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Sure! Don't worry, I understand
I wasn't justifying racism either, but as you say, being aware of its origins can be helpful. Most human behaviours have explanations, and I think fighting the undesirable ones begins by understanding them. I took a Coursera course on social psychology and I've forgotten a lot, but I remember racist attitudes also have to do with group dynamics and the concept of otherness. We tend to attribute more positive features to members of our group; and the other way around, for instance if a person from other country commits a crime many people think "People from country X tend to be criminals" rather than "This person who happens to be from country X committed a crime"
In the case of ancient elves, when confronted with attitudes like Solas and Abelas many people think "Elves are racist" and single out Felassan as the exception. And even classify them as racist because they don't react well to the otherness that our characters are to them. In fact, many people dislike Abelas because he identifies a Dalish Inquisitor as "shem". You are an "other" to him, not in his group. I have to wonder, if Abelas had identified a Dalish Inquisitor as part of his people, would as many people think of him as racist? I don't think so.
Thank you!
I will not bring up the debate, but let me say that I love all things Native American (as slippery as the term may be and knowing that it's kind of an umbrella term for many different peoples) And it's so damn difficult to find books and info from reliable sources, specially living in Spain.
It helped me to come to this conclusion when I read very heated reactions to some topics that really didn't bother me. I didn't understand at first, but I realized that I'm Spanish and white, so I've never had any firsthand experience with racism. If I was one of the many South American people living in Spain, it would probable be a very sore spot for me, same as all things related to women are because I have suffered from prejudices related to what women are supposed to do.
I also think that Silent is onto something with the Tirashan elves (btw she was spot on with the elvhen immortality being related to the Fade, congrats Silent!
) They are also mentioned in The Last Court, that browser game that covers events prior to Inquisition; but I'm not very interested in the game and I'm not sure the additional lore is worth the effort.
Babelas, where can I read your fic? I usually don't read fanfiction, but I'll make an exception for you (and Abelas) 
@Tielis Both your descriptions of Solas and Abelas are perfect (also of Cully Wully, the romance of my canon run because I had too much drama in my real life already
) Yes, you can break up with Solas in Trespasser so your Lavellan's body is ready for His Thighship. And the city elf origin is a grrrreat story, 10/10 would play again if fighting wasn't so clunky in DAO.
If most human behaviors have an explanation can you please explain my husband to me. I've been waiting for someone to do that since forever. 
I have honestly tried to pick out the racism in Abelas's remarks. This is honest. But for the life of me all I get is big grumpy guy who doesn't like you because you are trying to be his bestie. I'll also say I find it kind of amusing. There were times that I hated the Dalish attitude. I know they have reasons to dislike humans. But there were just times, especially when they were just as suspicious with other Dalish that I wanted to bop them on the head. On the other side of this, I think it's about time we run into an elf that isn't falling over himself to apologize for being an elf. He isn't sweeping floors or taking orders from humans etc. He is standing there all proud like: look at me and my golden crotch b*tches. Respect. I kind of admire that or find it strangely arousing. I'm not sure which... Maker... help me.
I have grown up with hateful eyes on me all of my life. So I guess I have thicker skin when it comes to what I consider racist and not racist. It doesn't make any form of it acceptable especially if it is hurting people. But... I do believe it is part of the human condition. On top of that I'm a woman who grew up in a very traditional family, one that wanted me to marry within my own culture. Yeah... that didn't work. Not going there. This isn't the place. I think everyone has been subjected to racism and half the time we don't even know it is happening. I say that because I think it is truly built in. You have to avidly try to stop it.
Anyway, so I guess in relation to the elves I feel that those that live in the city are the most vulnerable in the game. How many are dreaming of a better life? I worry that Solas will prey on them. And I'm sad because I'm having a hard time finding love for Solas any more. I hate that because I didn't want him to turn into what he is turning into. Bugs me.
Okay, so now that I've finished binge-reading all 23 chapters of Babelas' lovely story, I'm thinking about starting a whole new worldstate just for the hope of Abelas. And I mean playing it through.
I've never played a Tabris. (Yes, I know, sacrilege to some of you.) So, for the heroines and their elves, I'm thinking rogue/rogue, warrior/warrior, and mage/mage this time.
Dang it, lady, you've inspired me so much, but it only makes me want for an Abelas romance to be playable! Ah well. There is a way to break up with the Solasmonster in Trespasser, isn't there? I would do that just to keep this playthrough as my Abelas shrine.
Thank you for reading my trash
I wrote the story in the hope it would bring attention to the character. You can't have an Abelas romance without Zev around though. Someone has to be there to point out the ridiculousness of the golden crotch. If you do run through with Abelas in mind, I think I'll do one too. Just try to ignore the maniacal laughter from the arl's son and his men. You'll get the fang of Fen'Harel if you play as Tabris so that's cool.
It is definitely hard to resist the Cullen + Dog combination. I am fighting it, because the elven lore in this game is what brought me to it in the first place. I want to be able to say that I slept with the Dread Wolf and then dumped his sorry ass. (And I do love Solas, I just know how a relationship with that type of guy usually turns out, and I want one of my Lavellans to have smelled the coffee and dodged a bullet, unlike myself.)
