<Looks in mirror at beard. Looks in closet at my checked shirts. Looks at coat rack at my satchel> Wait a second......what are you insinuating?
I'm not quite sure why the OP keeps bringing up the gay KISA thread and then immediately back-pedaling that that thread is fine and should be allowed. There have not been any threads recently about the looks of the female LI's that haven't been insulting or suggest that there is a conspiracy against straight men that I can remember. It's not about the content of the thread; it's about the way that it's put forward. There is a thread open right now in the feedback section where the OP is asking for a straight female elf companion (actually, there are two of them). They have both been open for weeks and neither have been locked. Why? Because the OP's have started the threads without making it about "agendas" or insulting the looks of the female characters. Calm, rationale OP's tend to elicit calm, rationale responses. Not always. And people (including myself) are quick to jump on the overabundance of 'LI's for the straight male audience' threads because there have been, literally, dozens of them and they have almost all gone sour quickly (mostly for the reasons that I mention above).
Had the gay KISA thread started with, "Why does Bioware keep putting in sissy, feminine gay men who make all gay men look bad? We need to see real men for the gay LI's, not mincing queens like Dorian. Bioware is homophobic and the way that they create gay male characters shows that,I suspect that the thread would have been locked right away. But it wasn't. It was a well-written and thought out argument in favor of offering a different character type for that demographic. The posts in that thread that were deleted were few and far between and were against board rules.
For the record that's how my So dresses, so it was a joke at my own expense.
As for the other stuff you said, I love RuPaul. He is my philosopher. Right up there with Voltaire, really. He said that there is no subject you can't address and no word that cannot be used if you have the right intent.
Not everyone has the same level of eloquence or ability to articulate a topic the same way. I've noticed a certain propensity on here to treat a post like someone just handed in a motion or memorandum to a court of law. When I see that on a forum, see someone actually post in bold that something is their "own opinion and only anecdotal evidence" I know right away that people are getting beat down over legalism and rigorous expecations of formal debate.
On a politcal forum, that's okay I guess. This is a gaming forum. If games aren't fun why play them?
People for the sake of brevity will say make a generalization. We could argue all day if generalizations are evil or not, but I say its not a sin only a problem depending on who you're speaking to. Normally, you can tell by someone's mannerisms what they mean (if the intent is good) on a forum it's harder. Unfortunately, people assume the worst here not best from someone's words and I think that's a problem because it stifles dialogue that can promote good things.