Is it really that lol-worthy? It deserved explanation, considering that players were only exposed to the qun up close with Sten. And then distantly with the Arishok. DAI is proividing new information, and you're acting like people should have already known.
No.
New information is good. It expands on it.
Like you said, we know little of the Qun outside what Sten and the Arishock has told us.
A retcon would be... errr... "Qunari who don't want to be Qunari can do whatever they want in our lands, like become a farmer then a potter."
That's a fundamental that shouldn't be broken. But the other stuff? Just stupid.
Especially when it comes to IB who's more open minded than most.
Can't you just accept that? Or does there HAVE to be something else because it's impossible for a Qunari who's not been in Qunari Land to start thinking for himself? Can't IB be conflicted between his love for his men and his loyalty to the Qun? Can't IB be the oddball out of an entire race of brainwashed ninneys? Can't IB be influenced by the 'freedom' of a world without the Qun, having to play his role as a Spy and then actually enjoying it?
But nooooooooo.
There's a 12 page thread trying to answer a very simple question and continuing to dig a hole so deep it forgot what it originally wanted to do.
I find this the case with most "DAI is baaahhhhddd" threads or "why did he dooouuuu disss?" Crap.
All very simple questions that become overly complicated. Dragon Age is franchise, chill out, there'll be 10 more games if it's successful enough, I'm sure we'll get lots of answers later on.
Not every Qunari is the same. Sten calls us friend; the Arishcok respects us; Iron Bull is different to them.
All simple stuff becoming overly complicated by nonsense.