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[LOLandStuff]

How.

Unless it's fun, there's no way a straight man would hit on another straight man.

 

I'm guessing he went to the wrong club.

[Xetykins]

Never heard more bs in a single phrase before.

You are purposely disregarding the rest of my post because....?

[WildOrchid]

Idk but it happens.

 

Maybe they were bi or gay.

You can't exactly guess anyone's sexuality until they hit on you or make it open.

[Laurelinde]

Gonna chime in and say the cat calling thing not cool, not sure if I got it worse where I lived cause I was an easy target (rarely spoke up kept to myself kind of person) or if this person talked to other people this way but I recall being used in sex jokes a lot while I was in the room and in ear shot and plenty of other things I'd rather not go into detail about (mostly due to it being so damn stupid it would be hard to believe) Though I've experienced something somewhat similar with women as well where when I had long hair strangers I never spoke to would come up behind me while I was waiting in a line and start to play with my hair while talking to each other. Though I will say there are some people that do enjoy that kind of attention I used to be friends with such a person though I still to this day fail to see how it can be flattering or fun in anyway. 

 

Wait are we even still talking about this? Topic moves quite quickly to many things maybe I should just stick to lurking on this one. >.>

 

Ha yeah this thread has gone some interesting places!  I definitely feel it is a major 'no-no' to ever touch someone without their permission (unless you are pushing them out of the way of a car or something!)  I love when people I know and trust play with my hair, but I don't like strangers touching it just randomly.  That's just very weird.

 

On the plus side moving into middle age and honing my 'touch me and I will break off a finger' face have helped in making me fairly invisible to catcallers now I think!  (Although I still seem to have a face that says, 'Yes, please ask me for directions and/or bus money because I am squishy and harmless.'  Sigh.)

[Colonelkillabee]

How.

Unless it's fun, there's no way a straight man would hit on another straight man.

You obvi don't know straight men, lol.

 

And what do you mean if it's fun? Isn't that always the intent, even if it isn't well received?

 

I got hit on by a dude before, with his girl friend as winggirl... it was disturbing for sure, but lol I took the compliment and went on...

 

Compliments a compliment really. They're nice.

[Colonelkillabee]

Maybe they were bi or gay.

You can't exactly guess anyone's sexuality until they hit on you or make it open.

There's a lot more gay dudes in highschool than straight then. Things aren't looking too good for humanity.

 

Never been in a lockerroom huh? LOL makes all that stuff about being uncomfortable around gay football players VERY ironic But yea, it happens. I always give them the eye like "....dude.... you're getting way too friendly with him, guy." But yea, Chuck is right, this happens all the time.

[Abyss108]

Never in my entire life have I met a women who thinks catcalling is nice... I mean, I'm sure somebody on this planet thinks so but ugh...

 

Having someone you don't know treat you like a piece of meat is not nice. Especially when they are larger than you, and you are alone. 

 

Its not a "compliment". Any guy doing it does not care about how it makes you feel.

[I present Chuck Bass]

Maybe they were bi or gay.

You can't exactly guess anyone's sexuality until they hit on you or make it open.

Nope straight guys hit on straight guys all the time. that's the lockeroom environment for you.

[Lebanese Dude]

Nope straight guys hit on straight guys all the time. that's the lockeroom environment for you.

 

Pretty sure my straight friends compliment and feel up each other's bodies while working out more than I do while out on a date.

[Colonelkillabee]

Never in my entire life have I met a women who thinks catcalling is nice... I mean, I'm sure somebody on this planet thinks so but ugh...

 

Having someone you don't know treat you like a piece of meat is not nice. Especially when they are larger than you, and you are alone. 

 

Its not a "compliment". Any guy doing it does not care about how it makes you feel.

Lol my mom annoys me with stories about guys doing this and checking her out all the time. She loves it, even if of course she doesn't directly say it.

 

Dunno, guess women in the south are less uptight. *shrug*

[HuldraDancer]

Ha yeah this thread has gone some interesting places!  I definitely feel it is a major 'no-no' to ever touch someone without their permission (unless you are pushing them out of the way of a car or something!)  I love when people I know and trust play with my hair, but I don't like strangers touching it just randomly.  That's just very weird.

 

On the plus side moving into middle age and honing my 'touch me and I will break off a finger' face have helped in making me fairly invisible to catcallers now I think!  (Although I still seem to have a face that says, 'Yes, please ask me for directions and/or bus money because I am squishy and harmless.'  Sigh.)

 

The hair thing for me was quite common I am not good with people so I froze like a deer in the headlights every time. No idea why those girls thought it was okay to braid and play with my hair but I was scrawny and there was around four of them so I didn't want to start anything and just went with the alternative and started skipping lunch to avoid it.  Not even sure how you handle something like that, someone pulling your hair I can respond to but no idea still how to react to strangers randomly braiding it and playing with it.  

 

I still look really young so no amount of 'b*tch face' helps in that regard and unless its in an area with some people I know I can't respond how I usually would since I'd probably get arrested (I lived in a more laxed area where hitting a guy for grabbing your ass three times in one day was fine obviously I can't do that in most other places)

[Abyss108]

Lol my mom annoys me with stories about guys doing this and checking her out all the time. She loves it, even if of course she doesn't directly say it.

