Responding to several posts in the thread.
I brought this subject back up because in anticipation of DA:I, which purportedly links the decisions of DA:O and DA2 and creates a personalized backstory to DA:I, I went back and replayed the two earlier games. That freshened the memory of just how disappointing Romance options in Dragon Age is. As someone said, its seems that ALL choices are bad choices. Really, under any circumstances, are any of the LI candidates someone that anyone in their right minds would want to grow old with into their golden years? Wham, bam, and move on to the next hook up is more like it. And since these are the ONLY kinds of choices BioWare has put forward, whether they say it explicitly or not, it is an endorsement of the Hook Up lifestyle. Don't look for True Love because in Reality, it simply doesn't exist. Mr Right becomes Mr Right Now. There is no "The One" anyone was "meant" to be with.
As for the Chantry not being analogous to any Real Life religion, why is that? Sword & Sorcery Fantasy is usually loosely based on Dark Ages/Middle Ages European society with the aspect that Magic works, with all of the societal implications of that highly significant Given. It therefore follows that any resident religion would have generally similar policies, even if the specific details were drastically different. One of the foundation principles of most human religions is the idea that Mankind should "be fruitful and multiply". Homosexuality by its very nature deters that policy: humans don't make babies when cavorting with people of the same gender. At most, formal religions turn a blind eye towards homosexuality, and I can not think of _any_ that go so far as to endorse the practice. In societies like Ancient Greece, the Society may have readily tolerated homosexuality, but aside from party hard deities like Bacchus, most deities don't go so far as to say that it's a Good Thing. So Thedas being more or less analogous to Dark Ages Europe, I would expect a similarly analogous religion structure. Several have pointed out that the Chantry doesn't prohibit homosexuality, but is there anywhere that the Chantry _permits_ homosexuality? If neither policy is stated, it can NOT be safely concluded that the Chantry is pro or con on the subject. It's something that just has not been defined. Deliberately, I believe. If BioWare had declared one way or another on the subject, it would have alienated either homophobic customers if the Chantry boldly states, "We're fine with it" or homosexual customers that take umbrage at their chosen lifestyle being condemned. To a business, it's better to say _nothing_ than it is to take sides when such a decision WILL reduce Sales.
All this aside, the whole purpose of replaying DAO and DA2 proved to be a waste now that it has become impossible for me to log in to the Origin servers when starting DAI. If I want to play the game, I MUST use the Default World Setting. So Romance in the Default is, I believe, no love life for the hero, and this whole discussion is moot. Still, I just feel it would have been nice if BioWare had included some choices that weren't hopelessly emotionally and/or mentally scarred.