Come on, do you *really* think that the Qun changes the role of an individual based on it's sexual orientation?
That's not the Qun we came to know in DA:O & DA:2, the rule system is much more rigid than that.
Sure, you can hand wave away just about anything, but this still feels to me like forcing modern real life political correctness into the lore.
I don't have any lore to handwave away. I asked for some to be provided, but this is the response I get. I have one companion in DA O, the Arishock, who really wasn't very forthcoming unless it suited what he wanted, and IB. Which one of those is the authoritative source? You know, the one that fired all the codex entries that you're basing your assumptions on? The follow up is, since all three are professed members of the Qun, why is only one an authoritative source? So provide me some lore, instead of some speculation. It's hard to prove a point with "because I said so".