@OneWomanArmy You know, people tend to be nicer when you actually say their name properly...
Dude. I'm 4 years older than you, and I'll be the first to tell you, these "Negative" people, telling you to focus on your schoolwork instead of Forums and relationships, are giving you probably the best advice you need to hear.
You're 14, which means you're either in your last year of Junior High, or first year of High School.
Both of which (Especially High School) are your most pivotal parts of your school career. It's the period of time Colleges look the hardest at.
This forum swallows your time and distracts you from school (Which I won't BS you and say School is Omni-important, it teaches you 80% worthless information, but you still have to do it, and well if you want to get anywhere off something other than luck)
Same goes for relationships, it brings about too much drama and can also screw with your schooling.
Hell at 14 you should still be more concerned with other stuff than the fickle world of dating. You got the whole rest of your life to do that. Don't blow your limited childhood on it.
OWA isn't being nice to you, but she is saying it like it is. You're too young to worry about this kinda stuff, plain and simple.
I'm being as nice and as honest to you as I can right now. But failing to heed my advice will tell me you are just one of those people that just needs to learn things the hard way, and that'll be the end of my manners towards you.
Go outside, stop going to this site, enjoy the limited time you have as a kid with no responsibilities. Because trust me, it's all downhill from here.