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I am a straight male gamer myself and I decided to outright not bother with the romances in DAI and have my Inquisitor be single.
They are for one, too one sided. The love interests are just there to be gamed essentially. They do not give you any gifts, do not change their tone and did not attempt to initiate anything with you. DAO had all that. Morrigan gives you a ring, Alistair a rose, Zevran a pair of earrings. They also changed their tone towards you and will try to initiate a relationship with you. Additionally, you can have different paths in a romance. You can harden Leliana and engage in wild orgy or be super nice to her and take it slowly which she approves.
For DAI ? Nyet. All that is gone. You just click the flirt option in a dialogue over and over again, do one quest for them and that's it. How is this more natural and more nuanced than before ? Sounds like it is more shallow than before. Cassandra gives you nothing. Josephine is even worse actually, she just friendzones you.
Then there is the love interest options. I will focus on the straight male ones. In previous games, you always had 2 very different women in every single way. Emphasis on every single way.
In DAO, Morrigan was an agnostic who does not give a damn about Chantry whereas Leliana is a born again Andrastian. In DA2, Merrill was a devout Dalish with her firm beliefs in the Creators and ancient Elven lore whereas Isabela is a pirate ****** who is all about YOLO.
In DAI, Cassandra is a religious Andrastian human noblewoman, even if she does not care for it and Josephine is also an Andrastian human noblewoman. Sure both approach things in a different way but their beliefs are very similar. Philosophically, they are both exactly the same. Which means if you are roleplaying an Inquisitor who thinks that the Herald thing is bullshite and is not an Andrastian, you will find yourself on opposite ends with them, at least philosophically. This was never an issue with DAO or DA2.
Additionally, why is it almost always human females for straight males? Merill was the only exception. I thought Dagna or Harding would be an option to change things up or to shake things up a bit but nope, human females once again !