And as I've said before, I can only play archers and arcane warriors, so most likely I will just control Leliana and let what's her name -- Kallian? and Zevran slice and dice while Alistair gets hit on the head. (EDIT: Whoa whoa whoa, the City Elf's backstory involves a dagger by the name of "Fang of Fen'Harel".)
I just said that up there. hehehe You found it
Honestly, there is not a thing wrong with the Cullen romance. When you need something straight forward and sweet it's a good place to go.
I am not Native American, but I worked at the National Museum of the American Indian for the few years before it opened and a bit afterwards. (And then my fibromyalgia became so bad that it disabled me, yay. Still trying to get compensated, and I could use the prayers. And I'll shut up now about that.)
Anyhow, I am always amazed by those who cannot see someone as the same level of person just because oh noes maybe their skin is a different color or their culture or religion is different. I am fascinated by Native American beliefs, and I feel more kinship with those than the Catholicism I was raised with a lot of times. I believe that if a belief system ensures goodness for everyone, it is right, no matter who wrote it down first. But anyway, that's getting into a religion discussion, and I was taught not to talk about that in polite company. The Native American people that I met and worked with were wonderful, joyful souls in spite of the injustice that is still being served up to their people today. It was the best job I ever had.
That's awesome! It's not often I run into people who have an active interest in American Indian culture. Well.. unless we count those people who feel the need to tell me how much Native American they have in their blood. I'm like: is it in your little pinky? I mean.. why are you telling me this?
I'm so sorry to hear that! You are in my prayers. (yes I pray... get over it people) Other than what I believe, I quite like Taoism. I think it's important to do a spiritual travel to find what fits the soul not necessarily the ideals of those around a person. You should know by now that I am not polite company. (I'm teasing) 
I'm glad you had such a positive experience. There are those who live by a sort of credo of being not just a good person but a representative of their people.I mean... I'm not one of them but... I do appreciate those people especially my elders. Thank goodness you didn't meet my brother 
Hello! Vacuum Sealed Armor! (That is so adorable. I can't even.) aldien gave me directions to this wondrous place. Also Hi SilentShadows! So I brought a gift! A lighthearted gift. In which Alchemillia thinks she's clever. To make you smile.
Feel free to change female for male pronouns if you wish. I believe in an equal opportunity Abelas.
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The fire was slowly dying down. Their traveling companions all wandering off to their own mud caked tents for the night. It had been a cold and brutal trek but it was almost over, soon they would be home. Our Hero looked up from the book resting on the furs in her lap.
Abelas was staring again, he seemed to be doing that a lot lately. He smiled and the low fire light sparkled in his eyes. It was strange at first to see him smile, he still rarely did, but each time she saw it her world got just a little bit brighter. Abelas stood, hands braced behind his back as he made his way to her.
*SKIPS AHEAD*
Abelas: "I have come to care for you a great deal..."
Pc: *blushes* *swoons*
*kissy faces*
Instead of the generic romance music..
"Guardians Of The Past" plays for real!
..do do do dee do do. dum dum. do do do de do do...
dum dum.....screeech...
Pc: *is freaked out*
*looks around for the noise*
*a full orchestra of elven sentinel musicians materialize behind him.*
Pc: "Whats going on here, Abelas?!"
Abelas: "They.. follow me. well... that is not exactly accurate. I pull them, most of the time. In this golden chariot."
*golden chariot appears*
Pc: "That's..how...that's not possible! Whats going on?!"
Abelas: "How else do you think I acquired these glorious thighs, Vehnan? How?"
Pc: *looks into the camera like on The Office*
Hey you! Glad you found us. Babelas = Aldien (my troll ego)... just don't ask. Long story. I am definitely equal opportunity Abelas too. Sorry... I just see the thighs and my femaleness takes over. But I think if he made it in as an LI he should be open to all races and genders. ROFL! Next time I'm drunk, I am coming back here to read your story again. I expect many more giggles.
Endless Journey updated. Plottiness involving Abelas included.
Still haven't started on Abelas political marriage fic.
In any case, thought anyone who is reading EJ might appreciate knowing. It does include a lot of Abelas, but more Lavellan/Solas with Abelas being Lavellan's sort-of reluctant friend. Lots more Abelas in the future, and gearing toward Trespasser events which have basically wrecked my original plot but hey, I can deal with it!
It's so late and I'm so tired I know I'm incoherent...
BB where is that fic??? *hands you a hug pillow* I understand that pain all too well. You can do it. Most people understand that you are now dealing with tons of new information. You can always put AU on it if you can't work it in. I intend on reading Endless Journey as soon as I finish writing. I have this list of stories I've had to put on hold. Got half way through Actually_FenHarel's story and had to stop because of plot bunny invasion.
I just finished the well of sorrows mission, and had Dorian along this time. Anyone else see that he suggests to Abelas that he go to the Elves of Tevinter? That couldn't have been an accident with Trespasser's hint as to the next DA's location. It'll be cool if they do in fact make him a companion.
Abelas in Tevinter would be quite interesting. Could you imagine what he would do the first time he sees an elven slave? That would get ugly b*tches.
WHERE IS SS????