These are what I'm using for my (t3, crafted, non superior) staff and armor. I just wanted to max out my offense, and after some very, very rough math, with all sorts of unwarranted assumptions, at 4am, I settled on this:
For the rest, I use a Helm of the Drasca (hidden wastes merchant), a superb willpower amulet, and a superb attack ring. I haven't found anything exciting for my belt and other ring, so for now I'm just using a superb stagger belt and a superb bleeding ring.
Of course, I'd rather have a superb spirit rune in the staff, but I haven't found the recipe yet and I didn't want to throw a master in only to overwrite it, so for now I'm just using the basic one.
I haven't finished the game yet, but even without guard on hit (fade-touched silverite) or healing (fade-touched everite), I survived fine when I tried soloing the level 23 dragon, just as a test. I'm playing on nightmare and don't feel like I need any defense beyond fade shield, fade cloak (upgraded), and fade step (upgraded). Anyway, more damage = more barrier!
Here's what I used to craft the staff and armor: