Okay, I haven't played Inquisition yet, and although I'm trying to avoid huge spoilers, my curiosity about the romances has gotten the better of me. I take my role-playing seriously, which means I also take my romances seriously, and I kind of want to know what I'm getting myself into so that I don't make a "mistake" in an 80-hour playthrough.
I'm a straight male, so Cassandra and Josephine are my only viable choices. I suspect that I will choose Josephine, but there seems to be some controversy surrounding her lack of a compelling romance scene. And I have to be honest, that bothers me, especially because Cassandra doesn't really interest me. Granted, I don't really know what I'm talking about because, as I've already stated, I haven't played Inquisition yet.
Based on my very limited knowledge, Cassandra seems too "religious" to me. I'm an atheist in real life, and my Warden and Hawke don't believe in the Maker as a supreme god. My Inquisitor will also share this belief. Cassandra, therefore, probably won't like me very much, and I'll likely have issues with her. I don't know anything about Josephine other than people calling her a Disney princess or something. And as shallow as it may seem, I place a lot of value on the romance scenes, even the awkward ones in Origins; I appreciate the attempt, despite the questionable result. If Josephine is lacking in this department, that is truly unfortunate.
So BSN, I want to know your thoughts on these two romances. Without spoiling too many things, can you give me a basic idea about their personalities and the overall quality of their romances?
If you take the romances as seriously as I do (my wife just shakes her head), you have to be very careful romancing Cassandra, as there is a possibility that post-game your Inquisitor and her won't be together. Josephine is definitely the safe choice. She's all-around a lovely person, and while the physical parts of her romance are very subdued as compared to other romances, Josie is basically lovely. That being said, while her character has a lot of depth, the romance itself does not really explore that or bring that out to a great level.
With Cassandra, the religious aspects are as important as you make them. I don't know what kind of atheist you and your characters are.
If you're (from this point on I'm referring to you and your characters as one entity) are the kind of atheist that is effectively an aggressive religious person without the deity, then Cassandra probably isn't for you.
If you're the kind of atheist that's more "I don't believe in that, but it's okay that you do." then Cassandra is not only a good choice but a great one. Cassandra is very devout about the existence of the Maker. She firmly believes in the Maker's existence, but (without spoiling anything) if you pursue Cassandra you'll see that not only is her faith shaken, but that she is far from a blind believer.
I have a great deal of issues with organised religion (but I'm more the "but it's okay for you if it helps you" type), and my characters portray that, but I honestly couldn't see my characters pursuing anyone other than Cassandra. And that's because although she will disagree with you on your religious positions if they go counter to hers (as we all do) she's more than that. If your characters are upright, do good, and act honourably, Cassandra will "love" you. Cassandra's most basic desire is to do good and help others to do good as well. She certainly considers religion capable of doing good, but is also very aware that the organisations which purport to be accomplishing that good have failed miserably. This disturbs her, and your relationship with her is based on how you deal with that. So I think either way, it is a very interesting path.
The basic difference between Josie and Cassandra is that Josephine is pragmatic and Cassandra is idealistic. Josie's problems are very concrete while Cass's are often more ethereal - Josie has literal crises, Cassandra has crises of faith, identity, and path.
Good luck and good love!