I have not had nearly enough coffee for this.

 

I'll just say what constitutes a healthy relationship changes a lot between personal preferences, cultural values of both parties, and general expectations and desires. 

 

Also if you want to headcanon that you and Josie boinked, apparently you totally can. However, where cut scenes are concerned, the dress stays on.

[Chari]

If there is no sex they are not in a relationship they are in a friendship.

Shallow as shallowness can be

[Bayonet Hipshot]

This anger over romances is why I'm glad I pounced on Dorian. I heard some dirty talk, saw some a$$, got some snark, and cuddled after.

I'm good.

 

Dorian's romance was very nice actually, even though the arc is a trope that has been reused many times

 

They can judge all they want doesn't stop it from being the truth.

 

Yep...

[AlanC9]

My kingdom for a 'remove Cassandra's uggo scars, and give her proper hair' mod.

What's wrong with Cassie's hair?

[Bayonet Hipshot]

If there is no sex they are not in a relationship they are in a friendship.

 

Corrected :- If there is no sex they are not in a relationship they are in a friendship friendzone.

[AlanC9]

Dorian's romance was very nice actually, even though the arc is a trope that has been reused many times

Bio recycling tropes? I'm shocked.

[Giga Drill BREAKER]

Shallow as shallowness can be

yep I'm shallow of thinking a healthy relationship should be a combination of feelings, mutual trust and sex. Thats me shallow as hell.

[Chari]

Ridiculous. I wouldn't call someone jerk for refusing sex. But people expect things in relationships. If I wish for sex and an partner does not wish to, that's fine, but I also won't force myself to continue an relationship were I feel unfulfilled.

This... dude - I guess? - does. Hence I act so bitter

Sex is a very intimate act. You literally connect two living bodies in the closest way possible (well, except a mother and a baby in her womb). It can be dangerous, too. Not everyone is comfortable with it and they don't have to be. Expecting it as a default option from people is not a good approach. After all their body is theirs only. If you both have different desires in romance you either adapt (equally) or you break up. That's for the best

[Hadeedak]

Corrected :- If there is no sex they are not in a relationship they are in a friendship friendzone.

 

That's not... really true there.

 

It's entirely possible to be in a long-term monogamous relationship and for whatever reason, there's no sex. And there's lots of possible reasons, including health, cultural values, and inclination. There can still be trust, love, and a desire to commit, even if sex is postponed or off the table.

[Chari]

yep I'm shallow of thinking a healthy relationship should be a combination of feelings, mutual trust and sex. Thats me shallow as hell.

You said you don't want to romance Cassandra because "she looks like a man"

You can't love a person because she isn't "perfect"

That is shallow