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[Eterna]

Honestly, I cannot think of a reason why a flamboyant, obvious gay guy would lie and say he's straight. They will outright reject you.


Flamboyant men are usually gay bottoms. Some gay men advertise it. Surprisingly, there are Chrisleys in the world.

Look, if you want to know he's a closet case, find him on Grindr. (Right, PapiBunz?) Men who are straight-acting closet cases may go there to solicit sex from other gay men. Really, I don't know how anymore naked lunch than that.

Nah there is no point, im hanging out with him next weekend as friends. Romantic relationship is off the table obviously in his mind and now in mine. I am okay with it.

[Sigma Tauri]

Nah there is no point, im hanging out with him next weekend as friends. Romantic relationship is off the table obviously in his mind and now in mine. I am okay with it.

 

There we go! You enjoy that platonic relationship.

[SlottsMachine]

The BSN love guru's strike again!

[Kaiser Arian XVII]

There we go! You enjoy that platonic relationship.

 

Just for people's knowledge:

platonic relationship =/= sexual relationship

[Dutchess]

Just for people's knowledge:

platonic relationship =/= sexual relationship

 

Well, I learn something new every day here...

[TheBunz]

There we go! You enjoy that platonic relationship.

For being gay yourself, not very good at giving advice. Straight guys don't just hang out with gay guys right after being awkwardly hit on. He's gay, you may have a chance after all.

[Sigma Tauri]

For being gay yourself, not very good at giving advice. Straight guys don't just hang out with gay guys right after being awkwardly hit on. He's gay, you may have a chance after all.

 

You don't think I was calling you Papi for no reason? Papi, you stupid. I thought you'd have a clue by now?

 

You're right, in the usual case. Straight guys don't hang out with gay guys after getting hit on by them. Straight guys also generally act straight, and I never got the impression from Eterna he was acting like a total bottom ****** **** about it. In other words, you never know. Eterna thought he can fill in a void when he misperceived his niceness and his orientation. Then, you start imagining expectations, which were blasted away in a single moment. You get annoyed, then you move on. That's it.

[TheBunz]

You don't think I was calling you Papi for no reason? Papi, you stupid. I thought you'd have a clue by now?

You're right, in the usual case. Straight guys don't hang out with gay guys after getting hit on by them. Straight guys also generally act straight, and I never got the impression from Eterna he was acting like a total bottom ****** **** about it. In other words, you never know. Eterna thought he can fill in a void when he misperceived his niceness and his orientation. Then, you start imagining expectations, which were blasted away in a single moment. You get annoyed, then you move on. That's it.

Lost your swag

[Eterna]

Why would it be awkward? It's not like I was in love with him or anything, I just thought he was really great and that being more than friends could have worked out well. But he is straight so boo hoo for me, that's life. We got along very well so I'd hate to cease all communications entirely, that is why we are hanging out as friends.

 

We're adults, he isn't going to run away in fear because the big evil gay hit on him, he's had this happen to him before and he is simply flattered. The only thing that would make this awkward is if I decided to go all predatory on him despite his rejection, which I have zero interest in doing.

 

Also there appears to be a misconception, he does not work with me, he would come into my work place to interact with me and we became friends over those interactions.

[KingTony]

Maybe you'd have more luck with your love life if you didn't call yourself "Big Evil Gay."

Get a better nickname, like Sparky or Ace.

[spirosz]

Why would it be awkward? It's not like I was in love with him or anything, I just thought he was really great and that being more than friends could have worked out well. But he is straight so boo hoo for me, that's life. We got along very well so I'd hate to cease all communications entirely, that is why we are hanging out as friends.

 

We're adults, he isn't going to run away in fear because the big evil gay hit on him, he's had this happen to him before and he is simply flattered. The only thing that would make this awkward is if I decided to go all predatory on him despite his rejection, which I have zero interest in doing.

 

Also there appears to be a misconception, he does not work with me, he would come into my work place to interact with me and we became friends over those interactions.

 

As long as you two communicate well, there isn't going to be anything awkward, unless either of you choose to make it so.  Hopefully it works out, in regards to developing a lasting friendship, if that is what is to occur, otherwise - this is a good place to vent.  So cheers.  

[Arcian]

Honestly, I cannot think of a reason why a flamboyant, obvious gay guy would lie and say he's straight. They will outright reject you.

If humans behaved sensibly, the world would be a vastly different place. As it is, it is far less painful for people - straight or gay - to tell someone their sexualities are incompatible than outright saying "Look, you're a nice person and I don't mind hanging out with you, but I have zero romantic interest in you and that is unlikely to ever change".

[Sigma Tauri]

If humans behaved sensibly, the world would be a vastly different place. As it is, it is far less painful for people - straight or gay - to tell someone their sexualities are incompatible than outright saying "Look, you're a nice person and I don't mind hanging out with you, but I have zero romantic interest in you and that is unlikely to ever change".

 

Unless you're in extraordinary circumstances like if there's a gun to your head, that's not true if you're that flamboyantly gay. Even in that extreme circumstance, there's no fooling anyone. For example, I have a friend who is flamboyantly gay, and he cannot say with a straight face that he likes women. If he doesn't find you attractive, he will reject you without any regard to your feelings.

[Arcian]

Unless you're in extraordinary circumstances like if there's a gun to your head, that's not true if you're that flamboyantly gay. Even in that extreme circumstance, there's no fooling anyone. For example, I have a friend who is flamboyantly gay, and he cannot say with a straight face that he likes women. If he doesn't find you attractive, he will reject you without any regard to your feelings.

Ugh, it pisses me off to see people still enforcing the "flamboyant gay" stereotype. Flamboyancy has nothing to do with one's sexuality.

[Sigma Tauri]

Ugh, it pisses me off to see people still enforcing the "flamboyant gay" stereotype. Flamboyancy has nothing to do with one's sexuality.

 

I agree. As I said, there are Chrisleys in the world. But, there are people who are flamboyantly gay at varying degrees. My friend whom I mentioned is classy about how he expresses his sexuality. But, he can get overwhelming too. His friend, on the other hand, is a classic example of the stereotype. He's a totally unrepentant skinny gay bottom from head-to-toe. The guy carries an Asian fan to the clubs of Hell's Kitchen and puts on a combination of women's perfume. If called out on his stereotypical demeanor, he doesn't care and he's proud.

 

If they don't want to talk to you, they'll reject you. Especially, if they're New Yorkers, they want to show they have fangs.