 

Dunno, guess women in the south are less uptight. *shrug*

 

Right because feeling safe is being "uptight". Nice to know.

[Colonelkillabee]

Right because feeling safe is being "uptight". Nice to know.

Obviously within reason. I'm pretty sure you'd call this guy uptight:

 

 

 

Unless you think women should defs wear bubbles to avoid all those mean evil men complimenting their skimpy little skirt they totally didn't wear for attention. Yea that's not uptight at all.

[Colonelkillabee]

If anyone ever says Cassandra isn't ****** sexy after seeing this, you know they're a zombie or an alien:

 

 

 

 

[Xetykins]

Never in my entire life have I met a women who thinks catcalling is nice... I mean, I'm sure somebody on this planet thinks so but ugh...
 
Having someone you don't know treat you like a piece of meat is not nice. Especially when they are larger than you, and you are alone. 
 
Its not a "compliment". Any guy doing it does not care about how it makes you feel.

Well i sure as hell not going to dress like a nun, leave my my hair unwashed or go to work looking like a scruff in an attempt to hide from those catcalls. Noted, in the environment im in, I've probably heared 1 catcall in the 9 years I lived here. And that's in the middle of the afternoon. Not all attentions are bad. I cant be too focused dodging catcalls and totally miss celebrating my feminity and miss genuine appreciation.

Anyway that still does not explain a lot why people are against sexiness in game. The lack of female protags I understand, but then that's the reason I only play Dragon Age. But sexiness? I appreciate them. Except Isabella, because for all my celebration of feminity talks, no way im going out in public without my bloomers.

[Abyss108]

Well i sure as hell not going to dress like a nun, leave my my hair unwashed or go to work looking like a scruff in an attempt to hide from those catcalls. Noted, in the environment im in, I've probably heared 1 catcall in the 9 years I lived here. And that's in the middle of the afternoon. Not all attentions are bad. I cant be too focused dodging catcalls and totally miss celebrating my feminity and miss genuine appreciation.

Anyway that still does not explain a lot why people are against sexiness in game. The lack of female protags I understand, but then that's the reason I only play Dragon Age. But sexiness? I appreciate them. Except Isabella, because for all my celebration of feminity talks, no way im going out in public without my bloomers.

 

I'm not sure why you've quoted me as I've never said you shouldn't appear how you want to or called for sexiness to be removes from games.

 

You're lucky not to suffer catcalls. Good for you, I'm honestly happy for that. It doesn't take away from the people who do.

[Laurelinde]

Obviously within reason. I'm pretty sure you'd call this guy uptight:

 

 

 

Unless you think women should defs wear bubbles to avoid all those mean evil men complimenting their skimpy little skirt they totally didn't wear for attention. Yea that's not uptight at all.

 

I was wearing baggy jeans, a long flannel shirt and a big jacket on my way to a class at the museum when I got my ass talked about (it was the 90s, I'm old.)  Was I looking for attention from catcallers, too?

 

If not wanting to be reduced to a collection of body parts existing only for the amusement and arousal of men makes me uptight, then I am happy to be uptight as all hell.  Andraste H. Tapdancing Bride of the Maker. :/

[Master Warder Z_]

What's wrong with Blackwall's tarot card? Blackwall's the manliest dude in the group. Next to me, hehe.

Cassandra is the manliest dude in the group.

*nods*

[Colonelkillabee]

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Sigh, I didn't say women were all asking for attention, please don't start with that tired line and take what I said out of context.

[Laurelinde]

Sigh, I didn't say women were all asking for attention, please don't start with that tired line and take what I said out of context.

 

How's it out of context?  You said that women want catcalling and show it by the way they dress.  I pointed out that women get catcalled even when they are not dressed in anything remotely 'provocative'.

 

My point isn't that I was saying 'all women are asking for attention'.  My point was, we get it whether we are 'asking for it' or not.

[Xetykins]

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You're lucky not to suffer catcalls. Good for you, I'm honestly happy for that. It doesn't take away from the people who do.

In my homeland, its a common thing. So I've have had my tons of share. It's just that I don't let it bother me too much. I won't let those thugs change the way I carry myself.

[Colonelkillabee]

How's it out of context?  You said that women want catcalling and show it by the way they dress.

I said no such thing and I'm not entertaining this bullshit. Unless all women walk around dressed like prostitutes you defs should read through the previous posts again.

[I present Chuck Bass]

Right because feeling safe is being "uptight". Nice to know.

That's bieng  a little dramatic

 

How's it out of context?  You said that women want catcalling and show it by the way they dress.  I pointed out that women get catcalled even when they are not dressed in anything remotely 'provocative'.

 

My point isn't that I was saying 'all women are asking for attention'.  My point was, we get it whether we are 'asking for it' or not.

Poor women I tell ya. You know many women wouldn't agree with what you're saying.

[Uccio]

I was sexually harrassed at work. A female co-worker pressed her boobs against my back in the coffee room when we were alone. I actually didn´t know how to react to it, make a case with the boss for it or just stay quiet. I stayed quiet though, man thing. I might get ridiculed over it.

[Colonelkillabee]

That's bieng  a little dramatic

 

Poor women I tell ya. You know many women wouldn't agree with what you're saying.

 

Indeed. My mother dresses sensibly and to look good for her, and her alone. Yet she doesn't come home crying because someone gave her a compliment.