Wow, this tread is still alive...
The only traditionally beautiful man among the companions is Cullen. So yeah, we women get ONE handsome romance. But the rest? Surely Solas is way more ugly than Cassandra or Josephine. I agree that Cass and Josie are not the most stunning women, but they are not ugly. The most unappealing thing about Josie is her awful outfit imo.
And what's up with people saying Cassandra ACTS manly? O_o She has a masculine face. And that's about it. Her body is feminine. And while she acts a bit brash, she's way way softer and EMOTIONAL than I'd picture a guy in her position, since we're being stereotypical here. While men are as emotional as women but deny it, women are said to be pure (irrational) emotion which is a broad generalization too. But Bioware didn't even go against that bias with her AT ALL. Cassandra *is* pure emotion. Her drive for a better world comes from a very emotional, altruistic place. Her impulsiveness is part of that. She doesn't want power and fame, she just wants everyone to get along and be happy. She's a healer with a sword. She embodies all the qualities people associate with women. It's always about the great good, not about herself. She takes care of everyone. She's supportive of you even if she disagrees. So no hurt "male ego" and putting you in your place. She's very skeptical but ultimately sees things from your perspective, she just wants what's best for everyone. And she doubts herself all the time. She frets and worries. That's something women do a lot more than men. Her manliness is a split-second thunderstorm, followed by a woman's soft soft gentle summer rain.
It's in her voice too. The voice actress is fantastic. She sounds both harsh and vulnerable, often at the same time. Cassandra often sounds as if she's choking on her emotions. There is a VERY distinctive softness about her. It's very well done. I only had to listen to her for 10min to understand exactly what kind of person she is, all soft and kind inside. But apparently Bioware anticipated that many people won't get it, so they went out of their way to make a point about her soft side with her romance novels. It was not necessary at all, but it's still cute, so I'm fine with it.
Hell, ultimately Cassandra just wants strong male arms to hold her while she cries about the world like all the other women (and men ;P) in the game! She's not making it hard on the male players to feel like knights in shining armor from what I've heard (haven't played the romance yet).
There is nothing manly about her other than her face. It's sad how people are so hung up about it...
And Josephine is the most girly woman Dragon Age ever head. Lelilana is a stone cold b*tch compared to her.