The controls of this game are bad and by that I mean how the character and tactical cam feels to control, not that you have to hold a mouse button to steer the camera.
As others have pointed out it's a very common thing in mmo's and saying you can't do it just boggles my mind. It's effortless to do.
You are 46 years old and have never played an mmo or any game with a control scheme like this.
Your reasons for not liking DA:O makes me sad too, you are supposed to issue commands to all your characters and play the game tactically. Does this mean you don't like turn based games either? never played the old wrpg classics? how about RTS or jrpg's? :<
The mouse controls were only one of my complaints, it's just the one that has gotten rehashed the most in this thread because people cannot seem to get their heads around the concept of someone never playing an MMO, RTS (or any of the other genres you mentioned). I come from a shooter background with some space sim, racing and platforming thrown in for fun. As I've mentioned numerous times already (people you really need to read before throwing blanket statements out) Im making the best of the game. I've never said I "couldn't do it" or wouldnt, just that it is clunky, annoying, constantly getting interrupted by the ability icons at the button of the screen and would be easily fixed for the masses that are used to action rpg controls rather than MMO controls. As I have also mentioned numerous times, I have no interest in games that take the control out of my hands. Games that force me to pause, assign a bunch of actions and then play out without my involvement (which is the key part) bore and frustrate me. Hence, I don't play them.

I do not require this mechanic to employ tactics, but if you do not come from a shooter background, that idea may be as alien to you as needing it is alien to me. The fact people cannot grasp or accept this, or anything that might be different from them, is something I'm finding increasingly more amusing. I ask for options and people just freak out. "Why? Why do you need different than what we find acceptable? Conform, just shut up and conform."
Uh, no.