Well he says they have a word for them and seems to imply the Qunari sees them as the gender they identify as. ("They ARE men.") Definitely not very in line with what Sten said.
Yeah I guess you're right. Probably just changed things around a bit then to bring the game into a more "We ♥ all our player minorities no matter what!" since DA:O.
That said, Iron Bull could single handedly convert me to his version of the Qun any day. But his version is definitely not the version, and Lord Marcus is quite right, Sten would probably off Iron Bull himself, even without him going rogue.
What could be considered "softening" of the Qun in DA:I, is that you could actually talk to people about the Qun's ideals. In DA2, as much as I was interested in the Qun, all you got out of the Arishok is, "It's too deep for you to understand."
As long as play mage characters and love them though, the Qun and I will just never work. :|